How does one get into a short-distance relationship?

Someone's HAD to ask this at one point.

Alright, FAKKU, shoot. I'm so bad at talking to females that I have to ask a site that's mainly about PORNfor advice.

Let's give you some insight onto how I am so you can have an easier time with this.

I'm a pervert, I masturbate frequently. I've never been in a relationship (close distance) before. I've never kissed a girl, I lost my first kiss to a guy, (when I was first coming out as bisexual, then got exposed to half of my school/friends, and got very depressed over it), my first boyfriend (can't even call him that, we only hooked up for like a week, then he left me because I was shy. I'm still a virgin, I'm 18, going through my last year of high-school, starting on September 8th, and girls in my high-school hate me. And not only that, there's only two bisexual or gay males, and one is my ex, and the other's taken.

Am I doomed to spend my love life with my left hand and over 200 photos of Gardevoir?!

Fakku, please send help!

You need to stop looking at your situation as you are alone and will you ever date someone. You are only 18 and highschool is a rough place to try and date, once you get out of school dating can become a bit easier. Most dating in highschool consists of titles and are pretty superficial. I wouldn't fret being single in highschool, I know I was and it never really bothered me personally.

Secondly it's okay to be bisexual, shy and a virgin. You can't change who you are and the things you are now will change over time, but hating yourself won't help you find someone to care for. If you don't like that you are shy then work to be more personable, I know that's easier said then done, but if you don't try you don't accomplish anything. I use to be a pretty big introvert, but I told myself it was my choice to refrain from talking with people and if I want to have friends then I need to open up. I've gotten hurt a lot, but I am much more talkative as a result and over the years have found decent friends.

If people hate you for being bisexual then don't listen to them, there is nothing wrong with being yourself. If other's hate you for other reasons then do the same thing as I said in the first sentence or really do some self reflection. Do people really dislike you or is that what you think other's think? I know I don't care what others think personally so unless someone tells me what they think to my face I don't consider other's feelings about myself, the only feelings I care about in relation to myself are my own; this is where self confidence comes in.

Now for the last bit of advice on how to get in a short term relationship. I would say that it would be difficult to do this in highschool, but always have hope for now and the future. I never had a boyfriend until after highschool and frankly I was glad, I hated highschool and even when I did get some chances to date I knew it was out of desperation to have a "girlfriend". I wanted better for myself so I waited. When you do find a nice girl or guy who appreciates you it will make this all seem silly in the future.

I would also work on your confidence and learn to be more talkative with people. It's okay to be shy, but if you never get better with people you won't have any chances to find someone to date. Start of slow by talking to people in stores, I use to do that myself in bookstores and grocery stores. Eventually I got better with my shyness.

Lastly be happy with who you are. We are all different and being different isn't bad. If anyone makes you feel like shit for being who you are then they aren't a good person. It will hurt to hear harsh words, but they are just words from a person who has nothing better to do then to put you down. Make an effort to find good people who will make you feel better and most of all appreciate yourself.

Best of luck and keep in mind you are young and you have a lifetime to find someone to make you happy. Highschool isn't the end of things just the beginning.

I have to honestly say that this moved me. I'll try my best, but I can't gaurentee that it'll all work. Many people get different experiences, to be honest.

True, but like, how can one do that with a face that looks close to Wolverine?

I mean, I've been called by that.

A lot.

I mean you could do one of two things, go get a new haircut/look if you're not happy with your current one or that will make cosplay for conventions all the more easier, wolverine rocks.

Basically you either own up to how you look and don't let others out you down, they have too much time on their hands if all they have to do in the world is criticize you for your looks. Or you change what you don't like and do something you can enjoy.

I know I just adopted the attitude of "if I don't like something I change it, since it's pointless to waste energy worrying/regretting things in life". I know it's easier said then done, but I have worked on this for years and it's still a lifelong thing I enjoy working on along with being happy. So just do your best really and own up to how you look or find a way to look different. In the end be happy with who you are, people that can't appreciate you probably don't appreciate themselves enough and have to put others down.

In high school I never found any decent people. Then I got into university. Please dont lose hope, university is the best time to meet people, especially bisexual and bi-curious. Even if you have no plans of going to university, any time after high school will be better for meeting new people and forming relationships.
Don't lose hope. Just work on yourself until then

Thanks.

All of you. I'm putting all these to work, and I'm pretty proud of how it'll all work out. I'll be going to college after this year of high school is done, yes.

I can't wait.