Dealing with loneliness/isolation

I'm sure everyone has felt alone at some point in their lives. When did you feel it the most and what was your response?

A year after I moved to a different state, one of my closest friends just started constantly responding with "ok" whenever I would bring up something and treated me like a nuisance. I was really upset about it but decided not make it an issue and just stopped initiating conversations. With this and a bunch of trust issues from my first girlfriend, I stopped trying to make friends or having a social life and just entertaining myself with the shows and manga.

When I moved to another country i got quite lonely and since the culture is a completely different thing, isolation was inevitable .
Luckily I had online friends who I talked to and gamed with on a regular basis. Eventually I made new friends in the new country, we had little in common but it was a start and being able to go out with them ad see new things was a breath of fresh air into a stale and depressing routine.

You've had a couple of rough experiences but I'd say giving up so easily is no good, anime and manga and games are awesome but isolating yourself with only those things for comfort isn't healthy. Go places,try to meet new people , join clubs, get a job , ditch the people who are doing you no good and keep trying. You're most likely missing out on a few good things/people out there.The key word here is adaptation.

After I dropped out of high school, I literally had no friends to meet or talk to. I would go on Facebook or open my contacts in my phone to see that there is nothing. I wondered why I even had Facebook or a phone to begin with. Then for a good few months, I went full blown hikikomori mode. I still took shower, brushed my teeth, and ate relatively healthy food, but there were times when I did not leave the house at all for 3 weeks. When I left the house after 3 weeks, the sunlight and wind felt unusual and almost artificial to me, because it had been too long since I have been in contact with them.

When I was lonely and isolated, I once slept for full 24 hours. I would wake up after 13 hours of sleep, but my body and mind still felt tired due to boredom, so I would immediately go back to sleep for another good few hours. In the small window of time when I was awake, I would just watch long movies, sometimes anime, and rarely read manga. This was because it was a hassle to click on the next episode button every 23 minutes when watching anime, and it was even worse reading manga since I had to click or press the next page button every 3 seconds. During this time, I was living with my parents, but I rarely saw their face or talked to them because I would not leave my room.

Looking back, I am appalled as to how I even climbed back from that abysmal and hopeless pit, but I did. Though I have to say, living as a shut in like that probably took a good decade of my life energy away from my life span.

Depends for me. I'm more of a home body then social so I enjoy doing my ow thing half the time. Will usually watch anime, play videogames, or surf the net. If I get too lonely I go out with people or by myself, use to feel conscious about it but now idc. Worst though was probably the last two years. Was finish college and studying for a licensure as well as having no one I liked in my life. The people I did care about were far enough away I couldn't see them easily (was also studying so much I was impossible to do muc outside of that). Also got a little depressed from the stress of it all.

In the end though I survived and can't complain now. I knew once I got to a certain point things would get better. I'm one that if things suck you just find a way to work through it. I love my me time so I cherish it when I have it and if I don't need it I'll find a way to get some social activity. For me, even just Skyping with friends is enough lol.

When I moved to America I was pretty lonely.

My main focus was meeting new people and I already knew English so at least it made it easy.

Can't remember the last time I felt lonely. I really enjoyed college life cause I was able to live alone for the first time. I prefer to keep myself company than to be with others.

Ben a really long time sense i got a hold on the forums and i see this. so with that said i feel lonely every single fucking day the friends i use to have i cut out of my life cause they were toxic. i then moved and it made it hard to see the few i do have. Most of the contact i have is when i go to a con or online with skype. i had a birthday back in September i turned 24 i was at awa but i was still lonely as fuck for some odd reason. And belive me nothing says im depressed and i want to die other then waiting for your death to hurry up and happen. Im currently Having to stay at home and watch my brothers so my mom can work drive my truck put miles on it. i can not even get the time to leave the house on my own accord and feel stuck and doomed and age is rapidly approaching. In short i feel moraly obligated to stay in my cage and let life pass me by. Cause if i say no or walk away im leaving my mother and brothers to be homeless and its killing me.

Probably one of the scariest things regarding ths subject is that you can be surrounded by people and still feel alone. As a person who had to move very often, this sort of feeling came up a lot and even now, there's only a few people that I can completely tell myself about to. But in any case, when it came to dealing with this sort of exclusion or lniliness, I always went to doing hobbies or finding ways to learn new skills. It is through learning these skills that I met new people, all the while improving myself. Of course, there are times where sort of things like this aren't enough and that's when things can take different forms. As a person of the arts, many times, I do things that tend to express feelings into them, but when that's not enough, it comes to simply writing thoughts out and seeing what reflections can be made from there. In the darkest places, you have to find hope or it will lead to your destruction. I found mine in the strangest ways when I was on the brink of suicide, but in the end, it all became for the better

Even now, I have a strong feeling of isolation ever since it became such that my happiness became increasingly dependent on one person. In defense to it, I just do what I almost always do, and that's helping people. In fact, I believe this is the best way to fight against the dread. There's always those who need help and in return, things don't become so dark anymore

That's clearly the most logical choice and I feel so stupid since it seem so obvious but I just subconsciously avoid all of that. I've always been somewhat anti-social and introverted so I always reject those kinds of opportunities and then go home and remember that i'm one lonely son of a bitch. I came to the conclusion that I needed to learn how to be happy accept all my social insecurities in order for me to do all those things. Reaching out anonymously on fakku is like on small step.



I'm really glad and it's really inspiring that you were able to get through that dark period in your life and seem so much more emotionally healthy. Personally I have a really hard time expressing myself because I'm so self conscious. Even now writing in this forum, I really want to write everything I'm going through but I feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself for whining about something so insignificant even though it really bothers me.

edit: because apparently my topic in the serious discussion forum wasn't intelligent enough to stay there. Sorry moderator about being passive aggressive, but i was just talking about how i felt insecure about people judging my problems

I moved a lot since I had a parent in the military. I think that coupled with extreme introversion makes being alone not brother me too much, I can approach people and make friends fine but I have never had a strong desire to be social.

Talking to women, on the other hand, is really bloody hard for me,