Getting Rejected

LMAO! Getting ye first rejection is kinda.. embarrassing and of course painful, especially if you see the girl on the next day with a guy, laughing and her eyes sparkling at what he's saying which is prolly senseless. So, yeah..

I generally expect rejection, I mean I know what I'm like.
Normally it barely phases me, but the last one did because she really seemed to like me. Hell she asked me out!
We skyped a lot, talked alot, then we met and she couldn't have cared less about me and next day I said like two things to her (good morning and how are you) and we never spoke again.
She never messaged me as she did before and...yeah it hurt.
I can't figure out what I did wrong, she knew all my quirky interests, heard all my odd stories (and loved them), saw me in my silly hats, loved those too, she just... I donno... a friend told me she was boring and she didn't want to have me realize that.
Not that I cared, I already knew that, besides, mutual interests can be developed! I really liked her.

Just wasn't meant to be then. Doesn't sound like you did anything wrong, she just had her own reasons and handled things crappy. Life and people can suck like that sadly so hopefully the next person you meet will appreciate you more and be more considerate of your feelings.

I don't expect people to be considerate of my feelings...the worst part was I let myself get lulled into it, normally I keep my wits about me so when I get rejected it doesn't hurt.
I let myself believe where I shouldn't have.

I'm just glad I've never become a fedora wearing "nice guy" *shudder*
I really hate dating though. I mean I really hate it, I hate falling for people, I hate all the feelings that come with it (its not positive).
I mean most girls I liked I never told because...well in school I was unpopular and they hated me, one of my friends I liked but she called me an anorexic for...no real reason and...I generally dislike having her around me.

I don't look at love as a "lulled in" sort of fashion since everyone wants to be loved in some way, shape or form. Maybe deep down you wish to be loved? Won't assume though, I don't wish to cross any sensitive boundaries lol. Can't deny that it hurts to get rejected (especially when it's a shitty rejection), but it's worth it when you find the right person.

If you ever wish to try again at some point, I wish you the best in finding someone nice (^^)

Also your one friend was shitty for the anorexic comment. I use I get it myself (I had a dancers body and a really high metabolism) and it use to suck getting called the stick figured freak by guys. Just rationalized that if they acted like that with me then they probably aren't for me.

I was embarrassed the first time I got rejected. I was friendzoned. I didn't feel sad nor relieved. I was shocked because all my fantasies and dreams with her vaporized. And then I saw her with her first boyfriend who confessed shortly after me. I felt like I lost a lottery that I would never buy a ticket again.

Funny thing is, she really liked me 5 years later and wanted me to confess again or at least make the first move. I didn't do it because I wasn't in love anymore

Pretty shitty. Best thing to do in that situation is to keep yourself busy whether its by watching porn hanging out with friends or chatting with your fellow F! members. (:

Pretty shitty. Best thing to do in that situation is to keep yourself busy whether its by watching porn hanging out with friends or chatting with your fellow F! members. (:

Getting rejected used to hurt, these days I just think "your loss."
Being put in the friendzone is even worse. Nothing's worse than seeing the girl you're crazy about with somebody else. To spare the agony, when it's over it's over.

The first time I was rejected... It took a while to get back in shape mentally. I changed my ways from that point on and every rejection from that point on just became a mental note of what not to do.

for some its ok and move on but i hade one were it really hurt inside i walked away as any other but when i was alone i let it out and took it really hard and for some reason it was hard to eat for a week

I try not to take it personal. Recently I approached a girl in hopes of asking her out. We talked for a bit, she was really nice but in the end she turned me down since she was taken. So we just said our goodbyes and I went on my merry way. Learning not to take rejection to heart isn't easy, but I guarantee it helps.

Before I used to go "eh, whatever" but this last one did sting a bit. While it did take me roughly a day(or two, can't exactly remember) it still hurt a tad.

According to a friend of mine she says she'd rather have me as a friend, which obviously didn't sit well with me at first, but it's either that or act like an ex-buddy of mine and cut her off completely, so friends it is.

I dunno, it could change(although I don't expect it to). If it happens, cool. If not, then I still got friends and fighting games and other potential girlfriends in the world.

At first I made this face :(
But now I make this face I just don't really care as much now
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i would always take it bad because i was never a player and im very picky when it comes to women so i never asked to many women out. i got over it by going around with my friend in the mail we would hang out at the skate shop and just ask random girls out and it helped getting over rejecting.

I'm pretty ok with being rejected, it's something that just happens. What I dislike is the way I am sometimes rejected. That whole letting them down softly "junk" is what makes me angry since I don't like having my time wasted, not being rejected itself.

(edited since I don't know if we are allowed to swear.)

I got used to being rejected, so it's more difficult for me to be the one to reject.

ive been rejected a lot. it comes with the territory. it's not like i was surprised or anything that i was rejected. as a middle schooler/high schooler nobody liked me all that much. i was just that nerdy, boring, meh-looking asian washboard. i think it just felt normal. like it was supposed to happen. it might have something to do with my 2-3 confessions all being towards straight girls even though i already knew the answer was no. and the guys in my middle school and high school were idiots. douchebag idiots. so i never confessed to any of them.

Unwanted. Without meaningful worth.

It's always hurtful. It's especially embarrassing and sad when it's completely dismissive. I've tried online dating and that's the worst - like there's not even an acknowledgement that you're a human being.

I like the "I have a boyfriend" excuse in person, because then it gives me an out, other than an implied no
- you're ugly and creepy. Lol. ;p

One thing I'll suggest, advice I have a hard time following myself... is put yourself out there and ask everyone (assuming appropriate situation/context). This goes for girls too, seriously, ask us out, a lot of us are too stupid to get the subtle hints. =)

The fewer people you try and ask out, to be with (either emotionally or sexually) the more significant each rejection is. Especially if it comes after a long time of being single. IMO of course.