I don't get what my GF is thinking at all.

Today I finally made an account on this site. I'm here to ask for some advice about my girlfriend. I have asked my friends and searched around on google without being able to find an answer. So I really hope you can help me.

My girlfriend and I have been together for around an year. We have known each other since the age of around 14. We started out as best friends later started dating. We rarely fight despite our differences and there aren't any problems with our sex life.

Lately she rarely eats anything and is really obsessed with working out. I'm worried that she is going to develop an eating disorder. She knows I prefer girls chubbier so I don't think it is for me she is working so hard. Also I always knew she liked Japan and Japanese culture but I had to admit I was quite shocked to find this site in her browsing history. I used to like anime but now I rarely have anything to do with it. I don't know how long she has been a user and for how long she has been into this kind of thing. To be honest I'm having really mixed feelings about this and I really don't get what she is thinking anymore.

I don't want to break up with her because of this I'm just worried if she might be flirting with someone who made her think she is too fat or if these comics made her feel the need to loose weight or change her appearance? I want to try being there for her despite our differences and accept her for who she is. But I really don't know what to do, so I would appreciate if you guys could give me some advise.

If she was chubbier to begin with, she may have wanted to loose some weight on her own accord. Just because you prefer a certain type of body type doesn't mean that she wants it for herself personally. She may be doing this for her own reasons.

I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that she has an eating disorder. She may just be cutting back on portions and found exercise to be enjoyable. If she starts to look unhealthy (hair thinning or loss, bags under the eyes not associated with sleep deprivation or stress, significant weight loss in a short period of time such as 6-10 pounds a week, etc), then talk to her about it or just keep an eye on her.



I would say that for this and the top quote that you talk to her about your concerns.

She is probably still learning things about herself, like all of us do. Just because she is trying to get into shape or visits a site like this, doesn't mean that is is an alien. There are probably parts of her that you never knew about. Remember you've only been dating for a year; even though you two were friends for a while, an intimate relationship can reveal a lot of things you may have never known about her. You can only figure these things out by having an open line of communication with one another.

Social media can influence women to a degree on body image, but this doesn't mean that someone on here or hentai is the culprit. TV, magazines, videogame characters, billboards, etc can have just as much of an effect.

One last note, even though this is a japanese porn site, it's not a dating site. We all share a common interest on here and most of us just randomly chat with other users. When I told my boyfriend about this site, I was kind of nervous how he would take the news, but he ended up being pretty cool with things. He even joined himself since he likes videogames and they have a section for it lol (he doesn't post much though). Some relationships have happened, but they are rare and majority of the people are just friends.

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So summary advice is: talk to her and don't assume anything until things are cleared up for you. I would just have a chill day where you two talk about things calmly and openly. Don't accuse her of anything and once she gives her side then you can give your side. Just make sure that she's knows that your coming from a loving place and not being a dick about it.

The media would have more of an effect on her than anything on this website. Like the user above said, worrying about your health and rigorous exercise don't mean that she will develop an eating disorder. Unless you literally meant that she is neglecting food.
The only way to find what's going through her mind is to talk to her, just talk to her about her new interest in fitness. You might find you have been worrying for no reason.

Oh look, another average Joe who just so happened to make an account just to ask for relationship advice for their partner who comes to this site. Wonder how long this poor bastard's gonna last.

Serious answer, and this should be the most common answer there is for majority of relationship problems:

JUST FUCKING TALK TO HER!

Lol Art relax.. seriously.

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but true as Art said, talking is the right way to solve problems in a relationship. Though if you feel it is hard to bring up the subject whether is being about the eating disorder thing or the hentai thing. Just remember you have known her for a long time even if is just as friends you should have some knowledge about how you should talk to her and how not to. Where her limits are and probably feel when you are pushing an issue too much.

Her eating habits could be as Misaki said. If she was chubby before she might want to lose a bit weight for her own and not for you. Or maybe she is dealing with a bit stress and just 'forgets' to eat. I do that sometime too where there are periods where I eat less than what I usually do. + Doing exercise it a good way to reduce stress and it makes you happy by producing some hormone in your body. I don't know how long it has been like this but you could maybe start with just observing her for a while and maybe the problem fix itself.
Bring it up naturally like: "you haven't eaten much lately" or "you work out more these days" it doesn't seem forceful and will let her know you noticed because you are worried.

