How volatile do you consider yourself emotionally?

google tells me volatile = liable to change rapidly and unpredictably. (just to clarify what I'm working with)

let's be a boob and consider another keyword in this question "yourself"

not to get into it too much, but i think there is a difference between someone's emotional status and how they choose to express it

so how you see yourself, internally / externally (emotions you feel and express respectively) is how I will answer xD

internally = I think everyone has buttons that shouldn't be pushed - that will result in a rapid change in emotion/mood. = I think everyone has something that will make their emotions volatile

Externally = depends on person, and since the question is directed to me, I like to try to keep myself as composed as possible. I don't like over expression of emotions except in anime xD (especially in high school, when kids who usually get %90 on tests one day get %85 and bawl to the teacher.. /cheeseface)

so externally/in terms of expressing, I try to not be volatile ;p

I get pissed and snap pretty easily sometimes. I can't find a good reason for it, sometimes I just get super pissed. That said, I'm used to dealing with stressful situations, so that's just about the only time I get noticeably angry.

A lot of people with varying degrees of volatility. I wasn't sure if I'd find people who struggle with something identical to my circumstances. But yeah, I always have to suppress a certain degree of dormant energy. Not just emotionally, but physically as well.


I'm not particularly adept at controlling both physical energy and emotional energy at once. I'm either full of energy and less in control, or I'm tired and composed. Releasing too much of either energy types at once can break my focus at keeping myself restrained. I've been afraid of what I could do to people if my restraint mechanism were to ever fail, or not be enough to hold all that pressure back. Thus, I keep a low profile to avoid incident.


It's also why half of me desires a girlfriend for company and affection, but the other half is afraid of what I could do to her; that I might inflict unintentional harm upon her during a loss of control episode. I wouldn't want to hurt someone who could be that close to me, and being with someone like that can implicate the possibility of having children as well. And with that being said, I will NOT take the risk of passing my "curse" onto an otherwise healthy descendant; that would be cruel beyond my ability to inflict.


My grandfather had the same two psychological conditions I currently struggle with, but his was far less severe than mine. Simply through genetic chance and the fact he had those conditions, his daughter; my mother, passed that chance onto the only child she had with my birth father, me. I inherited the dual condition, with a far greater intensity than my late grandfather.


My case was somewhat fortunate; I was diagnosed between the ages of 2 and 5, so treatment began during my most critical development stages. In this sense, I was spared a far greater amount of difficulty that many other people can be subjected to under the same prerequisites.

I don't know if this was ever a part of your sessions, but it is not healthy to repress or constrain anything. Repression of any form of physical or emotional energy will only make it that much worse when it comes out and believe me it will come out.

You need to identify what your triggers are for these emotional episodes. Once you identify what your triggers are then you need to acknowledge them as your triggers. Once you identify and acknowledge the triggers you can finally start to work on making them easier to deal with.

I will use myself as an example for this. I have a degree of anxiety with social interaction. I use to get so panicked about going out shopping even just for small things such as grocery shopping. I became so distraught that it was hard for me to leave my house without feeling like I was gonna melt down. It took me some time to realize why this was my trigger, but once I realized and acknowledged it I began to talk to a trusted friend as well as my physician. I finally realized that this wasn’t such a big deal and that no one gives two shits about you when you are out and about. I eventually stopped worrying about it and I can go out shopping just fine now.

The biggest reason you cannot repress and constrain emotions is not because of the triggers (though they are good to know since they set you off), rather you start to develop fears and anxiety over the thought of letting it happen. You say that you are afraid of what could happen if you let loose? It is silly to be afraid of something that hasn’t happened yet. Even if you have had things happen before by letting loose, it was because you built it up so much beforehand that it became a bigger mess then it should have. I can say this, because I have done the same thing myself.

I would say to talk to someone you trust about all of this and to start dealing with your emotions differently, because I can guarantee that the way you are handling things now will not turn out well for you.

Also I wouldn’t worry about a partner at the moment. Regardless whether you are with someone or not, you have to be strong and deal with your own problems. Partners can sometimes help you through the hard times, but they can’t solve your problems for you (if you depend on them too much, you are only hurting them and could eventually burn out). Also, if they aren’t a great partner to begin with they can only hurt you further. We all have our own issues to deal with and we have to stand on our own two feet and fix them ourselves. When we put in our own effort to change ourselves, then a little leaning on others along the way is fine. But for now, keep working on yourself until you can get to that point.

Regardin that precedent thread, I would bet those triggers may come from the past.

Also :


I would like to add that even a good/great partner shall turn into a bad/harmful one if you aren't a good partner for her/him.

You have to fix you before relying on others.

It wouldn't be so much a "reliance" if I found a partner, so much as a means to help me see the "light", if that makes sense.


As for talking about it, trust me, I HAVE. Probably too much in fact; my friends and family are mostly unsure about how I'm dealing with the problems. They already know the details, so talking any more than I have is just going to bother them. And yes, I've seen several therapists, and they've only helped a little. They alleviated a small amount of discomfort, but the feeling always came back with additional pressure.


