what happened to her?

So my ex and I had a "mutual" break up. Anyways to get over her I started writing a comic book about breaking up to help me get over her. anyways it became about 80 pages long and I think it is pretty good (everybody that read it likes it). So I decided this is what I want to do with my life so I quit my job and decided to focus on making this comic because it is what I enjoy (I'm not worried about finances since I am still a full time art student graduating in 2 semesters, living with my parents and going to be able to work part time as a subsitute teacher). So last thursday I show her the finished rough draft just to make sure she is cool with her portrayal. She only saw it one time a couple months ago before it was done and really liked it. This girl has a contract she wants me to sign, saying she wants 25% of any profits this comic with her likeness makes. I tell her if she wants anything like that she needs to be my business manager, editor and do other jobs, which she agrees to and we signed the new contract.

Anyways even after a couple days of exchanging emails before starting to work on this project we had a big falling out. She called me a piece of crap moocher, manchild. I said all she cares about is money, She says she has never been more happy without me. blah blah blah. now it looks like we are never going to talk to each other again.

I'm thinking of posting the email conversations so everybody can get an idea of who she is now. I just don't understand how she became how she is. She used to be my best friend and care about me. I mean her reasoning behind getting 25% of the profits was because she was the inspiration for the story and that I am not emotionally creative enough to come up with a good story. I remember it was only a couple months ago, I gave her paintings and wrote her short comics that she loved and cherished. This was a person I lived with for a year and things were great. once we decided to move back from school, we both moved home with our respective parents because her parents would not approve of us moving in together (we kept us living together a secret from them). I think when she moved back home that's where things between us changed. She stopped going to school and started working for her emotionally abusive dad who constantly berates her and her family at and away from work. A normal dinner at her house (I used to eat with them twice a week) he would watch TV or be playing golf all day while my ex and her mom would either cook or clean and then when dinner comes around he would say the food is crap and usually would not eat it.

I'll post the emails in my next post and you will get the idea. My question is how can she change into such an unhappy person so fast? last time I saw her she had bags under her eyes and did not look that great. It feels like no matter what, there is noting I can do to help her. is it all my fault or is she just going through a lot? Is it time to just give up on her? Is the girl I knew gone?

Why would you sign a contract like that.

With an ex no less.

You're retarded.

edit: As for the other part.

People act different ways to different people. The way I act to my mother is different than my wifey is different than my coworkers etc.

So unless you are with someone a lot for a long time, you'll likely only see one part of them.

People don't really change, you just end up seeing more to them than you were able to before.

So now that you're no longer her luv luv, she's treating you like she would an enemy almost. Which is why you are shocked about the change.

It's not that the girl you knew is gone. You just never fully knew her.

I don't know. even when we broke up we agreed to stay as friends and the last couple of times I saw her it was honestly pretty pleasant. I dated her for 2 years I thought I knew a lot about her but apparently I was dead wrong.

Heh. It can take almost a decade to really comfortably know someone.

And you still won't know everything.

And that's if you were in a really serious relationship. It can take awhile to actually get into the point in a relationship where you start to feel comfortable enough to really know each other.

As far as the contract goes. It kind of depends on how it is written. If it was written that she agreed to work on it as an editor, and is now refusing to. That is a breech of contract and would nullify it.

Yeah. thanks for the advice. I was thinking this contract would be nullified because she did not live up to the expectations of the job.

I've been starting to think lately what's the point of even getting in a relationship? Chances are even if they say they like you for who you are after a while they usually just end up hating the things that define you and try to change you. This was my first relationship with someone. I guess I was naive to think that if I worked hard, treated her nice and be true to myself everything would work out. That was a big fuck up on my part.

First off. Your thought process about relationship seems to still be in the high school phase of things.

It's the idea that love is all you need in a relationship.

Haha. While you need love, that's not all you will need in it. And while you shouldn't change who you are for a relationship, you will need to learn to compromise if you wish to be in one.

Sometimes things don't work because they don't work out and there wasn't anything to do about it. It's sad, it'll hurt. But you need to be willing to try again. Is there a cute girl that you seemed kind of interested in? Just go right up to her and ask her out to dinner or something something. You're not in that confessing stage shit anymore. You'll learn if you like someone not by 'admiring them from afar' but by actually dating and trying to see if there is intimacy.

Only go more into a serious relationship if you feel there is a chance for things to work out in the long run.

But be prepared for a few crazies.

Causes bitches be crazy.