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I need tips for being spontaneous
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I want to be able to surprise my girlfriend.
I already did so today by showing up at her house before 6AM to help her get ready for work. I cooked breakfast and gently kissed her awake and everything. I even told her she was a beautiful person before she left and the look on her face then made me dragging my tired ass out of bed so fucking early my brain was all like "nah, 5, 9more hours, tops."
I want to be able to do more things like that more often. Let me list off all the spontaneous romantic hinges she and I have done to each other.
Things I did to Cherry out of nowhere.
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-share a two flavored jello heart when I admitted to her that I was in love with her and wanted to be her girlfriend. I also made a love fort but I gave that to the twins that day as they needed a safe place to cry.
-Kissing her in the pool in her yard and turning it into a slow dance to a metal song on the radio.
-helping her get ready this morning. See above
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Things Cherry did to me out of nowhere that has given her the title henceforth of Romantic Genius
All of which are in spoilers because I'd like to go into detail at just how she earned that title.
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In the pool the same day I did that slow dancing thing, we were also skinny dipping in in the pool which was something I told her I always wanted to do. She set that up, complete with bed sheets and tarps hung on clotheslines for privacy. She even made me put her bathing suit on slowly as she did the same to me. Only to ask me to strip her down shortly after we got in and acted like kids again, so we could later fuck on that queen size pool float. In full view of the afternoon sun we both finally lost our virginity.
And when we were at climax, Cherry pushed me to the bottom of the pool where she kissed me, still fingering each other as we slowly floated back to the surface of that 4 ft pool where we finally came. Afterwards we were just floating in the water holding hands, and then we decided to go inside and take a nap in the nude in a love fortress she set up because we couldn't use mine before. I was even going to write a story based in this but I got caught and she made me delete it off Fakku with her watching.
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She came into my shower fully clothed just to kiss me. Bitch also walked out and took all my big towels, leaving me with hand towels to dry off with. I'd soon return the favor by kissing her in the middle of a shower but she anticipated this and used it against me. I was not expecting for her to have fucking lit candlesticks for mood lighting and one of those scented oil burners plugged in to smell like wintergreen mints. She was also fully clothed and had Pandora on her phone play classical romance music. We turned the shower head off and had a romantic bath in our clothes with some Mountain Dew As refreshments. We talked about how our dreams may just be our souls playing in our imagination because your soul doesn't need to rest unlike your body.
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Best date of my life and I didn't even have to get out of bed for most of it. Cherry made me breakfast In bed, and after that decent meal. (She's not a great cook but she got the job done. I'm a much better cook than she is) we pretty much cuddled and kissed and talked about stuff all day. No TV, only 1 phone call, just us together in bed all day, and no sex either. We didn't need it.
After ordering in and having dinner in bed she brought me to her bathroom and her rather large tub. We did stuff we'd do getting ready for bed until she turned on her bath. We had another romantic bath together and this time we were naked. She made a bubble bath and added purple and red food coloring, turning the water and bubbles a nice pink. I had a PINK FUCKIN BUBBLE BATH WITH TOO MANY BUBBLES and I felt like a kid again! And I felt I just had to repay her for all the hard work she did to get this and the other scenarios like it (that you've been reading) set up.
I gave her a massage and a good one. She loved it. All the while I was making out with her neck and shoulders and cheeks and stuff, deliberately avoiding the lips so I could her her moan in pleasure. She then dunked my head under the punk bubbly water, held me tightly, and kissed me for 3 seconds before letting me up. We then just stayed under the bubbles because again, there were a lot of them. She started cuddling me and put her head only chest. We had a quick chat about those hotel dreams I keep having. If the water hadn't turned cold an hour later I'm sure we would have fallen asleep in the bath. In fact I think Cherry did snooze on my small boobs for a few minutes.
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And so many more little things here and there that she has done out of nowhere and without me expecting it.
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-deliberately toppling my love fort on my bed one time, claiming a cave in happened and I was stuck with her forever. This was simply because I had to pee in the middle of the night.
-We almost had sex on the couch today because she got horny while watching crime a hows with me. Just as we were getting into it we forgot we invited the Twins over and they saw everything and were even getting off to watching us. Cherry was embarrassed and it killed her mood.
