I rejected a guy, and now I like him.

Okay this might sounds stupid but, there's this guy who used to court me... I kind of like him too but I rejected him because of our religion differences. And after a few months, I started to appreciate how much of a good guy he was, I'm such a sucker for rejecting him. I want yo get him back, but I'm worried that I'm might seem desperate, and I can't help it but to send him messages. Haha it's so stupid but I really like him now, what should I do?

Err, i dunno, talk to him?

If he is easy going then he will understand.

I would give this some more thought before you jump right into the deep end. To flip from rejecting him one minute to liking him the next can be extreme if timed poorly. Also got to consider his feelings in all of this, because depending on how things went down the poor guy may have had his feelings hurt.

If you two are still on good terms then you can try to be open with him about things, but keep in mind that the ball is now in his court. He can either accept your reasoning and want to go out or he could just want to be friends (technically he can even decide not to hear what you have to say). Overall just think through what you'd want to say to him if you go for a relationship with this guy and be open to talking it out if it's a possibility. Don't forget to take things slow if need be.

With religion and dating you're going to have to figure out just how important that is to you. If it's something you feel like will be important in your future you may just want to move on yourself. If you find that the quality of a person is more important to you, then date a person and see where things go from there.

Religion and politics are not good subjects to bring up with anyone right away let alone in the beginning of a relationship. You basically learn to get to know a person generally then over time you can come to talk about such sensitive subjects. The way you can also look at it is why are you going to fight about something when you don't even know the persons favorite color yet?

Personally speaking, I use to think that religion was important in my prospects for a partner. Over time though I found that I prefer a quality person vs a religious person. My current boyfriend and I are of different faiths, but we've been dating for more then a year and a half. We've talked about our values quite a bit and we both respect one another's faith for it's similarities/differences.

Basically you just need to be open to communicating with your partner because you'll be different on a lot of things. How you two handle them will be the tough part (or easy depending on if its the right person).

If the pussy is tight then it all right.

I'd tread carefully. Depending on what kind of person he is, he is either hurt about it/ has a broken heart, or has moved on.
If you don't go about it the right way, you could seem like you're treading on his feelings/ fucking with him. Or, could feel like he's getting strung along.

But, what misaki said covers it pretty well.

as a guy, you have nothing to worry about. just tell him you didnt like him before he confesed, but after he did, you started thinking about him, and now you like him.

Well just say that you were wrong and that your religions shouldn't stop you two from getting it on.

Religion can be a tricky subject though and shouldn't be taken lightly. It's not something you have to hash out on the first date with a person, but if you find that you have high religious values then you should probably find a person with similar ones when fishing around. Some people won't even have sex before marriage due to their devout faith or will want their future children to be of the same religion, etc, etc.

I remember dating an very devout christian. We msged each other for a long time (numbers were exchanged through a mutual friend) and we got along great generally. Once we met and talked together I found that he was much more religious then I was. I didn't see anything wrong with it, but he was a guy who would do nothing before marriage and put his faith before anything else.... I wasn't of a similar mindset to say the least. We ended up just calling it off since both of us were too different in that aspect and neither of us could bend far enough to compromise.

tl;dr everyone's different on this subject so my main advice is to first figure out how important certain things like religion, culture, personal hobbies, political standpoints, family, etc are to you. From there you meet people and if you meet someone you really like and get along with. Your values can change and learning to bend for another person is important. Biggest thing is just being able to talk out your differences and to come to a compromise such as being respectful or assimilating others values into your own.

I agree,but as a guy, that is what I would want.

As a guy who went a similar path (girl started to like me after she rejected me) I will suggest you this.

Since months passed, time is on your favor now. You can go ahead and talk to him. Don't expect another confession but rather take the initiative and open your heart to him, telling the truth. If you really like him take the chance and don't wait. If you let too much time to pass he will lose interest in romance and will leave it at friendship.

My first love rejected me twice. I was a shy guy that needed to practice in my room how to talk to a girl without a cold sweat and mustering that courage two times was a lot of effort. 2 years passed and she started to like me a lot since I wasn't that shy anymore. I told her that we could be good friends, but I also honestly confessed to her that if her confession was a year early, I would have accepted

Man I wish girls that rejected me would change their mind and come after me. But they never have.

This is almost unheard of though. I say go after that son of a bitch, he'll likely be happy about it.

Question is, does he still have the hots for you? If he does, it'll be an easier battle. Just lead him on with subtle hints and he'll eventually confess again.

If not, oh well it'll be much harder.

It's really not that uncommon,

Basically if someone feels a certain way and you do subtle things like flirting, eye contact, get a little closer body-wise, and making simple gestures "you're really nice" or "you're a great guy you know?"

Some women do it to keep from embarrassing themselves by flat out saying "this is how I feel and this is how I want things to be". I've done that a few times, but sometimes being that bluntly honest can actually scare the guy away instead of landing them. All guys are different and even though they want a girl to like them and to be upfront, cold feet can get the best of anyone when a person is not ready to make serious decisions. Being a little subtle before you confess and open some guys up to the idea of trying to confess themselves or it can also be a testing of the waters for women (meaning that if a guy is reciprocating your flirtation then you can try going further or if he's not into it, then pull back and move on).



Nothing is 100% full proof and saying to do one thing doesn't always necessarily work out. It's why I like to say to take my words and other's with a grain of salt since even if you did something a certain way, another way may work better. Some guys may not like the direct approach and may feel more comfortable confessing themselves if they know the girl is into him.

PS incase you don't get a response, you can always quote them since it leaves a msg in your inbox you were quoted.

just go with it the worst that could happen is rejection

Oh great, someone mistakes me for having a vagina.

Seriously though, I'm just using common sense and the teachings of my college professors. According to what I've learned in College, subtle hints are way more powerful and influential than words. That's the reason why you walk out of an interview feeling as if you're gonna get the job/lose it even if the guy didn't look happy/was smiling all the time. Unconscious body language is a lot more honest than the human mouth.

Now there is a difference between knowing body language and actually possessing the capacity to understand it and utilize it. Only way you're gonna do that is practice, as in looking out for hints/using these to your advantage.

Not necessary. I think it happen quite often (or so it does in my group of friends) My friends and I usually think more about a guy AFTER rejecting them. Maybe because we wouldn't have expected him to confess in the first place, and it is weird in our society. since for some reason it is more common to "hook up" over confessing. Gives goddamn headaches. Of course the better the impression they leave and the more familiar we are with the person the longer we think and the bigger is the chance that we might start consider if he actually could be of interest. And before we know it we might be so conscious of the guy that we get nervous and eventually develop a crush.

I think it is because before a guy confessing to you, it might not even have stroked the girl's mind that the guy could be of love interest especially if it is a long time friendship. Or the opposite that you once had a crush but brushed it away for the sake of the friendship and all the feelings now lie in the past.




I think it depends on what culture you grew up in. Since here people are really really intimidate also if they might only be on friendly basis, also I think it differ from person to person. Some person are just more touchy and hugging all the time, it might be hard to tell if they like you or just hugs you because they 'like' you in a caring not love way. tbh I think I'm one of these dense persons who don't even know what kind of signals I send with my behavior D: Therefore I would ALWAYS prefer being being direct and telling me with words.