Would you date that pornstar or stripper you like?

So I'm in a heated discussion with a very feminist woman on Tumblr. The kind that hates men, not the equality kind whom I normally agree and support.
She thinks men are hypocryitical and assholes because most wouldnt actually DATE a stripper or a pornstar, saying that since we are the demand for those jobs we shouldnt care that they work in them and should date them anyway.

I said that women have refused to date and sleep with men for a very long time because of an extensive sexual history, why should men be cosidered pigs because they are basically doing the same thing but to women who are paid for it and normally don't say no, to any man with a huge wad of cash.

My question is does it make men Pigs if they choose not to date a porn star/stripper? Answer that in the
comments below the pole is to see if you would date one.

That alone means that you shouldn't bother responding to her. You should keep in mind that a lot of people like those just want to impose their view on others and don't want to reason. One way or another, she will find a BS way to "disapprove" whatever you say. Don't bother with her anymore.

I think there would be a big emotional difference between a long term and short term porn star for me. I've never been in this situation but I'd probably overlook it if it was once or twice in the past, however I don't think that I would be comfortable in a relationship with long term porn star.

A lot of feminists claim that men who sleep with copious numbers of women are looked up to in society, but I really don't think that's true. I have known a few guys like this and when people have talked about them, these men get called man-sluts and are usually seen with disdain.

So on the flip side of the coin, I don't think that many women would date a long term male porn star either, but obviously the OP's friend would never want to hear that.

As posted above me, there is probably no point in arguing with this woman. Some people are so fervent in their opinions that they believe them to be fact, and reasoning with them is simply impossible; they will go on forever telling you that you're wrong and you will ultimately just waste your time. It's simply best to ignore them.

'Nuff said.

Date whoever the fuck you want, honestly. If I were female, I probably wouldn't date a male employed as a stripper, and as a male, I probably wouldn't date a female one either. Ergo, I'm not sexist. Case closed.

Why complain about peoples standards? If someones standards are too high, don't do them. Natural selection can do feminism's job in this case.

You won't win that debate. She'll be so firmly rooted in her beliefs she won't listen to reason and will try to disprove anything you say with non-facts.

To answer your question though, I wouldn't date a pornstar or a stripper. I'd rather keep the girl to myself in a relationship.

Won't date a pornstar. A stripper maybe, but not a pornstar.

Love is deeply connected to sex. I can't love her romantically while she regularly gets banged by other men. I just can't.

But as Chat said, date whoever you want. Don't let my opinion stop anyone.

I don't think that it makes men pigs any more than it would make women sows for dating a stripper/pornstar.

Now, the only thing that should be questionable is why the person is in a relationship with a stripper/pornstar; that is, are they dating the person for superficial reasons, self-righteously altruistic reasons, e.g. trying to reform them, or "that they love them" reason?

As for your original question, I might want to, but I think that I might dislike her because she wasn't smart enough—a stigma that is likewise found in sports (as well as porn). I don't believe I would want to date an active pornstar, mainly because the intimacy of our relationship would be encroached on somewhat. A stripper is not really big deal in my opinion; they aren't having sex with anyone else but the person whom they are dating.

I have no idea what are the implications of either choice in terms of character i.e. being a pig or whatever she was talking about. So I can't answer about the consequences of the choice, just the preference behind it.

Having said that, I would date both maybe with the slight condition that she is a well known pornstar or a stripper that works in a decent place. The former because if she was well known, she'd be working for proper porn production companies rather than random, cheap ones which are, obviously, worse. The latter because of, well, the same reasons.

I am pretty open minded when it comes to art and, of quite a few weird things I consider art, [quality] porn is one of them. So I wouldn't see a problem there. Yes, the penises do really go in there but it's a superficial thing as I see it. In fact, the vast majority of porn actors don't even bother to learn the name of people they work with. As I've said in the other post, the people who say porn is fake are absolutely right and fakeness is pretty much the point. Being a stripper is a bit easier to accept when it comes to sex but there's the flip side which is that they are physically closer to the people that want to see her whereas in porn, the people who matter are behind a screen.

