Internet Relationships
Internet relationships
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gizmo wrote...
all i can say about this topic is that i'm working on it and i want to believe in it >_<As long as there is one person who believes, nothing is impossible :D
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I'm pretty shy in real life, but I met a girl online a while back.
And everything just like, clicked. I found my dream girl.
Internet relationships are pretty hard since you cant see each other in person usually and really interact and such, but for me anyway, it eliminated all the barriers that would have otherwise prevented me from finding such a wonderful girl.
When I met her IRL it was pretty awkward - but after that we were like any other couple.
What I'm really getting at is that internet relationships can work, it just depends on how much effort you both put into it.
And everything just like, clicked. I found my dream girl.
Internet relationships are pretty hard since you cant see each other in person usually and really interact and such, but for me anyway, it eliminated all the barriers that would have otherwise prevented me from finding such a wonderful girl.
When I met her IRL it was pretty awkward - but after that we were like any other couple.
What I'm really getting at is that internet relationships can work, it just depends on how much effort you both put into it.
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@ Jizg - You're right, man! The key word is effort.
@ nightclock - As long as there is one person who believes, nothing is impossible. (Exactly, and I want to believe that and give it my best shot)
I met the sweetest, funniest and playful pervert on the net and we got along so well that a relationship just blossomed. We both understood the challenges of having one (internet relationship) and worked our ass off at turning it into a reality. Even our folks had to get some getting use to with our pairing. And having extra disposable income/cash is definitely a big boost to the relationship cause you'll need to make the phone calls and regular trips to meet each other. It would have otherwise been impossible. So many factors come into play when sustaining any kind of relationship. I looking forward to see how much further this relationship will lead us to. *pray for me?* ^^
@ nightclock - As long as there is one person who believes, nothing is impossible. (Exactly, and I want to believe that and give it my best shot)
I met the sweetest, funniest and playful pervert on the net and we got along so well that a relationship just blossomed. We both understood the challenges of having one (internet relationship) and worked our ass off at turning it into a reality. Even our folks had to get some getting use to with our pairing. And having extra disposable income/cash is definitely a big boost to the relationship cause you'll need to make the phone calls and regular trips to meet each other. It would have otherwise been impossible. So many factors come into play when sustaining any kind of relationship. I looking forward to see how much further this relationship will lead us to. *pray for me?* ^^
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i think it could work if the two people invoved are really that on love or interested in each other
my brother met his gf online and they had been going out for over two years but they were both unfaithful and split a couple of months ago but my brother is a man whore and she was hot and depressed so it was inevitable really.
my brother met his gf online and they had been going out for over two years but they were both unfaithful and split a couple of months ago but my brother is a man whore and she was hot and depressed so it was inevitable really.
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yep the shit part is that i know i would have been ten times better for her but she was toataly not interested in me :(
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I think online relationships work . I play on xbox live all the time and I became friends with this guy I meet on call of duty 4 . We got to know each other as we played online and on the phone because i gave him my number . He ask me out and I wasn't sure about a online relationship but I said yes . We are doing great and I can't wait to see him when I am 18 because right now im 17 and he is now 21 . But when I am 18 I am moving in with him .
Other Facts : He lives in NY
: I live in PA
: We been dating for 2 years
: We have had some little problems
: He comes down in his car to see me a lot in the summer
Other Facts : He lives in NY
: I live in PA
: We been dating for 2 years
: We have had some little problems
: He comes down in his car to see me a lot in the summer
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Ramsus wrote...
As far as internet relationships go...I'd have to say they generally don't work. I've seen people try and fail a few times. I likely only has a chance of success if the people involved intend to quickly make it a rl relationship.
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I had a horrible experience where i met a girl online. She was really fun and i would have gotten along with her but unfortunately when we met she just wasn't the same person as in the pictures. I know its shallow but it just was not going to work out.
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As of tonight, I can't say that Internet Relationships work due to the fact that I found out my (now ex) girlfriend dumped me by taking me off her Facebook friends and listing a guy as her relationship partner.
I'm not saying they won't work, however, I wouldn't say it is possible all the time. If you're both hopeful, then possibly.
I'm not saying they won't work, however, I wouldn't say it is possible all the time. If you're both hopeful, then possibly.
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Takerial
Lovable Teddy Bear
They can work, but both parties have to be in it for a real relationship after some point.
If even one of the parties isn't seeking a real relationship, it won't work.
And even if you both want a real relationship, just like with relationships, sometimes they just don't work.
So it can be hard, very hard. But it can also work.
If even one of the parties isn't seeking a real relationship, it won't work.
And even if you both want a real relationship, just like with relationships, sometimes they just don't work.
So it can be hard, very hard. But it can also work.
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They work, as long as both are willing to go further than just Internet, that's obvious.
I am myself in a LDR, that started on a well-known website to hold a manga/anime list, I met her there almost 11 months ago. And until 5 days ago and for a month, I was at her home, living with her during the holidays, and I spent the best month of my whole life there by her side.
We are now engaged. And also, she's living at 3600Km from me, she's Russian, I'm French, and we're planning to spend plenties of other months together, and we also have plans for the future.
Internet Relationships, if they turn into LDR, yes, they work, but you need to be absolutely in love, that's the only condition.
I am myself in a LDR, that started on a well-known website to hold a manga/anime list, I met her there almost 11 months ago. And until 5 days ago and for a month, I was at her home, living with her during the holidays, and I spent the best month of my whole life there by her side.
We are now engaged. And also, she's living at 3600Km from me, she's Russian, I'm French, and we're planning to spend plenties of other months together, and we also have plans for the future.
Internet Relationships, if they turn into LDR, yes, they work, but you need to be absolutely in love, that's the only condition.
