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So it seems like there are a lot of people needing advice out there and me and C13R-66Y have a decent amount of experience between us, plus you get the benefit of both genders weighing in. So let us help you.
Come, sit down, take a cup of tea, and tell us what's on your mind.
Come, sit down, take a cup of tea, and tell us what's on your mind.
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Here we go. We don't guarantee that we would solve your problem magically, but as she stated, we will give the best advice we can give based in experience and common sense.
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JuniorAfro wrote...
Que es esto? Yo no entiendo... LOL!~mira loco esto es si uste tene un proglema emoconal o physicamente
and yes i do have problems
1) i have a nasty pain in my leg and it hurts so bad i wish it would go away do you know what to do to make it feel better?
2)why dont i have any friends? the only ones i had were the ones i went to high school with but i dont see them no m
3)why do people always look at me when im passing by ? is it beacuse im a person of color and they think im going to steal?
4) im staring school in january at wyotech any advice i can use when im on my own?
5) is it ok to carry a knife and know how to fight dirty so im not the nest victum of a hate crime?
6) i feel bad for breaking this one guys arm the last time i got into a fight any way i can redeem myself for this petty action?
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animefreak_usa
Child of Samael
i dream of killing my wife and doing things to her bo... wait this isn't IB
how do i spice my love making up. im too tired when i get home, and she too pissed because she have to deal with the kid and being pregnant.
how do i spice my love making up. im too tired when i get home, and she too pissed because she have to deal with the kid and being pregnant.
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LuPonce wrote...
JuniorAfro wrote...
Que es esto? Yo no entiendo... LOL!~mira loco esto es si uste tene un proglema emoconal o physicamente
and yes i do have problems
1) i have a nasty pain in my leg and it hurts so bad i wish it would go away do you know what to do to make it feel better?
2)why dont i have any friends? the only ones i had were the ones i went to high school with but i dont see them no m
3)why do people always look at me when im passing by ? is it beacuse im a person of color and they think im going to steal?
4) im staring school in january at wyotech any advice i can use when im on my own?
5) is it ok to carry a knife and know how to fight dirty so im not the nest victum of a hate crime?
6) i feel bad for breaking this one guys arm the last time i got into a fight any way i can redeem myself for this petty action?
1. take some pain killer like liquid advil that what works for me or go to the doctor and have them check it out.
2. well about your friend its 1 of two thing you were either in your room all day every day after school on your computer, so you never whent outside and had time to spend with friends. or you staid home and played video games all day instead of going out with friends. (this is what happend to me) and anyways now that your going to a new school you will make lots of new friend.
3.yes they look at you because of your color im sure you have notice that alot specially when you walk into a store. its just the way people are. you know the old saying 1 bad apple ruins the whole batch. and their isn't anything you can do about that so just go on with your day and ignore it.
4. well on the school thing i dont have much to say ,all i can say is have fun and enjoy your self. and make lots of new friends.
5.mmmmmmmmmmm no it's not okay to cary a nife, but if you decide you are going to carry one make sure the blade is no bigger than your hand from side to side. thats the rule here in cali. were i live.
6. and for your last questions, what i do is if you see a homeless person help them out but instead of giving them money go and buy them some food. just do a few of these and you should be good, but dont go thinking that everythime you do something bad you can just do 1 good deed and your off the hook. it doesn't work like that.
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LuPonce wrote...
JuniorAfro wrote...
Que es esto? Yo no entiendo... LOL!~mira loco esto es si uste tene un proglema emoconal o physicamente
and yes i do have problems
1) i have a nasty pain in my leg and it hurts so bad i wish it would go away do you know what to do to make it feel better?
2)why dont i have any friends? the only ones i had were the ones i went to high school with but i dont see them no m
3)why do people always look at me when im passing by ? is it beacuse im a person of color and they think im going to steal?
4) im staring school in january at wyotech any advice i can use when im on my own?
5) is it ok to carry a knife and know how to fight dirty so im not the nest victum of a hate crime?
6) i feel bad for breaking this one guys arm the last time i got into a fight any way i can redeem myself for this petty action?
1. Ok, first, what kind of pain is it? have you seen a medic? maybe it is caused by a lesion, or maybe as a friend of mine, when the air pressure is low his knees hurt. Best here is find medical help.
2. How much interested are you in make friends? maybe you haven't put that much into it, or maybe the people around doesn't seems interesting or don't share the same interests than you. Try going to places where you could find people with similar tastes as you. For example, if you like anime, go to conventions, if you like music, go to a discotheque and so on. Going to the wrong place will never help.