I've had a few friends go into the industry or strip to pay their way through college. I don't see anything wrong with it since you have to make a living somehow and it's your choice to do what you want with your life.

Would I date a stripper or pornstar... hard to say personally. I don't have anything against the professions. Personally when it comes to someone I really care for and love emotionally/physically, I don't know if I could be secure/strong enough let them use their bodies in such a way for money. I admit that I can be a little jealous and selfish, but this is how I love a person (and I do keep it in control and make sure I don't jump to any conclusions hence communication).

My boyfriend means everything to me and I will support him no matter what he does in life, but as I said I don't know if I am secure enough or strong enough to keep with the idea that "he is only doing this to make a living and to provide for our future." I know people can do it and have a relationship through it all and I congradulate those who can, but not everyone can do so and for me it would take a lot of communication and some debate to come to a decision.

I think people are disrespecting the question in the title of the post. The question is «Would you date that pornstar or stripper you like?»

It seems like the point is to imagine there is a pornstar or stripper we know in real life, are friends with and like. Now, we are to answer whether we would date her or not. The «like» part should be what makes the question difficult. It's not really about saying whether we are okay with dating a pornstar, it is also about whether we are okay accepting that if the pornstar happens to be a girl we like.

To be fair, it could also mean if we would date a specific pornstar we like but there doesn't seem to be much of an answer there.

Can you even read?

I wouldn't think so, I guess I'm in the minority seeing the results of the poll. The question was Porn Star or Stripper. There is a difference between that and what I feel you describe as a woman who doesn't say no to men who pay for sex. That isn't exactly the right definition since for strippers isn't there a no touch policy in most clubs?(not my buisness what they do after). And a Porn star doesn't say yes because the man has a wad of cash, she does it because it is her job. I can't comment on their reasons for doing that job/not choosing a different career but that is a thing.

As for the question and my reasoning.
1) They are people like anybody else, as long as they are clean(no STDs) and we do happen to connect and like each other I don't see why not. And in the case of pornstar I guess I would have to say them being OK with the guy since most guys generally don't have the stuff pornstars have in a certain regard.

2) It might be awkward with dating a pornstar if they keep working in that field and I'm not exactly sure how I'm supposed to feel about that so I can't answer that problem. I'd like to say I'd be supportive but her having sex with another guy or guys while in a relationship would definitely be a big hurdle to jump, it depends on the situation and what happens. Maybe she'll make videos that don't involve other guys in regular sex, but I don't really know how the filming of porn and stuff works so can't comment there either.

3)But for stripper you can just not care about their job because it isn't running in parallel to something that is one of the definitions of cheating. (Having sex with other guys vs. just being naked in front of guys are two different things and problems in relationships).

P.S. Apparently there is some confusion about the question, I do have my answer in the original unedited post though. No they aren't pigs. Because in some cases it simply is too much to handle the situation of dating a pornstar or stripper.

Me personally? Yes as long as what I said above holds true.

«I think people are disrespecting the question IN THE TITLE OF THE POST».

I think I can read. Can you?

My point was that PEOPLE here were disrespecting the question in the TITLE. And if you care to read, you'll find quite a few people are addressing the question in the title, not the question in the bottom of the post.

In that previous post, I was actually going to talk about the slight confusion that goes on in this thread since it asks three different questions but I dropped it because I thought it would me more complicated... I was wrong.

I didn't say it ISN'T. What I said is that people were disrespecting the question in the title. You can say that all you want, it won't change the fact that more people were answering the title question rather than the post question. Which was exactly my point...

Just to clarify there are two questions, the Title question is meant to be answered in the Poll.
While the comments were meant to be for the second question and to clarify your answers if you want, or to give me any insight into your field of thought.