Also for the Hentai thing. Go to here it might help you understand why she would be here especially if she does like Manga and anime.

Some people spend half their lives looking for a girl like your girlfriend, just have a open conversation with her and remember that you are a lucky guy.

I think this quote should be at the top of this section. If they yet to talk to their partner then post deleted....

Also why would reading hentai make someone feel fat?

Lastly why do so many partners have to go into the others browsing history? I don't even let my bf or gf touch my computer half of the time lol.

This is just speculation on my part, but it might have something to do with the fact that most anime and hentai females seem to have absurdly perfect bodies (nice hips, slim waist, big booty, noticeable tits), or at the very least, somewhat young and petite looking bodies. Of course, feeling insecure compared to fucking 2D drawings is kinda really stupid in the first place.

The dick sizes from males in Hentai do make me feel inadequate.

Even if they are fictional you still relate to them as humans in some form.

The way you write makes me want to take a mallet to your head.

Anyways.

You are being obsessive and controlling.

If your first reaction to your girlfriend seeking what seems to be a healthier lifestyle is the think she is cheating on you and to invade her privacy and break her trust you might want to rethink if you are mature enough to handle a relationship at this time.

Cause you know, the simpler and more mature thing to do is "Hey honey, I notice you are working out more recently and that you changed your diet. Is there any reason? You know you don't have to do that sort of thing for me honey."

But no, keep acting like the reason you are sneaking around is because "you're worried about her health". That will make for a very solid relationship.

Law of physics, that's the difference between the theoretical ideal we aim for, and the practical results we actually get in real life. In the end, it's a matter of just remembering that, even though we don't live as ideally as we want, we've made it pretty far and doing pretty well enough as it is.

[size=12]Hope that was inspiring enough, didn't want anyone to feel bad about what I said about comparing to 2D.[/h]

Why the hell are there so many people registering just to ask why their girl/boyfriend gets off on drawn anime porn..?

I don't think it's the best way to go about understanding things, but some people can't understand the fascination. They're probably too afraid to talk to their partner about something so private in fear how their partner (or they themselves) will react. Some people also judge such material poorly and don't want to understand it. Some of my exes and past friends use to call me a freak for liking hentai. Hurts, but to me if someone is going to judge me on something so trivial, I don't want to be close with them.

Either people in the OPs shoes will either learn to accept their partners hobby or they'll go separate ways. Sad to say shit like this can break up a relationship (not the main cause, but can add fuel to the fire).

My advice is don't freak out? Just because someone likes something you aren't into/have an adverse opinion shouldn't cause you to spin a different view of them. If you're questioning your relationship with her over reading hentai after being with her, maybe you should reevaluate your situation in general. That's literally like saying, "my girl/boy friend apparently loves watching adventure time and quoting the show, I don't know how I feel about it. They're a mystery to me now."


Also, if you're worried about trust issues, talk to her directly. Don't act controlling/needy, just straight up have a talk.

I don't even know what I'm writing anymore at this point.

Started at dating at 14 and now a year old... Which pretty sums up that you're 15. I think there's no need to rush about your sex life. And her loosing weight, it's normal. Girls are aiming for thigh gap now which is really odd *blame the media* If it makes her happy and it's healthy for her and it she feels good about it- support her. Let her do it. And with fakku in her history, I mean what's wrong lol. If it was her to discover you history browser she'd probably get shocked too. But not too shock, because it's normal for boys... And girls as well. I hate it when guys assume girls doesn't read hentai and we fart rainbows- we need it too occasionally lmao 😂

The two don't necessarily correlate with one another since knowing each other since the age of 14 and dating said person for a year doesn't mean that they dated initially after said friendship. They could have been dated dated years later after being friends since 14.

Misaki_Chi gives some sound advice!

Just talk to her dude and figure it out. Relationships take work. Too much work, IMHO. People change. But as long as y'all are committed to each other and work and grow through those changes together, there won't be a problem.

Good luck! (and try not to freak out too much!)

You guys need some serious communication. Communication solves most problems.