Faking Orgasms

Ahh, well, but there are several things that happens during a female orgasm that is noticeable. Trying to fool someone by moaning and squiggling a bit does not work. Besides, the point is not to necessarily feel when she has an orgasm, the point is to know when she actually Doesn't have one.

Quite honestly I feel as though a female orgasming is partially due to herself and not necessarily the guy giving her pleasure (though he's the one that got her up the hill). Many many girls don't orgasm and end up on that 'endless hill' where they can't get that build up to release. Whenever I feel like that I end up noticing I'm clenching my abdominal muscles and I literally have to concentrate on relaxing my body.

A lot of women don't let go and continue to clench clench clench and that in the end makes it so they can't orgasm.

I don't know if that makes sense or if any other girls would agree with that, however.

It is possible to fake. Kegel exercise. Some women have some serious control.

i would guess it also sometimes has to do with dudes who don't spend enough time on fore play. i usualy try to get 'her' off at least once during fore play, or at least really close.

Well I can't say that I never did it, no. It might sound wrong, but if you don't say anything during the act (little moans) he's going to think you're not getting off to him. And like what has been said: if nothing happens, it can be a downer for him, so it's okay if it happens once.

Though yeah, if it happens all the time, there's a little bit of trouble in your relationship. Guys can barely tell the difference between a sneezing girl and an orgasming girl, so how are they supposed to tell when preoccupied with sex?

I think the end justifies the means, sort of. If it's the first time and you're afraid he's not gonna get satisfied with you not having an orgasm, go ahead. He'll probably do better next time and you'll get there eventually.

Edit: I hope that all the answers me and ziggy and whoever have given don't make you angry, but the most important thing in sex is that you both had fun. If faking an orgasm makes you realize we both had that fun, it should be okay.

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I can't see why anyone would want to fake an orgasm. You are only ripping yourself off so to speak. Lying about it won't make things better next time. Honestly is the best way to go in these matters. That said you don't really have to have a full on vaginal orgasm to have a great time. Oh and my friend the clitoral orgasm. I honestly can't big this up enough. Its amazing :3

I think it's harder to get off masturbating cos then you are concentrating on achieving "end game" so to speak and its harder to lose yourself in it.


I think with this sort of thing practice makes perfect so get shilicking :3

I hate people with egos to fragile for constructive critisism. i hate passive agressive people who won't speak up about things they're unhappy with. i hate people who don't want to learn to do their job properly. to me, making my partner happy(not just in bed but in all things) is the most important job of all.


Other reasons i've heard for faking:
She wanted to feel close to her partner. i find that one more than a little disturbing. if you have to have sex when you don't really want to in order to feel close to your partner, there is something very wrong with your perception of relationships and/or love in general(call me old fasiioned, but i believe you should only have sex with someone you love).

She didn't really want to have sex, but didn't want to disapoint her partner. i don't mind if my partner doesn't want to do it with me, as long as she says something. that's what porn is for. i'd feel even worse if i made her do something she didn't want to do. that borders on rape IMO.


In the case of women not being able to achieve orgasm, i understand, but think professional help should be sought. i've known a few women who have never had an orgasm at all, even by them selves. i know that if i were impotent, i'd go find out why adn do everything i could to fix it. Fixxing men's sexual inability has become almost main stream. just look at all the commercials for pills, devices and herbal remedies. what ever happened to equal rights? "cowgirl* up", as they say. take matters into your own hands*.

It is definatley something that should be discussed. if you are not comfortable enough with your partner to even talk about it, you probably shouldn't be having sex with them in the fisrt place.


*[size=10]puns slightly intended[/h]

I agree with Kitten nyan, no point in faking orgasms, but I can understand girls who want to please their partners.

I don't do it cause I'm usually not very loud, even when I enjoy it, and if I don't, I just ask to change positions or something. I like being honest, even if the guy's ego suffers a bit, it also means he can tell me when he's not enjoying ;) I guess it's also based on how much trust there is between partners.

Faking orgasm only seems good if your only focus of sex is the end result, the orgasm.

That should not be the purpose of sex. I'm not saying that as some belief of love and what not, I mean you seriously do not feel as good having sex if you do that sort of focus.

Psychologically, you should have a more focus on working together and feeling the emotions of sex rather than "I need to get them to cum."

If you focus on this method, you will find that not only are you liking it better, but women tend to cum more often from this way as well.

But even ignoring that, you shouldn't be faking an orgasm anyways. If a man needs to make you have an orgasm every time during sex, then there is a whole lot more psychological issues than just pride.

And by doing that, you only help to serve those issue instead of working through them.

Once you leave the ridiculous notion that it is the male's "job" to get the girl off behind you, the very concept of faking it loses its meaning.

I am quite satisfied to live in a relationship where we both can be honest in bed. So what if once in a while it 'doesn't work' for one of us?* It's not the special olympics; it's sex.
If you can't stop lying even in the bedroom, then I feel quite sorry for your relationship.


*Yes girls, even guys don't have super-awesome climaxes every time :D D::D:D:D:D:D :D !

Hmmm, lie to him or tell him he sucks at sex... a delicate decision to be made.

Not trying to sound weird, but I'm too kind to downright tell somebody he sucks....

You don't have to tell him he sucks.

Just direct him in ways to make it better.

Warning, gross generalization: No matter how kind you are, men will ALWAYS take it the wrong way. lol

I know. >.>

wait a minute.

aren't women the ones that are suppose to always take things the wrong way.

WHEN DID WE SWITCH!

As a woman who loves to be pleased, I'll say this much: faking an orgasm is not worth it! If you're not really in the mood or if your partner is doing something odd, then tell them! Lack of communication is a key factor as to both why people are dissatisfied with their sex lives as well as why relationships crumble.

So...the next time your partner wants to do the deed and you don't feel like it? Tell the truth!

these were exactly my original thoughts when i made the poll. i guess i was over thinking it and got carried away.



to deal with this, use subtle suggestions of slight changes; "what if we tried blank?" or, "i heard blank could be fun". i learned this tactic from dealing with moronic bosses and 'experts' who assume they always know better than mere mortals. it works best if you can make them think the change was their idea.

also, thank you very much to all the ladies for providing their insights on the subjet.