I know what triggers me, how much is needed on a given day to snap me, and what days are generally "safe" to venture out into the world. I've begun to see my social assistance worker again, so that's been helping again. It doesn't solve my trigger fear, but at the very least, I'm not spending 100% of every week shut inside my house. Talking to him also helps a small bit, and he plays video games with me as well, so that's a HUGE bonus (only my two younger brothers play video games of my scope along with myself, my parents are only browser-game folks).


For the most part, if I must live with this mindset that has me looking at the world through a pair of sunglasses, I will simply find constructive, helpful ways to channel my negative energies. Just as a recent example, I HATED the whole SOPA issue in the US, and I live in British Columbia (the furthest province west in Canada, the first one you'll hit if you crossed the border from Washington state). When I caught wind of those copyright folks attempting to get it passed again, I took a look at the petition site. Nowhere is it mentioned that only US citizens are allowed to put a signature forward. Yeah, I put mine the instant that "loophole" was made clear, and I'm glad I did.

The same : you're relying on someone to help for whatever, instead of shedding light yourself.




Because therapist can't work in your place, thus they can't solve your problems in your place. Once you'll figure it out, you'll come to understand and resolve, even one by one or altogether, your problems.




You may know some triggers of yours but you may also ignore some others.
Don't lose sight of once you know your triggers, you also have to work for dealing with them. Managing as many triggers as (im)possible would go for the better.




I don't get that "channelization" nor where it would supposedly lead. Are you trying to tame yourself or something like that ?

You better should avoid to trigger some "negative energies" by handling those triggers. Learn a lot, it's helpful.




To begin with, it's normal foreigners aren't allowed to mess-up with a country law matter. You wouldn't like other people to decide in your place what laws would rule British Columbia, so same go for american-united-stateser. Don't confuse with international accords such as A.C.T.A.. You should gather more pieces of information instead rushing blindly ahead.

I think I will suggest this for you then.

1) Big thing you need to do is find ways to let out these emotions in proactive ways. Keep yourself busy with a lot of different activities so you don't have time to feel mad or sad about some things. Try taking different classes (such as cooking or dancing), start working out, go get some sun, go to the library, play sports, paint, go see a movie, go hiking, swim, or get more into religion if you are religious at all. Finding ways to occupy your time gives you less time to over think things.
Note: talking about them is one thing, actually dealing with them and changing them is another. If you feel like you've talked things to death, then start to look at the bigger picture. Why do I feel this way? What do I need to do to change this?

2) Become happy with being by yourself. I know it would be ideal to have someone in your life at the moment, but you need to think about a partner in a different light. When you get involved with another person and they truly care about you, they want you to be happy and healthy. So make it a goal for yourself to improve on the things you need to work on so that you can have a happy and successful relationship. This doesn't mean that you have to be 100% before you can get a partner. You just need to realize that it doesn't matter the things you do for them, rather what it is that you do for yourself.

3) If you don't take medication, talk to your physician. If you find that medicine hasn't worked in the past then maybe find another physician that you can talk to and get their perspective on things. Never hurts to get a second opinion.

Also, don't let a diagnosis be the end of you. Sure you maybe be diagnosed with whatever, but that is no excuse for anything. I use to blame everything bad on my anxiety. Once I stopped using it as an excuse and started to fix myself, I stopped even relying on the word. I am who I am and I am damn proud of it.

I already get what you're telling me Misaki, and trust me, the relationship would be for the companionship and affection values, not as an outlet or solution for my "problems".


And as for you, Fligger, SOPA would have had international implications on a MASSIVE scale. So before you go telling me that I'm "rushing in blindly", go do YOUR research, and spare me some grief in explaining it myself. And if you cannot understand the concept of "channelling", then we are through talking. It's quite clear that you do not understand, nor grasp how I have been dealing with things, and what steps I've taken to make them manageable, despite what I've already told you.

Don't bother people around you. It will only complicate your life and worsen in the same time any relationships and your problems.

Do one task at once, it's better than drooling with jealousy/envy over other things you're not in the right state to reach right now.

A bit harsh to swallow but keep in mind people already have a mountain of their own problems, what they don't like to increase with others' problems such as yours -- excuse me for being straight forward but Life works like this.




You should take information about what's going on in your country/state then vote, act, do anything you can in your country.

Don't suppose I was turning a blind eye toward foreign policy, but once again there are way and things you may act and others you may not. For example George W. Bush Jr has just mess up international policy and national policy a bit too if what I've learnt is true. But it was neither for you to act nor for any foreigners, because it was the USAers' choice and only their choices count in that area. If you can't bear with it to the extent to try meddle with their national policy, you're no better than terrorists.




Don't misunderstand. I know how to use channelization and such. And above all : why and when.

I also know when, why and how to deal differently.