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They don't work. Not saying they will never work. But from watching my best friend/cousin closely. It doesn't work. It may be likely to find someone that may have common interest such as MMO's, anime or even music. For example, "Perfect Wold" is probably the best game and most common for relationships. Maybe you get to know the person in your interest in game or maybe even get their "myspace." But the experience you get from a physical love and the actual person you love being with you is unmatched. You actually get into your partners lives and they become your life. Some cases they do work; If two really deeply loved each other and really and i mean really commited on both sides to take it beyond online. But the fact that you and your partner can understand each other much better and get to know each other instead of just sitting behind a screen webcaming and using avatars such as imvu and mmo's.
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Since I'm pretty sure this thread is about gf/bf I will only briefly mention just regular friendships. On this front definitely! I started going to a gaming website and became friends with the people who frequent it. I'm closer to them then the people I went to school with for 12 years. I'm actually going up to the New England area of the states to meet up with a bunch of them and hang out together.
On the GF/BF side of relationship honestly I think a purely online relationship will never work, this is especially true for someone like me who is a physical person. I'll admit it I'm a hugger :3 But as people have said if your aim is to eventually move beyond the web and into RL I believe it can work. Actually I know it can. ONLY ONLY ONLY if the people involved truly love each other and are completely dedicated. Two of my friends fell for each other over the internet. One lives in BC, Canada and the other in England. They actually met IRL for the first time this week and it is going extremely well. We will have to see if it survives, but since their plan is eventually to get married I think and hope it will. (btw they had been talking/dating for over a year beforehand)
I think one problem people online have is also a positive. You can be more outgoing and it’s just easier to let loose. But this can come back to bite you because if you aren’t like that IRL it’s not going to be the same. I'm lucky in that I'm pretty outgoing IRL and I'm good at diffusing others shyness because I am very open (I also excite easily XD). Another part of this is that when it comes to online you can hide things about yourself whether it’s your shyness or bad habits or even one’s own appearance, but with IRL you can't hide from that. When you do meet all that will come out and if you aren’t completely open in that relationship then it is never going to work. You can't base a great relationship on that and you need strong bonds and a lot of trust. I also personally believe that you have to like them on multiply levels, not just the physical and funny , but the deep and emotional levels as well. There are some other points that people have made and I’m sure some that I haven’t thought of, but the above is generally the important points, in my opinion.
So knowing full well how incredibly difficult it is I must admit that I have fallen quite hard for someone I met online. Unfortunately for me that person isn’t in favor of an internet relationship (;-;). But as of now I’m alright with just working on deepening the friendship I have with him. Being able to talk to him as much as I do is enough for me and I wouldn’t want to push him. There is a possibility I will get to meet him when I go to meet my friends in New England, so we’ll see how things go. Btw I am the type of person who would travel across the land, searching far and wide for the one I love.
Wow that’s a lot of words. >_< Sorry for any terrible grammar or if you don’t agree that’s fine it’s just my opinion on the subject.
Tl;Dr I won’t be offended if you don’t read the whole thing. Short version is: Yes, but you need to be honest, real, and work harder than you have in any other type of relationship. IMO
SIDENOTE: Talking through skype/or regular phonecalls, webcam chats, and integrating that person into your RL (i.e. Facebook etc.) are good ways of starting to move forward. Like dipping your feet in a pool and slowly lowering yourself in, getting use to it first.
On the GF/BF side of relationship honestly I think a purely online relationship will never work, this is especially true for someone like me who is a physical person. I'll admit it I'm a hugger :3 But as people have said if your aim is to eventually move beyond the web and into RL I believe it can work. Actually I know it can. ONLY ONLY ONLY if the people involved truly love each other and are completely dedicated. Two of my friends fell for each other over the internet. One lives in BC, Canada and the other in England. They actually met IRL for the first time this week and it is going extremely well. We will have to see if it survives, but since their plan is eventually to get married I think and hope it will. (btw they had been talking/dating for over a year beforehand)
I think one problem people online have is also a positive. You can be more outgoing and it’s just easier to let loose. But this can come back to bite you because if you aren’t like that IRL it’s not going to be the same. I'm lucky in that I'm pretty outgoing IRL and I'm good at diffusing others shyness because I am very open (I also excite easily XD). Another part of this is that when it comes to online you can hide things about yourself whether it’s your shyness or bad habits or even one’s own appearance, but with IRL you can't hide from that. When you do meet all that will come out and if you aren’t completely open in that relationship then it is never going to work. You can't base a great relationship on that and you need strong bonds and a lot of trust. I also personally believe that you have to like them on multiply levels, not just the physical and funny , but the deep and emotional levels as well. There are some other points that people have made and I’m sure some that I haven’t thought of, but the above is generally the important points, in my opinion.
So knowing full well how incredibly difficult it is I must admit that I have fallen quite hard for someone I met online. Unfortunately for me that person isn’t in favor of an internet relationship (;-;). But as of now I’m alright with just working on deepening the friendship I have with him. Being able to talk to him as much as I do is enough for me and I wouldn’t want to push him. There is a possibility I will get to meet him when I go to meet my friends in New England, so we’ll see how things go. Btw I am the type of person who would travel across the land, searching far and wide for the one I love.
Wow that’s a lot of words. >_< Sorry for any terrible grammar or if you don’t agree that’s fine it’s just my opinion on the subject.
Tl;Dr I won’t be offended if you don’t read the whole thing. Short version is: Yes, but you need to be honest, real, and work harder than you have in any other type of relationship. IMO
SIDENOTE: Talking through skype/or regular phonecalls, webcam chats, and integrating that person into your RL (i.e. Facebook etc.) are good ways of starting to move forward. Like dipping your feet in a pool and slowly lowering yourself in, getting use to it first.
