"Size doesn't matter, it's how you use it"

You’re right, every woman will have their own opinion on this matter.

The thing about women and their “sex talk/penis talk” is that we love to fantasize. We enjoy talking about men in a “50 Shades of Grey” kind of way (or whatever smut/erotica is out there). Some women will live in fantasy world and will be forever disappointed with men in life because of this. Others will have common sense and will know the difference between reality and fantasy. So basically, don’t take the talk between women too seriously becaue we do this not to be mean to men, rather it is just something we enjoy doing with other women.

The thing about experience is simple. Most don’t care if you are a virgin or not. Sure there will be women who will judge men on the number or lack of partners they have had. Realize that men do this to women as well, so don’t feel like you are the only one in this situation. There may be a stigma against virgin men because some women may feel that their insecurity paired with the “pussy on the pedestal” (basically you build up sex so much that you get nervous and act bizarre about things that really aren’t that big of a deal) that it can be a little intimidating. Also know that you are not the only one’s that go through this since women do get nervous and overthink sex as well.

What we do care about is how you act when it comes to doing the deed. It’s okay to feel nervous and for the sex to not be the best the first time regardless of sexual status. The thing about this so called “technique” is that you basically need to be open to communication on you and your partners preferences as well as having a certain level of confidence. In terms of confidence I mean to say don’t ask your partner 100 times if you were good or ask them if they came. Women don’t mind nervousness, but we get annoyed when you feel so insecure that you overanalyze everything you are doing during and afterwards.

I will not lie and say women don’t want a good sized dick, but it isn’t the end of the world if it isn’t huge. I stand in my belief that size doesn’t matter and it is how you perform with your partner. To further explain this performance, basically communicate with your partner and be open to learning about their wants and needs. You don’t have to ask them a lot of questions to do this. Listen to their moans, feel if their body is getting hot, if they are shaking, if they are wet, etc.

Also, if you feel like you wish to know how to better pleasure a woman since you feel a lack of experience try looking things up online, watch some porn (simple basic porn, don’t go strait for the whips and chains!), or read some hentai (simple yet again). I felt nervous before my first time and did so much research before hand which made me feel less intimidated. It will help you feel a bit more relaxed and may give you some helpful pointers. As I said, it’s okay to be a virgin and not have any skills yet, since everyone has to start somewhere. Just communicate with your partner about things, do some research and know that if it isn’t a great start that with practice and an open mind, that things can get better.

Again; Communication is technique.

To add onto what I said.
My wife and I sat down one day because I asked her to map out all of her pleasure zones. Because to me the most important thing is for her to feel good. Its really easy to please a man. A woman is a bit more complicated.
So she and I sat naked on our bed and she showed me everything inside and out that she liked, then slowly we put it into practice.

That to me is how you learn to properly please a woman, because yeah just doing the do is great, but if you want to really feel good, then you gotta talk it out. Every girl is different.

Yeah, I actually do have a tendency of over thinking in general so if anything I might need to fix that habit.



Will do.

Thanks for answering the questions Misaki_Chi and Takerial.

I think theres a number of factors involved.

For me Ive had a variety of sizes over the years.
For example one of my ex bf's was very large...around 11 inches. But to be honest, he had a stinking attitude and thought he was gods gift to women. He just used to ram it in a pound away..hurting me in the process and thought that thats how women liked it. Needless to say that relationship didn't last long lol But, he later dated a friend of mine...who confessed to loving it.

Ive also had smaller boyfriends that have considered my needs more, making sex far more enjoyable...

So I think its a mixture of the mans attitude towards you, how compatible you are with him sexually and whether you take the time to get to 'know' each other among other things.

I suppose Im lucky. Ive been with my husband now for over 7 yrs. Hes 8 and a bit inches and pretty thick. We've learnt what works for us and what doesn't, but occasionally he does still hurt me if he gets too excited lol We have to mimimize deeper positions like doggy style etc but he takes care of me needs too...I suppose because we care/love each other :)
The only thing Ive never liked about him tho, and never will....it how much he ejaculates! lol But I suppose that another subject!

Most women complaining about Johnson size usually have a clam the size of the grand canyon.

Relevant and unfortunate story...A friend of mine hooked up with a girl he met and when they got in bed and stuff started to get heavy, she felt his junk and asked him how big he was. He replied saying he didn't know and the girl said "Too big" and rolled over, proceeding to fall asleep. I could help but laugh, yet at the same time feel bad for him.

This is part of why extensive foreplay with fingers can produce such nice results when it's time to penetrate.



Animefreaks post is extremely relevant to this. Time and foreplay let a girl take whatever you can give her. I'm 20 cm and can easily avoid tearing girls up (unless they happen to want that, which some do), but I like foreplay and taking it slow anyway.