-She got hold of my phone and changed my ringtone when she calls me to a recording of her singing along to "I'm Sexy and I Know it" and replaced the "wiggle wiggle yeah" part to "jiggle jiggle wobble wobble boom boom yeah"(probably about my small boobs to make them seem as big as I wish they were. ) and "I'm" with "you're" thus making the song about how I'm sexy and she knows it. Again, she made this my ringtone for when she calls me.
-She sometimes hums a little tune when we walk together or are in a car. It always ends in her turning to me and smiling with a wink and I don't know what it means yet. Maybe it's just been her way of telling me she is thinking of me, as she also did it often before we were a couple and still just best friends
-last week she gave the Twins 10 bucks each to kiss me on the cheek every time she texted them to do so. This was because she wanted to spend time with me and the twins but had to got to that job she doesn't like. I got kissed 16 times during her 12 hour shift and only 4 hours in was Lemon instructed to tell me why they kissed me 5 times already. I then accepted the other kisses with no hesitation knowing who they were really from.
-lots of minute details in things
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I want to be able to do more things like that in ways she won't see coming so it's surprising. So far I've done an okay job, but I want to do so much better. Do you have any ideas or suggestions on how I can be spontaneously romantic like she can be sometimes?
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Hmmmm i guess i just cant help u xD i have no experience =P where are you misaki_chi hahaha, but now im really curious about her name, its really "Cherry" or it is a "gf nickname" idk exacly =p
Edit: that stories are indeed lovely :D
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[quote="Soumabatata"]Hmmmm i guess i just cant help u xD i have no experience =P where are you misaki_chi hahaha, but now im really curious about her name, its really "Cherry" or it is a "gf nickname" idk exacly =p
Edit: that stories are indeed lovely :D[/quote]
I told you Cherry was a romance genius, and yes that is her first name because of her red cheeks as a baby. It's fitting too because she likes cherries and the color red.
I'm putting a link to a post where I explain me and my friends nicknames in a spoiler below
[spoil]https://www.fakku.net/forums/random/howd-you-get-your-nickname[/spoil]
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Misaki_Chi
Fakku Nurse
[quote="Soumabatata"]Hmmmm i guess i just cant help u xD i have no experience =P where are you misaki_chi hahaha, but now im really curious about her name, its really "Cherry" or it is a "gf nickname" idk exacly =p
Edit: that stories are indeed lovely :D[/quote]
Lol am I like the go to for this stuff now xD
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You two seem pretty cute and spontaneous already so I'll just throw out some things I can think of;
- if you do anything with jewelry, could put it in/on a stuffed animal. My bf bought me a necklace that the stuffed bear had in its backpack. Could do earrings on the animal or a bracelet on the arm of the animal, etc.
- say you have to go run an errand or that your busy and come back home in a fancy/sexy outfit to surprise your woman for a nice night in/out depending. If you know her size and dress preference, could also have an outfit for her to wear too (go with black, it's easy lol). Or just pick something out of her closet she looks great in.
- could always search on the Internet for anything free or unique to do in your area or within a decent driving distance to do. I'm from a beach area so I surprised my bf with a trip to the beach and a picnic. My bf suprised me by taking me to a parrot shelter when I visited him at his hometown. It was really amazing to be able to play with parrots.
- flowers/roses and rose petals are a nice surprise
- if you have access to her computer, could rig something up with that (what idk, but I bet you can do it!!)
- I did a nice photo collage for my bf as an anniversary gift so it could be a nice idea
- massages with oil and music is always nice
- best thing I've done with my bf for the shits and giggles was to put on some soul seductive music and do a strip tease while I'm lip syncing the deep voiced man..... To many laughs x3
- last thing that came to mind is doing something with balloons, flowers, and buy some cheap sparkly stones/fake diamonds at a craft store. Surprise her with these things randomly (such as we walking into rooms and seeing it without you there to show her). Then once she sees them all you can have a note with something special saying, "I would buy you 1000s of diamonds, 100 balloons, a dozen roses, but nothing could be as special as your beautiful smile; it's priceless." [cheesy mode activated!]
- buy a hot tub.... Yeah (-w-)
- watch the sun rise/set if your a nature person lol
- random movie nights are great with popcorn and snacks (pjs are a must!)
- private chip and dale show for your lady lol (look one up to get an idea on how to do it, would be hilarious for the two of you).
