I need some advice
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Hi everyone
So here's the problem
I like this girl since last year. I'm in good terms with her. We always talk in MSN for hours about anime, Jpop, Mangas and other stuff. I've told her I like her but she didn't accept my feelings. That made me really depressed. But still she talked to me and I acted to be happy and nothing happened at all. Now it has been a year of trying and I don't know what to do to make her accept my feelings.
Can anyone help me??
So here's the problem
I like this girl since last year. I'm in good terms with her. We always talk in MSN for hours about anime, Jpop, Mangas and other stuff. I've told her I like her but she didn't accept my feelings. That made me really depressed. But still she talked to me and I acted to be happy and nothing happened at all. Now it has been a year of trying and I don't know what to do to make her accept my feelings.
Can anyone help me??
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The best thing is to move on in a situation like this. Pressing will more than likely just push her away further. If you feel you can't move on, just give it time, a lot of time. Not "OK, I've waited a month, let's try again." Keep building your foundation.
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komura-kun wrote...
Hi everyoneSo here's the problem
I like this girl since last year. I'm in good terms with her. We always talk in MSN for hours about anime, Jpop, Mangas and other stuff. I've told her I like her but she didn't accept my feelings.
That's when you drop it.
kommie-kun wrote...
That made me really depressed.Getting a no is not the end of the world.
kommie-kun wrote...
But still she talked to me and I acted to be happy and nothing happened at all.
That's because nothing happened. At all. You got rejected.
kommie-kun wrote...
Now it has been a year of trying and I don't know what to do to make her accept my feelings.You can't make anyone do anything. They have to come about the decision on their own. There is nothing you can do about it. You're just going to have to get over it.
kommie-kun wrote...
Can anyone help me??See every response ever.
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I mean you could try surprising her with something to show her you're thinking of her. but outside of some grand gesture you really can't force much. but you never know after all this time and you guys are still talking you maybe have another good shot. Just don't be forceful about it. Basically...what everyone else said
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Best advice, appreciate the friend relationship you have with her now and stop hoping for more. You've got a great friendship with someone who shares a lot of your interests and who enjoys your conversation. That's just about as rare as finding love and a lot less stressful. Don't blow it by looking for more when she's already told you she likes things the way they are.
I know it sucks when someone doesn't feel the same way about you that you do about them but that's how it is. You can't change the way someone feels. Believe me, I've tried. It's an exercise in frustration, tears, and futility. There's nothing wrong with you, she just feels the way she feels, so don't take it personally. If you weren't a cool guy, she wouldn't talk to you. You gave her the gift of feeling deeply about her and that's a cool thing. Now it's time to respect her feelings and not pressure her about it.
I realize it sounds like cold comfort when you love someone who doesn't love you the same way but appreciate what you DO have with her. Yeah, it's kind of a bummer that you can't have a deeper relationship with her than you already have but just think of how much more it'd suck if you pressed her about it and she stopped being your friend all together. There's someone else out there in the world who'll blow your doors off even more than your friend does right now. You'll find her eventually.
Good luck to you.
I know it sucks when someone doesn't feel the same way about you that you do about them but that's how it is. You can't change the way someone feels. Believe me, I've tried. It's an exercise in frustration, tears, and futility. There's nothing wrong with you, she just feels the way she feels, so don't take it personally. If you weren't a cool guy, she wouldn't talk to you. You gave her the gift of feeling deeply about her and that's a cool thing. Now it's time to respect her feelings and not pressure her about it.
I realize it sounds like cold comfort when you love someone who doesn't love you the same way but appreciate what you DO have with her. Yeah, it's kind of a bummer that you can't have a deeper relationship with her than you already have but just think of how much more it'd suck if you pressed her about it and she stopped being your friend all together. There's someone else out there in the world who'll blow your doors off even more than your friend does right now. You'll find her eventually.
Good luck to you.
