rejected and insulted

has anybody ever had the experience when you asked somebody out they reject you and then proceed to insult you? it happened to me once.i asked out this girl i knew but she said no she then told me "if you want someone to hangout with go on craigslist".

i found it funny but then i realized how much of low blow that was. I really liked her too. i felt like shit for the whole week (i had a week off from work) i was hoping she would have gave me a chance too. I told some of my friends and family they had a laugh out of it but all agreed on how fucked up that was. i hate to bring this up but they all told me she rejected me because i'm a redskin and she is white. even so when i asked out other girls (black/latina) they rejected me because of a social statues/wealth. this one latina girl asked me what kind of car i drive when i took her once. i drive a Honda ( VTEC just kicked in yo!) but i guess she wasnt inpressed by it because after our date she avoided me as much as possible. the bachelor life fucking sucks. i feel i'll never find love in todays world where people only look at race, wealth, and statues

All men who talk to women get this. It's part of the game.

Like freaks said, it's just part of life. Same thing happens to women as well. I use to find it flattering when guys noticed me, but usually they wouldn't last long since they only wanted my ass or they thought I was something I'm not (I'm super nerdy so it's a bit of a shock for people since I don't come across as such).

What the girl did was fucked up, but you just have to keep moving on till you find the right girl to love and accept you. Sad to say no one has to be nice in life, but you just take the good with the bad and hopefully the next person you meet is better. Also, I would try not to get too upset at people who don't like you for X reason. Believe me I know it sucks to hear, but think to yourself that if they are judging you on such a reason as race then probably wouldn't want them anyways.

You have to see it from a woman's perspective. They will get hit on by at least 6 guys a hour in a club or bar every hour... if there a nice looking chick. Sometimes or all the time by someone she doesn't want. Women instinctively can tell with in a few secs to a min if they wanta fuck you. You will say 'well i don't want to fuck you now', but that instinct is the base for all relationships, even if she doesn't want to have sex with you yet.... she still wants to sooner or later.

My wife didn't like me when we met, but i got under her skin enough she saw me as a suitable sexual partner. The instinct isn't always right or realistic. We dated, then broke up and stay friends(with some benefits). I live with her when i was home from duty.... eventually we got back together and got hitched. Life is strange.

When you talk to girls and they turn you down you can't get depressed or mad. That part of dating. If she was a cunt then it's better off because she gonna be one if she went off with you. If you get a number every ten offered then you doing good.

getting rejected is part of life for us guys, sometimes rejections come from how they think we are and this results in insults and humiliations that I do not wish to anyone.

When I was younger I was considered "desperate" to get a girlfriend when I was in high school. When in reality I have been up to that point in an all boys school and my experience talking with girls was zero. Some girls made fun of me, others call me gay and made fun of me. And probably caused me to be rejected by my first love (she was kind, thankfully, but I now I believe it was from those misconceptions).

When you got insulted, now that the rage period is over, think. Why would she say that to you. it could be you looked desperate for a partner, or maybe she misunderstood your intentions. anyways you need to change your approaches in the future. I used my experience to advice a friend in college and it worked for him. Then it worked to get my wife.

Since you got rejected do not approach that girl again with that purpose. Do not ask her out, instead, just opt to be her friend with actions, not words. It's also a way to show you overcame that insult instead of just avoiding her like a plague. Like you shrugs her insult off. Act natural and be kind to her, but remember she is a "NO" to ask out. I got even to girl like this once. Once she found out I was not a desperate guy she showed interest, but I politely rejected her (didn't even need to mention what she did to me).

when you find another girl you are interested in (Do not attempt with this girl), focus on this "if you are neither rich nor pussy magnet, use patience as your weapon". Patience allows you to look at girls you get interested in with a bit more objective view and see if you should go on or back off. Also, if the girl seems to be one worth the effort, patience allows you to show her that you are interested in her, but you are taking your time, that you want both to know each other better (and allows you to appreciate her better)

Don't be bothered anymore and move on.