3 hours sounds like pushing it a bit, but yeah holding back is great exercise. I recommend it often.




I wanted to contradict all the people saying 'oh but at that size he'll hurt her so much' ect, and I still do. Patience and focus and the girl shouldn't be hurting. But you're right about certain positions getting to be too much if done too often, doggy style being a main culprit. My wife will get hurt if we do certain things too much too, but I can (and your husband probably can too) feel when I'm pushing too hard or too much in a position so the problem is usually minimized in that we can either change positions or finish soon. You reminded me of that, thx.

*Smirk*

If your cock is slower in any way than your finger or some of, the other partner will surely worry a bit.

As for the technique... I doubt just fingers technique to suffice. Foreplay is foreplay and not the main dish after all. The worst would be to make your partner hungrier and not satisfy her/his needs (leave her/him unsatisfied), whatever the cause.

Still... Apart for asexual people, I do not think size is no matter. So just find the right partner.

It seems you don't understand, there is a reason I quoted that specific post before I said that. Fingers are short, if you play with a girl for a while with your fingers first she shortens to the length of them, allowing her to have the feeling of expanding when you penetrate. It had nothing whatsoever to do with using only ones fingers.

I don't know from where would comes that "she shortens to the length of [your fingers]" because an excited vagina tend to get longer rather than shorter (4cm more than at the rest state). I guess you confuse with possible vaginal contractions, whether (probable) voluntary / deliberate ones or involuntary ones.

As for the feminine pleasure occurring by vagina extension, it needs more than just caress the excited length.

Animefreak explained this, and is quite right. You need to learn some basics. More than anything the basic of reading the context of the reply.

It's better not to opine on things you don't know much about, even if that happens to be pleasuring a woman.

Animefreak did not mention anything about vagina getting shorter. Don't try to hide your own lacunas.




Look who's talking :-))) Ah, I guess you try, but that does not imply you will.


As for the "size does not matter", too small cock owners try to reassure as they can.

Oh, and be aware some women hate to be fingered and prefer dildos or what else.

It does not mean big cock owners to be more intelligent, but a skilled big cock will always win over.

It is literally the first line of the first thing she said. Learn to read.

At this point you must just be trollin...





It seems a lot of women in this thread have opined the opposite. FFcupcouple pointed out some problems with being too large in particular, and I know them to be true from personal experience, I'm 20cm myself.



OMG DIFFERENT PEOPLE LIKE DIFFERENT THINGS?!?!?!? REALLY? WOW. Cool story man...



Yes, skill and size is a great combination. I know, quite bluntly I have both.

You on the other hand are arguing against well known facts of normal responses of vaginal stimulation... You gotta get in the mentality of learning at some point, cause you don't know enough to presume to teach.

Just one thing : contracting a muscle is not the the vagina getting shorter.

[size=10]As for the rest, you are trolling me :-)[/h]

No one at all said it was. Read the context of the reply or move on.

I'm iffy about this subject in general, since I've had mixed responses in the past.

One of my ex's in the past didn't really care for anything more than size, and getting it in fast and hard, she really didn't like the frills that came with everything, and I couldn't really please her at all.

Though, my last ex loved anything and everything done, and didn't care about size, but the feelings put behind every motion and gesture. Sex is more enjoyable imo when you know the person you're in bed with trusts you, and trusting them as well, it's like a multiplier. I've made her orgasm with just my fingers and mouth before even putting it in. I'd say an even distribution would be 85% technique, 15% size. But again, that varies from girl to girl, depending on what they prefer. Just remember, larger sizes can hurt your partner as well, so you may need to watch out for that too.

As long as your feelings show through your actions, it would feel amazing regardless, that's what I've learned so far. Size is a large male complex. (guilty of it as well.) Just don't let it get you down, and remember she chose you for a reason.

I think you're right about that silent.



God doesn't doing that make her squirm so nicely when its time to do the real thing?

To me I think you can say sized doesn't matter, but it always does to some degree. A girl doesn't ever want something to small cause well, even with amazing skills she will feel like she may have to fake it (especially if the guy is not long lasting). I think most girls have a preferred size which would mean that size does matter. At the same time they are willing to go outside of that preferred zone usually pending on emotions.

Experience trumps size, motion of ocean and all, but i heard someone say that it takes a long time to get to England in a rowboat.

I can't say TOO much on this matter since I'm an 18 y/o male virgin, but from what I can gather based around facts... Girth matters more than length, and skill matters more than having an 8" thick dick, too; however, overall I'd say that size shouldn't really matter... After all, if the guy knows what he's doing then the actual penetration part could be mostly for his pleasure. If he really knows what he's doing, he could please the woman while penetrating even if he's not big enough to satisfy. There are more ways to satisfy than with your dick.