Respecting your elders

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You should not generalize a whole group of people. That counts for earning respect, too. As prevoiously stated by other Fakkuers, respect is earned.
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Personally, I believe respect is something that is earned. It can be earned through actions, such as saving someone's life, and living through difficult circumstances and coming out stronger for it. Age in of itself is NOT a reason to be respected, because, as NEXUS said, the person could have done nothing but horrible things their whole life, which is not worth respecting. That would be like respecting a 40 year old weed.
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Misaki_Chi Fakku Nurse
Wrote in here before, but now I am writing again to get this one off of my chest:

Spoiler:
My last living grandparent has become my families worst nightmare. She as belittled and put my mother's face into the dirt with her words, tried to physically beat her, has cursed out my father and has told all of us to fuck ourselves and go to hell. By the way, she has Alzheimer's and dementia to which my family and I have tried to help her with this process since she is not able to drive anywhere(tries to though) or do the basic activities of daily living for herself. She has called the cops on us multiple times, has tried to hurt my mother for attempting to try and get on medication saying that she isn't sick and doesn't need it (stopped eating and tried to beat my mother because she suspected there to be medicine in her food and drinks).... though all of this we have tried to get legal power of attorney over her since she doesn't seem to grasp the severity of her situation only for them to say, "well she's sick, but she isn't sick enough for you to do that. Just wait till she is a vegetable (they seriously said this to us) sorry and good luck." No nursing home will willingly take her because we don't have the money for it and half of them don't want to deal with her combative attitude (she seriously tried to knife some facility). The state also wants to step in an arrest my mother for, "not being a good civilian in helping her mother out." Oh and lets add some icing on this cake shall we, the neighbors want to swindle her place from her to rent it out (they have done this to their own place mind you) and the rest of my family couldn't care less to help out and bitch my family out for not doing a good job in all of this....


Tl;dr - respect is earned as everyone as said and you don't have to give two fuckin shits about a person when they are too arrogant and ignorant of anything you try to do for them when they need it.
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Respect is earned period, doesn´t matter how old you are.
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I just got to ask what is respect?

I am nice to older people and help them if needed, but I do it out of a kindness and not cause I respect them.
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The elderly have earned the respect they deserve by living lives far longer than any one of ours. It's only natural to respect someone with greater knowledge and experience than oneself I guess. I'm having trouble covering my own ass to begin with and yet the elders supported their families for who knows how long. That in itself is something that deserves utmost respect.

There are exceptions to everything though.
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pspkiller626 wrote...
The elderly have earned the respect they deserve by living lives far longer than any one of ours.


And what kind of respect they deserve simply by living long?


pspkiller626 wrote...
It's only natural to respect someone with greater knowledge and experience than oneself I guess.


Long age doesn't equal great knowledge. Long age doesn't equal great experience on everything. One of the reasons elders need our help is because they have no clue how todays technology works.


pspkiller626 wrote...
I'm having trouble covering my own ass to begin with and yet the elders supported their families for who knows how long. That in itself is something that deserves utmost respect.

There are exceptions to everything though.


Yes, elders who support their families have done something to earn respect, but if you think every single elder does that then you are wrong. The point here is that the year that is on your passport doesn't determine the respect you get or deserve, your actions and character determines that.
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Coconutt wrote...
pspkiller626 wrote...
The elderly have earned the respect they deserve by living lives far longer than any one of ours.


And what kind of respect they deserve simply by living long?


pspkiller626 wrote...
It's only natural to respect someone with greater knowledge and experience than oneself I guess.


Long age doesn't equal great knowledge. Long age doesn't equal great experience on everything. One of the reasons elders need our help is because they have no clue how todays technology works.


pspkiller626 wrote...
I'm having trouble covering my own ass to begin with and yet the elders supported their families for who knows how long. That in itself is something that deserves utmost respect.

There are exceptions to everything though.


Yes, elders who support their families have done something to earn respect, but if you think every single elder does that then you are wrong. The point here is that the year that is on your passport doesn't determine the respect you get or deserve, your actions and character determines that.


Which is why I said there are exceptions to everything. Respect has to be earned of course. Was just making a comment based on the elders that I've seen in the neighborhood.

Granted, my views are somewhat biased on this subject in no small part due to my mother (Korean Confucianism places great emphasis on respect for your elders).
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By telling us to "respect our elders" as children, I think they meant it more in a sense of not talking back and listening to them. Plenty of children have the mindset of "you're not my mom/dad so I don't have to listen to you" and that could've helped combat that, especially once they get into school and started having to listen to teachers and other faculty who were once complete strangers.

As for respect in general, I definitely believe that people should earn it. I try to be completely respectful to everyone I meet and I usually don't "disrespect" anybody. If I feel somebody is being disrespectful to me, I will usually bring it up or stop associating with them altogether.
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I always try meeting new people with a open minded and forthcoming mind despite their looks, age and whatever. I dislike myself for having prejudges but well who doesn't have those? Though I don't let them influence the way I act around people but of course I will be thinking about them. I think all people deserve an equal chance and I believe in the good in people.

So even if it is someone my other friends dislike because something or if they had a horrible past I try to overlook those things and think of them as a completely strangers I never heard anything about. Since I haven't experienced those horrible things myself I don't feel the right to judge them because of it. Who knows they might have changed or (in common friends case) my friends might have offended them in some way or they just didn't have the same viewpoints in things.

I also believe in respect is earned and not "randomly" given. Treat people like you want them to treat you. Everyone deserves a chance and also a chance to fix their past mistakes because humans aren't perfect beings.

(I'm raised by Asian standards and respecting your elders is a very valued "rule" since in Asia the children have to take care of their parents when they grow old)
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WhiteLionLDM The True Virgin
you give me respect i give you respect. i dont care if your an old man. i have no problem not holding the door or helping you at all.
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Respect is something you earn.
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