Online Relationships

Right especially if the girl is going to meet the guy! if she goes all alone! *worries* I would definitely want to meet up somewhere public and make sure the guy was the nice person I have talked with and not some dude going for gang rape (sry being on hentai sites makes my imagination quite wild). But if the guy were to go meet the girl I think it would be cool if the guy offered the girl to take a friend or family member with her just when meeting up. I did that a lot when meeting online friends when I was younger. I would bring my brother to the meeting place and the friend would (sometimes) greet my bro and then we would go separate ways. My friend and I would usually go shopping or to a cafe or something. But just knowing my brother was nearby IF anything was to happen was super calming. Remember not all girls know self defence and most girls are weaker than guys!

Oh god... my head. Fixed up my last post, sorry, friends were celebrating my belated birthday last night, we started drinking and watched REC. My throat hurts from screaming and crying from last night.


And refering to above, I totally understand that feeling, it sounds awefuly frightning meeting a guy you haven't seen irl before. The girl in toronto I visited almost stood me up in the middle of the city after my plane flew in. She started getting second thoughts I was this terrifying guy out to get her, it's legit some plot taken right out of a horror movie. I never thought of having a friend come as well when you first meet up, it would have probably solved a lot of anxiety the first day... haha. It was really awkward as well when I told my parents I was going out of country to visit a girl I met online. The color drained from their faces and I felt aweful.

I feel like this should be mentioned to people more often, because I know a lot of people get upset and worried over meeting in essence, a stranger for the first time. Having a friend or two or family involved with the first or second meeting (they stay on the side lines while the two love birds get to know one another) would be a bit of a stress reliever.

Parent's will be parents and a lot of people are against online relationships (it's that whole generational thing), but you just do what is best for yourself and hope your family will come around.... or just don't mention it and tell them little white lies till you get serious or hitched; some don't even tell the truth to their families period.

Online relationships can only work on two instances.
1. The relationship started face to face and were separated for temporary moment due to work or school.
2. The online relationship progresses from seeing each other online to seeing each other in person.

I had a few "relationships" online but there is a lack of intimacy to it. You can talk all you want but sometimes a girl wants hands other than hers on her. If can only see each other 3-4 times a year and for short periods to me that isn't enough.

Based on my personal experience, I wholeheartedly agree with both points.

[size=12]Well, we tried roleplaying and sop.. it goes well for the both of us though.. And our relationship is already 18 months now..[/h]

This is a really god piece of advice. Online relationships can get toxic pretty fast and become more of a health hazard than anything else.
On the other hand, one thing you and her could do is play MMO's together. When I was in an online relationship we got married in this MMO and adopted out friend and stuff and it was all pretty fun. It's only a game but it can make the whole long distance thing easier.

Never develop a relationship past friendship over the internet.

Why? Because shitty expectations, that's why. It'll be easier for you to meet a friend than to meet someone you've been getting high hopes of, masturbated on cam with or have been talking about love and sex with. Plus if you never get to meet the person, things will just get shitty.

I've seen it far too many times, the scenario where they think it'll be all lovely and easy and they end up not liking the person afterall because they had different expectations.

I was in an online relationship around three years ago that lasted for six months. It started out fine but got worse as it went on and didn't end well. I wouldn't recommend becoming serious with anyone over the internet, it just leads to lots and lots of frustration.

my last online relationship lasted about 6 months about a year ago

Nah, ive never had a online relationship, tbh i never had any relationship xd

Most I ever gave to one was like 2 weeks, I soon realized it was utterly pointless and she said she wasn't gonna show me her boobs on cam.
Meeting online is fine, but I don't want to keep it online for very long, it gets very dull.

I had one when I was maybe 12 or 13.

Looking back at it now. I was pretty lame for having one

I have known a few people this has worked out quite well for out of my friends, although so far not worked out for me... (not so easy meeting people that have the same interests... unless their soooo far away T_T)

As for my friends i have 2 that i could mentions, the first met his g/f on an online chat, they spoke for a good year and realized they lived about 2 hours from each other, she was the first girl my friend had trusted in years after a bad break up and they are still together now (getting married next June).

the second is a friend from Estonia who is dating a girl from Slovenia and they had known each other for about 5 years before they started to date, she was the first to go meet him, stayed at his house for about a month (his mum was there too) and just recently he stayed at her parents for 4 months, it seems they will be doing the same thing until he can afford to move to Slovenia or they decide on somewhere else to move... either way both are quite happy endings.

In the end what i'm basically saying is you should consider your future with that person, if your going to be able to meet, where you wish to be living in the future, can you trust that person? and is that person worth it? All these are can feel a bit messed up but it can avoid quite a lot of pain from both sides if things become more serious but for example there was no way you could ever meet.

Also I agree with xhimitsu a girl should always bring someone to meet the other person at the start, to be honest I'd say the same about the guy too (I'm quite weak from being ill for so long so if i met up with someone I'd probably not be able to fight off most... XD)

Sorry I'm not too good with grammar or spelling so some of this may be a bit confusing lol.

In my teenage years they made up the entirety of my lovelife.

Did they work? No.

Why? Young, dumb and the wrong people.

nope, never had an online relationship. i wouldnt be against it though, i'd try it.

I should add, with my past relationship, I was 15 and naive. i was desperate for a boyfriend. And I'm sure that didn't help with the longevity of our relationship. With who i am now, I'd never do it again. Unless he agreed to move to where I am.

I met my current partner online on an anime forum when I was about 15 and we were friendly (not exactly friends) for a long time. Nothing happened until I had graduated from high school as that was when we started to seriously chat a lot (MSN/vent/skype/phone calls). It's been 5 years since we've been 'officially' together and at the 2nd year of being together, he moved from the US to be with me.

In terms of keeping the relationship going, just treat it as a standard long distance relationship. Call frequently, chat online, etc, etc and do whatever you're comfortable with.

If you want the relationship to workout in the long term, you have to have an idea of where you want the relationship to be. You'll have to work out how to be physically close to each other. In my case, my partner chose to move to be with me because of the two of us, he was more able to do such a move. Financially and educationally wise, he was more stable so he made the decision to move to me.

From the start of this relationship we had established that this was going to be a serious thing that the both of us will invest in so there was never a moment of doubt that we were going to make the relationship work.

That's my two cents, I hope it helped you.
Good luck to you and your girlfriend! I hope it all works out for the best!

Had an online relationship when I was still into text based roleplaying. Lasted for about a year. I was still a immature teen, so I told her we should just be friends since she didn't like cybering.

I have a cousin who married someone he met online and my aunt is currently in an online relationship with a guy who lives in England. I'm worried about her because she's new to romance and tends to be naive. Its only been three months and she's already talking about marrying the guy. He plans to come to the states by the end of the year. I just hope he's not playing around with her.

I was in a LDR with someone for 2 years. We kept in touch though Facebook, Skype, and Voxer and I believe it was the longest relationship I have ever been in. Haven't dated anyone since, though.