Online Relationships

Has anyone here had an online relationship?

If so, how long did it last? What methods did you use to keep it going?

I've just entered an online relationship with someone who lives in America, and I'm from Europe.

And, no, I'm not too comfortable with masturbating with her over webcam!

I wouldn't say I'm in one right now, but my relationship with a certain someone's going in that direction. Call her up if you can. Maybe you could try phone sex, or just a little flirting over the phone or Skype or something. Just talk to her whenever you can and get to know eachother. Don't think of it as anything other than a standard long distance relationship.

Thanks for the advice.

Well, we did do a little "roleplay" sex over skype, but she's currently not ready to go anywhere beyond touching. And I respect that.

I was in one back in the beginning of high school. It lasted about 8 months I think and we had phone sex to keep it interesting.

Edit: We also cybered too probably, I don't remember, it was a long time ago.

Never had one, but I can say this from my vicarious experiences with online-only relationships: when you start to really yearn for each other, you're gonna have to close that distance fast. Otherwise, it starts getting toxic.

I think they're immature and a waste of time. If you don't have plans to meet in the near future, then it isn't a real relationship in my opinion.

Yeah, I can see where you're coming from. But, then again, if you talk to someone thousands of miles away, you might fall in love with them without any choice.

If that happens, starting an online relationship is really the only thing you can do.

I had one. It was the best time then became the lowest time of my life and still is. Calculate your chances to be together carefully, if it is getting more difficult I suggest ALL PERSONNEL EVACUATE IMMEDIATELY I REPEAT ALL PERSONNEL EVACUATE IMMEDIATELY THIS IS NOT A DRILL

Do yourself a favor and safe yourself before things went south.

A long distance relationship is not quite a whole relationship. They don't go to events with you, meet your friends, or meet family. It is also easier to avoid conflicts which would occur only in person or dealing with problems together. Less conflicts may sound nice, but they really help relationships grow and test how you feel for each other. The world is more than two people talking. Being a couple is facing things together. I think internet can be a nice way to meet but if it becomes serious you need to visit each other. I personally have had online friendships and avoided anything more for those reasons. I hope things go well for you :)

lol Yeah this has pretty much become my opinion. I look back on mine and I'm like "Wow that was dumb." But I guess to be fair, at the time I was dumb and immature.

I suppose if you could call it that. The whole long distance thing sucks but I still believe if enough effort is put in it can work out. It is just really difficult dealing with not actually meeting up and going on a date or to events and such. Insecurity resulting from that distance really can suck but I don't see any way around it since unlike irl you can't really tell how close your significant other is to the people they know. Not to mention if one person is busy for a long amount of time you can suffer from a lack of communication. If both sides are understanding and can get past this and eventually meet up it could work out.

Though in my opinion the month of an "online relationship" I had really just wasn't a good experience. I do think online relationships work, it is just highly rare and requires a lot of understanding on both sides as well as effort on both sides to make the relationship work through both bad and good times. Including getting past arguments and such.

Good luck to you but if you really are uncomfortable with that whole thing about masturbating on skype tell her. I'm sure she'll understand.

Agreed. Don't keep anything from her. If she's not having it, then you can either try to work something out or step back & assess the situation. As of today things are going well between myself and the other party, mostly due to us being comfortable with eachother's anxieties and tastes. Maybe meeting her on a blatantly NSFW site factors into it, but back to the point. If you really want this to work, then all you have to do is try.

[color=blue]I haven't been in one but my brother has.
It didn't go well.[/color]

I'm not one for online/ long distance relationships... I just can't see it working/ I like to be there for the person I'm with. Being online just doesn't cut it. That and there isn't much physical-emotional contact. I mean, sure you can send words of emotion, but it doesn't have the same effect as hugging, or actually saying something to somebody. Such as tilting their chin, and giving them a nice passionate kiss.

Relationship as in, a girlfriend who is far away and that I've never seen face to face, no, I've never been in one of those and don't intend to be. I have, however, met girls who enjoy having sex chats. Sometimes we would chat about other things as well and we knew something about each other but, at the end of the day, we were online sex buddies.

In my view, when an online relationship is composed of two people very, very serious about each other, it is a rather sad affair. I think this is quite a rare instance though. The most common one, again, in my view, is to have a person who is somewhat interested in the relationship whereas the other isn't and is probably chatting with ten people at the same time which is half as sad as the previous example but, paradoxically, twice as sad at the same time.

Online relationships are hilarious.

Can you really call them relationships?

I didn't know you visited this part of the forum.

I always read posts, I rarely reply.

Holy mother.. That's a really cynical look at women.

I guess I've never really thought about Online relationships in depth. That being said, I would have to say that I agree with some people have been saying. It's not really a complete relationship because you lack the very important variable of being compatible around one another. It's not to say all Online relationships are bad, because they can spawn real and meaningful relationships someday. You'll never truly know them if you never meet them though.