Drive for life/love
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So after a long run of being told "I can only see u as a friend" from woman i have a romantic interest in. Or "Your just not what were looking for" from employers. I find myself giving up hope for a decent life. Iv lost my passion for the things i love to do or even spending time with friends. I think whats the point in the end i only fail so why bother. So does anyone have a similar feeling or advice for me. To be frank no one can live like this.
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Not by same case .. but kind of similar.
For my story, it has some lie elements and fake love or whatever you want to call that.
Sadly, there is no specific advice for it other than DEAL WITH IT.
People need to move on to continue their life .. because your whole life is not all about love .. you still can find other one whose may better in your life journey.
I do ever feel depressed before ..
Need a long time for me to recover .. and to realize how pathetic i am.
After you regain your sense again and stand by your own. You will be a better person whose know to not repeat the same mistake.
You need to do that .. It needs time, but not impossible.
In short, Good luck with it. I pray for your success.
For my story, it has some lie elements and fake love or whatever you want to call that.
Sadly, there is no specific advice for it other than DEAL WITH IT.
People need to move on to continue their life .. because your whole life is not all about love .. you still can find other one whose may better in your life journey.
I do ever feel depressed before ..
Need a long time for me to recover .. and to realize how pathetic i am.
After you regain your sense again and stand by your own. You will be a better person whose know to not repeat the same mistake.
You need to do that .. It needs time, but not impossible.
In short, Good luck with it. I pray for your success.
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Old - Jenkins wrote...
Not by same case .. but kind of similar. For my story, it has some lie elements and fake love or whatever you want to call that.
Sadly, there is no specific advice for it other than DEAL WITH IT.
People need to move on to continue their life .. because your whole life is not all about love .. you still can find other one whose may better in your life journey.
I do ever feel depressed before ..
Need a long time for me to recover .. and to realize how pathetic i am.
After you regain your sense again and stand by your own. You will be a better person whose know to not repeat the same mistake.
You need to do that .. It needs time, but not impossible.
In short, Good luck with it. I pray for your success.
Thanks Jenkins just iv always been a driven person never let something hold me back and its strange not to feel it anymore.
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Krimzonblade wrote...
So after a long run of being told "I can only see u as a friend" from woman i have a romantic interest in. Or "Your just not what were looking for" from employers. I find myself giving up hope for a decent life. Iv lost my passion for the things i love to do or even spending time with friends. I think whats the point in the end i only fail so why bother. So does anyone have a similar feeling or advice for me. To be frank no one can live like this. no!!!!! don't give up and don't be afraid of failure. i was terrified of now getting accepted into law schools but i did. it was a damn horrible process and i felt like a failure the entire 1.5 years i spent preparing my applications. i'm about to apply to about 60 clerkships and MAYBE get one. failure is a part of life and a part of success. it sucks when it happens, but most, maybe 95% of the time, you can always try again or find another way to do what you want. if employers are telling you that you are not what they are looking for...well what are they looking for? can you somehow babystep your way into getting that experience?
in moments of utter defeat i think the best thing you can do is just keep going through the motions and doing what you need to do and eventually you'll get out of this dark hole you are in and find yourself in a better situation.
love i think is something similar. work on yourself and improve yourself for you and eventually women will catch on.
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Krimzonblade wrote...
Thanks Jenkins just iv always been a driven person never let something hold me back and its strange not to feel it anymore.
Because people change from time to time,
Nothing wrong by it.
And i can understand being depressed will very damaging to your mood and passion.
Let's talk about future, you still have more awaiting you on your path.
Don't just stand while always looking behind .. after whatever happened .. there is nothing you can do to change the past.
You only can walk forward ..
and,
You CAN change your future. In a good way or bad way. Depends on how you take theses problem and how you deal with it.
That's applied for your job matter as well, tho.
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It will be a little while before i turn my mood around but this helps. And its nice to know not everyone on the planet is a douche. Thanks.
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I... am in a very very similar spot, actually, Krimzon.
Very early on in life, as a defense mechanism, I developed this mentality based on constructed reality. Basically my life is nothing but what I make of it, it has no meaning or purpose otherwise. Pretty simple, but it was an amazing motivator, because it forced me to constantly reassess and redefine myself. Once I got down the main crux of who I am and what I need to be sane, I could internalize and digest all the external ups and downs. It also helped me realize that no one could destroy me worse then myself, which is a handy thought when dealing with rejection of any sort.
And yet, lately it's been hard for me to digest all the negativity in my life and to keep the inner me from tearing myself apart.
So while objectively I agree with what everyone before me has been saying about pushing through and developing happiness within oneself... I also acknowledge the struggle as being a right bitch. But that's life, isn't it? Suffering makes the happiness sweeter and other such cliches.
You say, failure is all you'll see so what's the point right? Well, then fuck it and be selfish. I recently got dropped from a gig cause of my own fail and it hit me (admittedly after crying bitch tears in the privacy of my bedroom), I don't do this because I think I'm great at it or because I think I can give back... I do this largely because it's what I love to do. So I'm going to keep taking risks, and I'm going to fail, and I'm going to learn, and I'm going to progress because it's damn fun. And what I create will speak for itself because I have instilled my own meaning into the process.
And as for romance, well, honestly I'm just as baffled on that end except to say... eh. I've had my heart broken many times and I've broken hearts many times. And it will probably happen again and again. C'est la vie.
Very early on in life, as a defense mechanism, I developed this mentality based on constructed reality. Basically my life is nothing but what I make of it, it has no meaning or purpose otherwise. Pretty simple, but it was an amazing motivator, because it forced me to constantly reassess and redefine myself. Once I got down the main crux of who I am and what I need to be sane, I could internalize and digest all the external ups and downs. It also helped me realize that no one could destroy me worse then myself, which is a handy thought when dealing with rejection of any sort.
And yet, lately it's been hard for me to digest all the negativity in my life and to keep the inner me from tearing myself apart.
So while objectively I agree with what everyone before me has been saying about pushing through and developing happiness within oneself... I also acknowledge the struggle as being a right bitch. But that's life, isn't it? Suffering makes the happiness sweeter and other such cliches.
You say, failure is all you'll see so what's the point right? Well, then fuck it and be selfish. I recently got dropped from a gig cause of my own fail and it hit me (admittedly after crying bitch tears in the privacy of my bedroom), I don't do this because I think I'm great at it or because I think I can give back... I do this largely because it's what I love to do. So I'm going to keep taking risks, and I'm going to fail, and I'm going to learn, and I'm going to progress because it's damn fun. And what I create will speak for itself because I have instilled my own meaning into the process.
And as for romance, well, honestly I'm just as baffled on that end except to say... eh. I've had my heart broken many times and I've broken hearts many times. And it will probably happen again and again. C'est la vie.