What makes a bad seperation?

So I was just curious, what makes a break up a bad one? Is it the fact that you both had a fight? you didn't agree on things? or she cheated and you left with a sour taste in your mouth?

I'm just curious, as i've seen people saying they had a bad break up, and yeah, was just curious what makes a bad break up.

Feel free to post up any stories if you wish, or just say a scenario or what not

I think it's just a bad relationship, if one doesn't communicate with the other and ignores the other, it can lead to an ugly end and possibly the end of communications between both people.

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A bad break-up is basically one where there is a lot of negative emotions involved and still being generated for quite some time and the people involved let those negative emotions get the better of themselves.

That is fair enough.

it just made me wonder.. as i'm sure different people have different meaning et

Never had any breakup before (Hell, I've only been with one girl since I was just a snotty brat), so I can't really say anything... but wouldn' some of those NTR scenarios can be classified as 'bad breakup'?

That would be true... you'd know about the cheating, and it'd fill your heart with hate and sorrow and other various emotions..

And strangely, those stuffs makes me hard the most... in hentai only.

Of course, of course. If it happened irl, shit would get real

Shit wouldn't just get real shit would BE real.

DAYM. Somebody said it. took a while..

But anybody care to share any experiences? or should i just leave this as is and be like 'well, cool. I get you, it usually happens when communication is non-existant, and bitches be bitchin'

Personally I've never had a bad break-up. I've always made the effort to clear everything up after it's happened so there isn't any lingering resentment. That being said, there were times when my then-ex would be breaking down in tears and such, so you could call that bad. Again though, never had one that I would call bad.

Yeah.. fair enough man..

My worst would have to be my now-ex cheating on me three times at a party... wasn't very happy..

I think.. a bad breakup is a breakup that doesn't bring proper closure.

I think it's healthiest to leave a relationship knowing that you tried your best, the reasons why 'your best' didn't matter anyways, and that the relationship is completely over. Permanently.

Proper breakups don't necessarily have to be 'amicable', and they certainly don't have to be 'explosive'. Proper breakups are just real, proper ends. Something you can learn and move on from.

I think cheating its a big reason to a bad break up. Also, when the couple can't stand each other anymore and the fights are neverending, but they won't accept its over and keep it up until they hate each other.

A hurtfull break up is when your bf/gf stops liking you with no obvious reason or they leave to be with someone else. Fall in love with other person.. Stuff that really hurts if you're conmited in the relationship.

both of the above are very good points ^^

A bad separation is not described by the way how separation was made,
but the events after that. If there are no peace, and/or you didn't became friends after the break-up, or at least, didn't talk to each other
that is a bad one.

There's a multitude of possible scenarios for a bad break up. Here are a few examples from my own experiences:

#1 Only being with someone so use them as a rebound - First off, the one I experience the most. When starting a new relationship with someone while fresh from a breakup, bringing up your ex on occasion is more than likely going to happen, especially when you have nothing bad to say about them. From personal experience, every girl who has used me as a rebound (without my knowledge at the time) and broke up with me got back with their ex a week later. That leaves a rotten taste in your mouth, especially when in every case, their families and friends liked me.

#2 Cheating - Pretty much following the point above, if someone you're with is still hung up on their ex, they could quite easily go back to them and sleep with them without your knowledge. Breakups could ensue from either side of the arguement, depending on whether or not the cheater admitted his/her mistake. If you break up with someone without telling them that you cheated, they'll blame themselves and be left to forever wonder what the fuck happened.

#3 Lying about getting pregnant - Again, following from the first point, lying about getting pregnant is a cruel way way to break up with someone. At the time I didn't know it was a lie, but I was willing to support them (on seperate occasions, obviously) through it all. The first one cut off all contact, and two years later she spoke to me again, and told me it was all a lie. The other one just plain hates me for no reason. When I found out both times, it completey crushed me. At the time I didn't think anyone would be so cruel to do that.

#4 Breakup over text - The worst thing to do is to break up with someone by text. Just because.

#5 Being a control freak - is fine sometimes, someone's got to wear the trousers. But when there's absolutely no communication at all about what the other party is "doing wrong", all that will ever happen is arguement after arguement, it's never going to last long.

Thinking about it now, I am amazed I'm still hoping for a long lasting relationship in the future.

QFT, purely for the fact that this sums up the last relationship I had. I gave my heart an soul, just to be ignored and put down. We still work at the same company, and it causes a lot of conflict between staff when he goes on one of his mad rants (which are all apparently my fault when I don't even talk to him at work). I have no remorse or regrets, but he feels the need to bring his problems (whatever they may be) to work and blame me for the outcomes.

but others raise similar points that are very true and I agree that there are many ways to break up and very rarely have good outcomes I believe.