Yukito-kun wrote...
I found out THIS MORNING that she wasn't on birth control, my mistake for assuming she was, but in that situation assuming that she was rational I thought she was on it, an IUD, depo shot, daily pill, weekly pill, monthly pill, something, also finding out this morning that this is her ovulation time made matters worse... I took to many assumptions and I'm rectifying them now, I simply want to know if effectively killing this possible zygote before it gets a chance to develop is justified... I'm not going to make the and mistakes again and trust me I know how stupid it was, I can't do anything about it now but either accept the possibility that I might become a father or figure out a way to ensure that it doesn't have a chance to grow... I'm beating myself up about this more than any of you are (and if not then clearly you need to focus on getting your own life because nobody should care more about my life than their own) Anyway I do feel I need to clarify one thing, if I'm even a second late on pulling out I consider it for all intensive purposes "inside", even if it's just a drop I consider it inside... if my DNA is left inside of her regardless of how little it is it's inside from my perspective... Just tell me if you were in my shoes would you destroy it under the assumption that "there's noting in there and even if there is both components would have individually died..." or would you step up because of your on careless assumptions and accept the possibility of your fate?
It sounds like there may be some trust issues going down. Did she SAY she was on anything or did you assume she was?
Also, keep in mind that yes, in this situation, you probably don't want the child (rightfully so...) that she has a say in the matter.
TALK to her about this. If you think she is pregnant, SHE should be the person you turn to, not Fakku.
I see that she has said she would keep the child... you want to somehow prevent this?
MAKING HER BEGIN BIRTH CONTROL, SMOKE AND DRINK are NOT going to do that.
If anything, they will harm the child and affect its development severely, not kill it altogether. Do not attempt such a plan, because if she chooses to actually have the kid, it will be in a world of hurt all its life.
On the matter of actually having the kid... sorry pal, but when you impregnate a woman, it becomes a decision for both of you, but largely for the person who has to carry the child to term. In this case, that's your fiancee... and it seems like she wants that.