artcellrox wrote...
Honestly? If it were me, I wouldn't have taken the bitch back, and would have just let her suffer. She cheated while she was still in a relationship, and that's one of the worst things you can do in a relationship.
Like brgdragon said, you acted nice and forgiving, but you probably should have thought a little more on the matter. Sounds like the tramp would go back to that asshole soon.
This to a tee ^
Helpful questions of selfishness:
1. Can I trust her to not cheat on me again, given the current happenings?
2. Am I (you in this case) able to care for her if her ex does come back?
3. Am I able to support and nurture this girl and her child?
4. Am I ready to be a dad, even if the child is not mine?
5. Can I accept that I may always be in danger of her ex, and/or other exs?
6. Can I live with the fact that the child is not mine, and the real father may have some part in the childs life (meaning the ex will always be in the picture no matter what)?
IMO I wouldn't have taken her back. She broke your trust by:
A. sleeping with someone else
B. having unprotected sex with someone else
C. getting pregnant with someone else
D. not being honest with you
She has already taken you on an emotional roller-coaster ride. And if she's already gotten weak and gone back to her ex once, I don't really see what's stopping her from doing it again. My point is, I think that by letting her back in your life, you asking for trouble and heart ache. But like Lollikitty said, do make sure that if you do leave her, make sure she is safe with friends and family when you say goodbye (If that's what you do, because if not Kudos for being a brave!)