3. How you usually dress up? if you look too different from the others, walk in a different way or stare at people, they would usually do that. If you don't like it, maybe try dressing up different, wearing something more common or less appealing. Now, if you think that for you is more important to keep your own style, go with it and ignore them, you know what are they looking at and you'r happy with it. On a second point of view, maybe you'r too conscious of everybody? probably that could be a starting paranoia. I doubt it has anything to do with the color unless you live in a place filled with albinos, and well... it should be pretty obvious why they would be looking at you.
4. The best advice on your own: watch for the money. The first months try to avoid expending money in anything or going out. Then, when you know how much you usually spend in food, transport, shcool and all, then you can take it easy. Try to save money, since when you'r alone, emergencies always come up. If possible too, try to create a schedule, for example, this day I have to go to do the laundry, this day shopping, etc. Oh, and try to cook at home, that saves a lot of money and is healthier than eating out.
5. No, I think it's perfect. Just don't go stabbing the people in point 3 because they look at you.
6. Remorse is a common thing among human beings. Now you feel remorse, but, why did you break his arm in first place? I mean, now it sounds like bad, but at that moment, what he did to you? maybe he did something that deserved that, also, when you start a fight (and I'm not saying that the person who hits first is the one who starts it, the one who gives the causes is as guilty too), you are pretty conscious that things could get ugly. In my country there was a big conflict caused just for a watermelon slice (it's historical, even in wikipedia Watermelon War). So, if as I say, he has his fault here too, well, he's the one who should be feeling guilty. If he was an innocent passerby and you deliberately broke his arm, that's another story.
animefreak_usa wrote...
i dream of killing my wife and doing things to her bo... wait this isn't IBhow do i spice my love making up. im too tired when i get home, and she too pissed because she have to deal with the kid and being pregnant.
Well friend, you sure have an issue here. I can't go irresponsibly saying that you shall push yourself to do it when you get home, because I quite understand what it is like to get home tired from work. Now, a little thing you can do, since you can spice the "hot" side of the relationship, what about spicing the "romantic" side? try sending her text messages when you can, saying what you feel about her, telling her maybe useless things like what are you doing or whatnot. You might not be the apocalyptic beast in the bed, but she should love that you'r thinking about her and you love her. Also, small details, little presents, a chocolate, some icecream, a little make up. May sound a bit simple, but believe me, the beach is made of small sand grains ;D
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animefreak_usa wrote...
i dream of killing my wife and doing things to her bo... wait this isn't IBhow do i spice my love making up. im too tired when i get home, and she too pissed because she have to deal with the kid and being pregnant.
Well girls are more mental and guys are more physical, just grabe a guys dick and his happy, but for girls you have to go for the mind. so what you have to do is help her around the house when you get home (i know your tired) any little thing you can do to make her day easier will make her happy. things like wash dishes, offer to make food, tell her you will watch the baby while she takes a relaxing bath, ask her is she would like a back or foot rub (this always works for me it usually turns into sex) buy her some flowers and surprise her once a week, make sure its a random day and not make it a ritual. like i said anything you can do to make her day easier and she will thank you for it. Once you start doing some of these things im sure she will notice and if you still dont get any action just stop doing everything.
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Fi wrote...
lol! what's it look like? an unsuccessful advice thread. :) maybe it'll get better? :D yesh~ Mind if I help out as well? De ayuda soy pa los que necesitan!
Trans- :D yesh~
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JuniorAfro wrote...
Fi wrote...
lol! what's it look like? an unsuccessful advice thread. :) maybe it'll get better? :D yesh~ Mind if I help out as well? De ayuda soy pa los que necesitan!
Trans- :D yesh~
We know. Well, I don't see why not ;D
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sorry guys! I was at work...
Ok LuPonce
Others have covered I think pretty much most of it so I will just add a little on some topics.
But first, I really want to address the knife issue because that looks like a potential legal issue. Hopefully that was meant as a joke, but if not...
First, I cannot give you any legal advice under the rules of professional ethics, so instead, please, please, please, please go talk to your local public defender's office. Carrying a knife in anticipation of an attack plus the fact you said you fight dirty and the fact you've already broken someone's arm is all just one GIGANTIC legal mess waiting to happen. If you want to know your rights and where the law in your state draws the line, talk to law professors, talk to local legal clinics at various law schools, talk to your local public defender's office to get a legal opinion. Please, and I cannot stress this enough, please go seek actual legal advice on this issue because the consequences of just doing it anyway is a BAD idea that could get you jail time. Better to be safe than sorry..