- raid the fridge and have a "food play" night (watch the film 9 1/2 weeks to get a better understanding)
- buy some edible underwear for you or your partner to enjoy
- karma sutra time!!
All I can come up with on the spot, if I can come up with anymore I'll post them.
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DatYuriThough
Goddess of Nature
Wow Misaki gave a pretty detailed list so I don't know how much more I can add and still be original, but I'll try.
If you really want to be spontaneous then I would advise trying to find regular, everyday things you two do together that aren't particularly romantic and try and give them a romantic spin. For example: Me any my girlfriend usually feed each-other when eating lunch, it gives us a bit of a laugh and also shows how willing we are to do anything for each-other, hell sometimes if the food is small enough I'll just stick it between my lips and beckon her other to come and get it. That's an example of regular day things you can do. You could also do something romantic like sprinkle roses over your bed if she has had a long day at work, clichéd I know, but it's a sweet thing to do for her.
A final thing I can think of is by just simply surprising her with a random date, literally, maybe instead of having a quiet day inside you can just pull her out and have a random night on the town as a couple. Also try not to over-think it, the point of being spontaneous is to things you wouldn't expect yourself to do, try and leave your comfort zone. Who knows? You might discover something you both love.
Oh! Something I like to do for my girlfriend that I just remembered is leaving little notes or poetry around the house dedicated to her. It's really embarrassing but it will show how dedicated you are again.
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Hopefully I won't repeat what anyone else has said :
- Check when both of you are not working and book a holiday (money permitting). Could even just be a night at a local hotel or a neighboring city or even just a day at the spa, spend the weekend there
-Tell her you're taking her out for a meal and surprising her by laying out a picnic at a park or beach
-Stay awake to watch the sunrise . You could have a romantic breakfast while watching the sun come up
-Buy one of those lover coupons and hide them in special places like books she's reading,her purse, under the pillow, her knicker drawer, on the TV. You could also just leave cute notes like "I love you" etc.
-I think things like cooking dinner or making breakfast are lovely when you weren't expecting it
-Wait for her to come back from work and give her a foot massage (or have the bath ready for both of you)
- Take her to the cinema and start a making out session (if there aren't that many people around)
-Pick a new series for both of you to start watching together. Could be something really crappy or really good, spend the whole day in your pjs eating takeaway\junk food having fun
-Surprise her with different kinds of edible lubes or body chocolate. Maybe just put them next to the toothpaste or in the fridge , it'll catch her attention as something unexpected
-Have sex somewhere public (park,cinema, etc) If both of you are into that
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I'm not the romantic time at all. Like, as a girl, most things girls love I think is ultra cheesy. I do however love practical date like taking a cooking or dancing class....or any class that seems interesting. I also like fun dates like on Saturday I went to the Fox Theatre in Atlanta (google it, it's great!) and went to a Sing along version of Mary Poppins. Singing with a theatre was so fun! And I got to see MP on the big screen! You could also go on outings or events like a museum, or parks (we have screen on the green, where big parks project films and you have a picnic on the grass!) .
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These are good ideas.
Speaking of some of them, the massage with music one is good because I am apparently good at it and the same day I posted this I also made a thread asking for romantic instrumental music.
I don't know if she'd be into public sex in a public area though he did sorta do it in her pool as I mentioned. And apparently it would kill her mood if she got caught but I don't blame her.
I probably should get her some sort if gift. Our "anniversary" as she puts it is coming up soon, but I don't have a job yet so my spending money is tight and comes from my dad. I don't know what the anniversary is for exactly and she knows I don't know what it's about and she won't tell me. We've only dated like two weeks, tops. It can't be the day we met either, that was January.
And I had this idea that I should probably save for valentines day where I cut up my stack of multi colored post it notes in the shape of a heart and write stuff like on the candies, then stick those hearts all over her room and on photos of her and stuff.
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When I'm spontaneous to my girlfriend she would be like wtf are you doing (Kaypi) and just laugh guess its not for everyone.
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That sounds so beautiful it could easily have come from a novel.
I couldn't imagine in a million years anyone wanting to do anything romantic with me, (cause I'm crazy and socially awkward) but I have recorded many ideas and I might as well let someone else have them, I'll find the book and write some down.