Plus you're far to know if any reader here has gone through worse than you -- a polite way to say there are lot of transparent indications pointing to that direction. People on Fakku don't come to do your therapy, nor do their own if needed. They come to have fun, a break, something to enlight their day.

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Guess what ? The way those two threads turn make me think you weren't even aware about your true feelings and intentions when posting them. It feels like psychological denial, but your true colors always show through this shortly after.

Once again, you seem to seek people approval. Once again, there's nothing here to save you.

I'm empathetic to a fault. I feel hurt and I feel sadness when I see it in others, quite strongly. Might also explain why I'll be the first to cry during a sad scene in anime or have that stupidly-giddy smile on, when great moments happen.

Internally, however, i feel no negative emotions. I honestly never feel sad, or depressed, or angry, or spiteful. I can be as happy and cheerful as can be, but unwanted/bad emotions are not felt. Family members die, people are in accidents, tests/classes are failed, pets pass on... absolutely nothing felt and I just shrug and move on.
To all my past girlfriends, I might like them and say words, but I say them half-heartedly. Eventually I find something about them I don't like and instantly lose any and all interest, quickly breaking things off while they're expecting it to last forever.

To be honest, it's great! But with a hint of uneasiness. I don't feel unnecessary pain or anger over things and I move on very quickly. But that also carries on into my past relationships too... I've always had the thought in my mind of, "i wonder how long til I get tired of this relationship too." Right now, I'm actually dating a girl who - for the first time - I actually want to stay together with, forever being idea to us both. I just hope my tendency to "move on" doesn't come back to bite me in the ass this time around.

I'm fairly stoic. I never cry during movies/anime or even when I'm reading an extremely emotionally distressing book. Hell I've even tried to cry but I just don't feel enough for anything to come out.

When it comes to social interactions, I tend to keep my opinions on things to myself. My main pet peeves (arrogant 'lads' and racists) make me pretty damn angry but I never really let it show. That said, the very rare instances where I do display my anger I can become almost dangerous. I once snapped at school and threw a metal chair at a kid's face, which looking back could have done some serious damage to him. So I'd say I'm generally not volatile at all, but once I get pushed beyond my (very high) threshold then I wouldn't advise anyone to go near me.

I consider myself stable, I don't have mood swings, depression, and I don't get angry easily. The thing that only made me once really upset is the day my cat died a couple years back. I still miss him.

I've always been able to contain myself to an extent for most of my life, but I do find myself getting extremely angry or rageful over trivial things lately. I fear that my anger will take over me one day and ill do something ill regret...the dark side is taking over me.

I've lived in that position up until recently for the past 15 years at least. I just cut Strattera out of the prescription meds I take so I can function properly, and I've noticed significant, rapid improvement over the past week. I actually just finished doing some MAJOR cleaning up of my room (you literally couldn't see portions of the floor anymore below the trash), and my mood has been, according to Mom, more "chipper".


Time is the greatest healer and grants the greatest enlightenment if you are willing to be tenacious for the duration. Keep walking, and continue forward in your life, even if it's small steps for a while. Every bit of progress is worthy, :)

I'd consider myself volatile when it comes to feeling sad and the like, but as for anger... not so much. Even if I'm really angry and upset I'll put down my phone carefully and take off my glasses and set them in my glasses case gently. It's probably because I consider the monetary worth to be more worth paying attention to than 10 seconds of gratification from breaking something (although I can throw things (to a safe location) if they're old and worthless to me).

Hmmm Volatile... I always find myself weird for being angry at something so trivial and when others are having a hard time it is on those times i laugh. I am always trying to control myself but there would be time where i would forget to control myself.

I get really depressed when people don't stop to listen to me, or when I think of the fact that I am a virgin/am not in a relationship, which is easy, because I have aspbergers, and make random connections to other thoughts, fast.

I am also a very angry person, if you don't address me respectfully, or are rude, I will be piissed, and will usually threaten to break legs, or step on / tear out your throat ETC.

I also hate everybody, I feel like an outcast, and feel like I'm ostracized for the fact that I exist, if you sit me down, I am quite nice, but people never go that far.

I am actually a dual sufferer of Asperger's and ADHD myself, and it wasn't that long ago that I shared that exact mindset of yours. The only thing I can tell you since I don't know you in person, is keep walking forward. Whether slow, brisk, or in bursts, just be certain that your overall outcome has you moving forward.

I often get emotional when people ignore me or be a massive asshole, but when I'm in my daydreaming mood and I think of something sad, I get sad to the point where I don't want to talk and all my motivation is gone.

I do feel like an outcast in school (because almost 95% of the year hates me, long ass story) and I probably only have 6 people I care about in that (one is my brother)

My Aspergers makes me feel like shit sometimes i.e (i'm not good enough, everyone hates me, why even try talking to people) and I hate socializing with people; especially new people. I often talk to myself, bored or not and just wander off and think about imaginary characters in my head

At home, I'm cool and stuff, gets boring though because I really don't know my neighborhood and I don't like talking to people so yeah.