OK, as far as the other issues are concerned:
race:
being a person of color can be extremely difficult depending on where you are in the US. if you are feeling very uneasy about the way your race is perceived on a regular basis, in addition to advice already given, maybe consider doing things that in some way makes you feel somewhat empowered. maybe join a club or organization. i have seen this help out friends who are feeling uncomfortable and unaccepted. of course the racial divide in the US is something that is still very relevant today, trying to do something about it, building bridges and such, might help to correct what are still people's subconscious racist tendencies.
this btw, is also a way to meet friends and maybe use up what seems to me to be some aggressive tendencies in a productive manner.
college and friends:
first off, you will make friends in college if you are approachable. don't try to be intimidating or else people won't come near you. but college is an amazing way to make great friends that share a lot in common with you. just stay open-minded and be as actively involved as you can be.
remorse:
remorse for breaking someone's arm, even if he deserved it for whatever reason, i think is admirable because you did hurt someone. should you say anything? i think it depends on the circumstances and might need more info on this one. my gut says yeah go apologize, but again, depends on what happened.
OK now at animefreak
i agree with most part of what's been said above. your girl is probably too tired to feel sexy. if you aren't putting in your share to help out around the house, she might be resentful. this is where i depart with mantaro...you should be putting in your share of the house work if you want a happy home, period. it does not matter if she is putting out or whatnot. but, if you are the helpful husband i hope you are, then she is probably just too tired, feels fat, and this leads to her feeling of utter and total grossness. what was suggested above are good ideas. make her feel sexy. start having little dates, get a sitter, be spontaneous. maybe tease her here and there and hold up the tension all day until she is ready to pounce on you. remember how good a long make out session was where you were a teenager? you build up the tension so much that all you want to do is tear your clothes off....yeah do that.
Ok LuPonce
Others have covered I think pretty much most of it so I will just add a little on some topics.
But first, I really want to address the knife issue because that looks like a potential legal issue. Hopefully that was meant as a joke, but if not...
First, I cannot give you any legal advice under the rules of professional ethics, so instead, please, please, please, please go talk to your local public defender's office. Carrying a knife in anticipation of an attack plus the fact you said you fight dirty and the fact you've already broken someone's arm is all just one GIGANTIC legal mess waiting to happen. If you want to know your rights and where the law in your state draws the line, talk to law professors, talk to local legal clinics at various law schools, talk to your local public defender's office to get a legal opinion. Please, and I cannot stress this enough, please go seek actual legal advice on this issue because the consequences of just doing it anyway is a BAD idea that could get you jail time. Better to be safe than sorry..
OK, as far as the other issues are concerned:
race:
being a person of color can be extremely difficult depending on where you are in the US. if you are feeling very uneasy about the way your race is perceived on a regular basis, in addition to advice already given, maybe consider doing things that in some way makes you feel somewhat empowered. maybe join a club or organization. i have seen this help out friends who are feeling uncomfortable and unaccepted. of course the racial divide in the US is something that is still very relevant today, trying to do something about it, building bridges and such, might help to correct what are still people's subconscious racist tendencies.
this btw, is also a way to meet friends and maybe use up what seems to me to be some aggressive tendencies in a productive manner.
college and friends:
first off, you will make friends in college if you are approachable. don't try to be intimidating or else people won't come near you. but college is an amazing way to make great friends that share a lot in common with you. just stay open-minded and be as actively involved as you can be.
remorse:
remorse for breaking someone's arm, even if he deserved it for whatever reason, i think is admirable because you did hurt someone. should you say anything? i think it depends on the circumstances and might need more info on this one. my gut says yeah go apologize, but again, depends on what happened.
OK now at animefreak
i agree with most part of what's been said above. your girl is probably too tired to feel sexy. if you aren't putting in your share to help out around the house, she might be resentful. this is where i depart with mantaro...you should be putting in your share of the house work if you want a happy home, period. it does not matter if she is putting out or whatnot. but, if you are the helpful husband i hope you are, then she is probably just too tired, feels fat, and this leads to her feeling of utter and total grossness. what was suggested above are good ideas. make her feel sexy. start having little dates, get a sitter, be spontaneous. maybe tease her here and there and hold up the tension all day until she is ready to pounce on you. remember how good a long make out session was where you were a teenager? you build up the tension so much that all you want to do is tear your clothes off....yeah do that.