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Misaki_Chi
Fakku Nurse
[quote="NutritiousGoop"]We've only dated like two weeks, tops.[/quote]
You guys have only been dating for two weeks?
If that is the case (unless it was worded wrong). You shouldn't worry about the whole spontaneous thing. You don't want to burn out before you two have even begun to flourish.
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[quote="Misaki_Chi"][quote="NutritiousGoop"]We've only dated like two weeks, tops.[/quote]
You guys have only been dating for two weeks?
If that is the case (unless it was worded wrong). You shouldn't worry about the whole spontaneous thing. You don't want to burn out before you two have even begun to flourish.[/quote]
That is indeed a good point, but I can still use some of these ideas in the future. If Cherry does do another thing like that then I should probably tell her to slow down because yeah we don't want to burn out so quickly.
Though Cherry has been known to do all kinds of random acts of kindness to me and others ever since I met her in middle school. She is at the same time one of the most generous but sometimes incompetent people I know. Even if she fails at something (which happened a few times in the years I've known her) her heart is always in the right place when doing so. So I doubt she'll stop with the smaller stuff at least and save the bigger stuff for later. And if not I'm going to tell her to slow down with the romantic set ups.
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Misaki_Chi
Fakku Nurse
[quote="NutritiousGoop"][quote="Misaki_Chi"][quote="NutritiousGoop"]We've only dated like two weeks, tops.[/quote]
You guys have only been dating for two weeks?
If that is the case (unless it was worded wrong). You shouldn't worry about the whole spontaneous thing. You don't want to burn out before you two have even begun to flourish.[/quote]
That is indeed a good point, but I can still use some of these ideas in the future. If Cherry does do another thing like that then I should probably tell her to slow down because yeah we don't want to burn out so quickly.
Though Cherry has been known to do all kinds of random acts of kindness to me and others ever since I met her in middle school. She is at the same time one of the most generous but sometimes incompetent people I know. Even if she fails at something (which happened a few times in the years I've known her) her heart is always in the right place when doing so. So I doubt she'll stop with the smaller stuff at least and save the bigger stuff for later. And if not I'm going to tell her to slow down with the romantic set ups.[/quote]
Not a bad thing to consider and it also makes a difference that you two have known each other for a while so you know one another to a degree. Just don't get into that competitive "gotta one up" each other thing where the next thing has to be bigger and crazier. A friend of mine was like that with an ex of his and it sort of got outta hand and drove the girl off (tried too hard too fast). You two sound cute so I wish you the best in your future spontaneous endeavors :)
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This only works if she's the type who loves to shop. And if you have a decent job.
Take her to her favorite mall and simply tell her, get whatever you like. If there's one things all girls love is getting new things.
And if you're looking for something for when ya do the nasty K&J makes really good lub and best part about lub is that you have to wash it off when you're done so that usually leads to more fun in the shower.
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[quote="lezaH"]This only works if she's the type who loves to shop. And if you have a decent job.
Take her to her favorite mall and simply tell her, get whatever you like. If there's one things all girls love is getting new things.
And if you're looking for something for when ya do the nasty K&J makes really good lub and best part about lub is that you have to wash it off when you're done so that usually leads to more fun in the shower.[/quote]
Fist off, thanks Misaki_chi for your blessing of good luck.
Secondly as much as I'd love to take her shopping our money is tight because I'm still unemployed and looking for a place that's hireing and Cherry became unemployed yesterday.
I'm game for spending more time in the bath though. I like baths and her presence makes it even more relaxing with someone to cuddle while she rubs soap on my back
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When you have sex, spontaneously insert your penis into her anus, and when she opens her mouth to protest point a party popper at her face and set it off yelling "Surprise!!!"
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[quote="Princess Molestia"]aaaand I think they're both women[/quote]
All it takes is willpower, gender is irrelevant.
Just like this:
[img]http://31.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lc75nurPI91qct2yqo1_400.gif[/img]
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[quote="King Dingaling"][quote="Princess Molestia"]aaaand I think they're both women[/quote]
All it takes is willpower, gender is irrelevant.
Just like this:
[img]http://31.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lc75nurPI91qct2yqo1_400.gif[/img][/quote]
Ummm. I don't think I want a penis, or a moustasche thanks.
I assume if have to somehow enlarge my clitoris to make that work. I don't wanna do that