When is it okay to cry?

waht i mean is that is has no evloutionary purpose, and is an inaproriate reaction to fear and strees

You described the evolutionary purpose yourself! It provides an outlet for stress and pressure in our lives.

As a reaction to fear it might not be very useful, but as a reaction to a build up of stress it is useful.

true, it does provide a stress outlet. i think i may have miscontrued my meaning a bit, but i still think its fine to cry

I often cry in public. In trains, while walking, at the bus station.
I should probably try to not read books the whole time or at least empathize less, but I don´t give a damn of what the people around me think. Humans should have the freedom to express their feelings more openly. Bottling everything up just creates a world where everyone pretends to be happy but isn´t.

"Is it all right not to hold it in anymore? Sanae told me. Places I can cry are in the bathroom... and in Daddy's arms."

I have no idea why crying in public has always been so looked down on. If you got a phone call and receive truly terrible news, are you supposed to hold it in and wait 'til you get home to cry? Sure, some people would be able to, but not everybody has that strength.

That being said, I try not to cry in front of anyone. If I am in public, I'm usually able to hold it back until I get home and if I absolutely can't, which hasn't happened yet, I'd probably go to the restroom and compose myself there before returning. I don't believe in the whole notion of "men shouldn't cry", but I still don't feel comfortable showing that side of myself to anyone. I know that everybody always says that you shouldn't just bottle everything up and keep it to yourself, but that's kinda part of who I am. I've always been that way and I doubt I'll ever change.

I believe the best way to cry is all alone while cuddling your favorite stuffed animal under the covers. It's nice to have somebody there to comfort you, but sometimes you just need to be alone to let it all out.

You should cry whenever you feel like crying. Its not healthy to hold back for whatever reason.

That sounds so ridiculous. Why shouldn't you be allowed to cry in public? I don't think you were in the wrong but those around you. Are they soul and heartless? Seriously something like that kind of pisses me off. People who just passively judge without even knowing the circumstances.

Well as you might have guessed I think you are allowed to cry anywhere and whenever. Of course if you are in a quiet zone don't burst out in loud sobbing and crying screams. Respect the people around you without needing to force yourself to hold it in. Cry if you need to, do it silently without making a scene which disturb or might cause trouble for the surrounding people. Also don't be bothered about which gender you are. Just because you are male it doesn't mean you don't have a heart which can't be hurt. Guys can/need to cry too from time to time. Maybe it is more "normal" that they do it in secret, but sometimes they might need a friend's comfort and advise and it is completely common to meet up on a cafe and talk about it. Most countries are free, you are free to do whatever you want as long you don't violate the laws and respect other people.

Personally I prefer to cry alone. Whenever it being in the toilet at my school, in my room or just in a quiet place. But that is mainly because I don't want people to see my weak side and judge me or use it against me. If I really need to cry heavy tears I prefer to curl up on the floor in my room or in the corner of my room because I know I won't be causing trouble for anyone + if I need to talk to people about it my brother is next door and my computer connects me to those dearest to me.

I get very into Anime when I watch it, and if an emotional enough situation comes up, I'll cry till my eyes explode...

It takes a very strong, sad situation to get me to cry, but when I do, I accept it. It takes a good deal to push me into it and when it happens, I roll with it, though not in public. I suppose I can hold it back for the sake of appearances.

One of my worst cry moments was in my sleep. I lucid dream very regularly. In dreams, I have experienced something like 80 years in the span of 9 hours of sleep. During one of those dreams, I gave myself eternal life and started a family. I had two children with my wife. It was happy. One of the happiest experiences i've ever had.

But, one of my children, Silica (SAO, yes, I know), was hit with a deadly disease on her 12th birthday. For some reason, I couldn't heal her with the control of the dream that I had. I was forced to live through an agonizing year of her suffering, before one day, I held her in my arms and sang her to sleep as she passed away. I cried so hard that when I awoke, there were tearstains across my pillow and sheets. One of the worst moments I've ever had....

When the situation calls for crying....

Sounds terrible. I mean I would be restless for weeks if I saw my favourite character suffer for so long. Not even sure if I would only cry I would probably have mental breakdown D: must have been hard for you!

Unbelievably. No amount of therapy has helped me forget that moment. I've seen many die in my dreams, both as a result of my will and against my will, but Silica was one of the most painful deaths I've ever experienced.

What does it mean, when someone who you gave life, through the power of dreams, cries in your arms, begging for their life, asking you to save them and stop them from dying, because they love you and want to stay with you? I can't even begin to understand what that means...

My mother always told me growing up not to cry in public, that if I ever wanted to cry to go in a bathroom or somewhere private if I am not home.

I'm not much of a dream reader either but maybe it would be something like live your life, be happy, don't regret things and do things you want to and contact people you care about before it is too late. Because who knows maybe someone is waiting for you or have been waiting for you and their time is running out? (maybe not as dying but yeah)

Yeah, I know what you mean. Perhaps I will share my experience one day. I'll write it into a work of fiction and upload it. Might help me move on..

yup it might! you should definitely post it in the writing section

It's okay to cry whenever you feel you need to unless something needs to get done right then and there.

I’m not sure if it is good or bad here, but I like, never cry anymore. I still feel sad about things, yeah, but the tears never seem to come. Also, if I am ever actually sad enough to cry, I almost always get pissed right after and want to punch something. -_- Also, I never used to have this problem before, but now If I ever do cry, it stings my eyes and it hurts like a bitch. I should probably get that checked or something... As for crying in public, I don’t think it really matters as long as you don’t start bawling out in the middle of a crowd or something like that. Kind of like when you get an annoying person who starts crying in a movie theater. I actually used to be sad and cried all the time but I guess after time with all the shit happening I just came to a point where I stopped.

Since I was young my father mad sure to teach me the importance of not crying. I disagree though, crying is fine under certain circumstances. Situations like crying because you didn't get what you wanted, small petty things are no real reasons to cry. The last time I cried was in an a sort of exercise with my colleagues, back when I was in high school. We needed to learn about mental health and the topic was depression. We were to all stand in a line with a card that had the most hurtful thing said to you, everyone was suppose to walk down and tell them what was on the card (with meaning of course). It was difficult of course because some of the people still lived with depression and even still contimplated suicide at the time. Sure for the first minute or two I was fine since I have a tough exterior. Although what made me uncontrollably cry was frustration, it is difficult for me to hurt other people for the most part. I always had a tendency to be somebody's shield or care giver. But to have to watch others in pain with no ability to help just killed me inside. Again there isn't anything wrong with crying.

I don't know sometimes myself. I mean to this day and age I've wondered why people haft to act so cool in public. I mean most of came hear to chill anyway,so why so formal.I guess I'm trying to comfort you in a way too. well the best way to cry in public is to go to the bathroom and let out. In both ways

I think it's absolutely okay to cry in public. To reference OP, the odd looks that people may shoot you if cry in public are probably in response to their own discomfort. However, if you've got a particularly loud sobber, people might get irritated with that. However, I'm more of a silent cryer. When I break down in public (which isn't often, mind you-- can't recall the last time that it happened) it's just very... quiet.

But yes. Crying in public = fine by me.