I never understood why some women have to be insulting when putting a guy down. I have to do it a lot since I'm gay and I tend to be hit on, but I'm always as gentle and straight to the point. No matter what a guy is going to be disappointed but you can at least be civil and not like a bitch about it. But what that bitch said wasn't fair in the slightest, she doesn't have the right to insult you like that after building up the courage to ask her out. But it's just and aspect of the whole dating process I guess, just gotta dust yourself off and move on to the next one really. Considering what she said she wasn't worth it, try to move on is all I can say, no use crying over spilt milk right?

Are you creepy?

Do you have bad taste in woman?

Is it both?

From what I have seen in my experience and what other guys like me went through, a girl that rejects with an insult does it to put an end once and for all. To make the guy stop considering trying again (many guys try again on the same girl to see if they can succeed) and to be left alone. So they think that by insulting they can get rid of the guy.

The tactic is very childish and it can backfire in the future.

Rejection isn't something you--or anyone else, for that matter--can avoid. The trick is learning how to shrug it off and understanding that one rejection or even a hundred isn't a reflection of your worth or lack thereof as a person. You approached the person you were interested in honestly and sincerely, you have no reason to feel bad about the entire situation. She on the other hand, definitely exposed herself as the kind of bitch that clearly wasn't worth the effort you put in. Turning a person down is one thing, insulting them is just plain rude and ill mannered.

And as for the other girls who've rejected you. Yeah, fuck 'em. Shallow people like that won't give you a fulfilling and healthy relationship anyway, bullets dodged as they say.

Work on being successful in life (financially, mentally, physically, etc) and I guarantee that you'll start meeting girls that will sincerely appreciate you.

-az

I totally feel your pain and believe me, guys can be as insulting as girls can when turning down girls. From my own experience some times I even think guys can be meaner than girls. I tried once when I confessed to this guy I had crushed on for who knows how long, I finally got the courage to tell him how I felt and the only thing he said as a reply was: "I don't want to be seen with an ugly, fat and flat girl" and just left me there. I was so surprised I couldn't even cry. I was so hurt and the words haunted me for so long. To make things worse he started to hit on my friend, blond, blue eyed, tall, big boobed with the most annoying tiny waist *i'm still jelly at her even though I adore her a lot* to my /amusement/ she turned him down pretty harsh too. She only turns down people with insult if she is tired of getting hit on, especially if it is the same guys. Though I do believe that one time was as a revenge for what that guy said to me lol.

Being the minority in your place sucks and you feel super stupid for even trying to gather courage to confess to people, because you know they would prefer something else but it is what happens and there is nothing else to do than take it, accept it and move on. A lot of people might seems racist or shallow for their choices but there are some who aren't and there is nothing else to do than keep trying until you find that unique one. Don't take peoples insult to heart.

Was that your first time being rejected?

Get ready, it might happen a lot. You just gotta be able to move on or end up very sad all the time. It seems to me you're looking at the wrong girls, the kind that aren't even slightly rich but wanna find a well-off guy to get hold of his belongings. Look for humble girls,the kind of girls you wouldnt consider dating. More often than not they turn out to be a good surprise.

Nope ^^;

Well alright I admit I was rejected before but never like that. To be rejected on the grounds of your skin colour or wealth is just downright insulting, and disrespectful as well. If someone rejects you for being you then you should move on. Just because they can't accept who you are doesn't mean you have to match their standards in order for them to accept you.

I get what you guys are saying and I don't think it's necessarily wrong, but I feel like every person is different. My thing has always been get to know the person for a bit and then judge for myself just what kind of person they really are and if they would be a good fit for me. I had a poor opinion of my boyfriend before we dated (he didn't have a great opinion of me either), but over time and developing a friendship we ended up hitting it off and have been together ever since.

I use to get judged quite a bit when I was younger. I went from being a nerdy anime/gaming chick, to a girl that loves girly things and shopping for clothes, to chilling like one of the guys, to going out rock climbing, to becoming more reserved and shy bookworm, to being the social light for the party that night, to drinking beer at the grunge bar, to looking disciplined as a semi-pro dancer, etc. People use to see one part of me and think that was all there was to me and didn't care for the rest. Was a bit frustrating to say the least since you want to be yourself with your friends and partner.

I just say get to know someone without fucking them right away to really see if that person is someone you'd want to be with. If you go into something too soon without the details, you may get the luck of the draw or you may get a bitch. All girls (well, people in general) have more then one side to them so you just see which they have and if they're good for you.

Rape her.