How do I tell a crush I like him?

So I met this guy at a con and he gave me his email and I've been twitter and facebook following him since I met him, which was a month ago. And I'd like to talk to him but I don't know what to say other than I've been twitter/facebook stalking him. Help?!

Do you have a spare stake matey?

What I do is to drop a simple "hi~" and work from there *chuckles*. If he asks who are you all you need to say you were that gal at the convention he gave his e-mail to. The start can be the inverse anyway, though starting with the greet does the job for me most the time~ Considering you were stalking him you can get some topics from there, like making questions you more less knows how he'll answer and you know you can follow the topic, too.

I did meet my best friend by dropping a shyly "H-Hi?", too *chuckles* (though without stalking).

I had a feeling someone was gonna bring up Buffy in some form.

I feel that this question better belongs here.

But back to the question.

If he gave you his contact info, chances are that he's down to talk to you if you. So honestly, just drop a "Hey! Do you remember me from..." and the ice will probably break. As everybody says, you just have to swallow the fear and do it, because how is he going to know that you have a thing for him when you're admiring from the distance?

ironically, I have the same exact same problem as well, so I should totally listen to my own advice.

Just email or message and say hi this is X person, we met at X convention. Remembered you gave me your email back then. Have been meaning to send you a message to say hello and what's up?

Really that simple and see what he responds back with. If you don't get anything back you could try again, but don't go over 2. Also don't mention right away you stalk him, I do that as a joke with my bf, but we were friends for quite a bit before we dated and he gets my personality pretty well so he's cool with it. Some guys may find it creepy so just be casual and direct with your words such as saying, noticed you had a Twitter/FB and thought it was interesting/funny/etc. Also you two may start out as friends in the beginning so if that happens don't get upset, just see where this goes and best of luck.

Cool thing about meeting someone at a convention is that there usually should be something you can talk about. Introduce yourself and just start talking about the stuff you like, chances are he will like something you like too. Once you have enough time actually talking to him then if you want go ahead and confess. Personally, as a dude i like it when a girl can be straightforward and blunt with me but i guess it depends on what type of guy he is. Good luck!

Thank you for the help and support everyone! I'll email him as soon as I get home from school tomorrow. ^.^

Good luck! Hope it works out!

So... how did it go..?

If you are able to actually be on this site then you really are past the point of needing to tell someone you like them.

Only kids put things like "OMG I need to confess my feelings."

It's not really the way things work once you become an adult.

It becomes more "I feel there's someone that could work with us. Let us spend some time together and see where it goes."

Needing to confess is just movie 'magic'.

Just see if he wants to go out on a date or two with you and see what happens.

I don't see why this post was negged, this is actually proper advice that's suitable for the situation.

Oh really?


*Chuckles to himself joyfully, yet quietly.*

What's the point of waiting until you 'know you like/love' someone to say something to them?

If you feel there's a a potential romantic connection, just go "Let's try things out."

The whole, be friends for a long time and then confessing pretty much never works out.

I don't know of anyone that it has for honestly.

There will be moments in a relationship that you might have to take a leap of faith like it's confessing.

But any actual confession like you see in movies is bullshit movie 'magic'. It's not realistic and only happens in movies so frequently because it's dramatic and wraps the plot up nicely.

I'm not trying to debunk anything you said, to be honest.

But as someone who's current relationship is the result of that "Be friends for a long time, ect" thing, I can say that it does happen. No matter how infrequently.

He never responded. TT.TT

Friends to lovers isn't just a movie thing, I mean my current relationship started when we were both friends for about half a year. Even now we still consider each other good friends first and lovers second since sex is great and all, but having someone you feel you can talk with and play videogames with is even better.

I think most of my "date first" relationships were pretty crappy because they were mostly based off of first appearances and lust. Once both of us would get to know one another, found pretty quickly that it was superficial. Others we just weren't on the same page and lacked any foundation for communication.

I appreciated my current boyfriend more because we took the time to get to know one another. We found we communicated great with one another and emotionally connected and luckily the physical followed suit. I don't think every relationship has to start out as friends, but it has its benefits. I mean hell, my bf's one friend found a great girl on Tinder and they've been like rabbits ever since lol.

To me though, if you have someone you're interested in but you aren't sure if you want to date personally then try being friends first for a bit to see how the person ticks some. Just don't default to the friend route all the time or wait too long since you won't learn to gain any confidence.

*Hugs and pats*, =/, maybe he is busy... or just bad luck, in any case if you like someone and both actually interacted (like giving his e-mail), try to react a bit quicker. Though it can be a lot he just didn't seen it or he is busy, try a second time a few days ago later, specially if you see him being active at the moment. I hope you can meet him.



My best relationship started as a friendship, and even when it ended at the end (various reasons not related to that), we are still good friends after that. Not saying all relationships should start as friendships, but you're painting it out like if sex/crush must be the unique initial trigger and that is fake, my parents were friends for about TWO years for example and they are still together! Heck, and not just my parents, but the parents of a lot of people I've meet and of the friends with stable relationships.

It's fine to start with sex/instadate/whatever more, too (I have done that, too), but it's also fine to start with something else, it is far from being the "movies only thing" or "that childish thing that never works". At the end the most important thing is that things goes naturally, at the rhythm of each one and try to grab some courage when needed to don't lose opportunities.

Give him a hug if your into getting rough.