"Size doesn't matter, it's how you use it"

I think I may have said this, but basically a man's penis curves up to the sky (or just curves up slightly) if you look at it from a side profile, it's a good shape to have. So basically don't feel ashamed about how yours look, it's actually a good thing because it can more easily hit a woman's g-spot.

Also, women don't really put that much emphasis on how a penis is shaped or looks. Men are usually more thought conscious about their dicks then women are, we just like when they get hard because to us, that means we are doing something right to get the effect lol.

Mine is relatively straight, actually. Though I was blessed enough to receive a good length and girth, I can't help but be slightly jealous of those with the based upward curve. However, as a straight male, I think a straight penis is more visually appealing than a curved one, aesthetically speaking.

Regardless, I do agree that size does matter to an extent, but it isn't the only factor that comes into play. As Misaki mentioned, women usually don't put much of an emphasis on the size of their man's penis and I think that men are just genuinely worried about not being "good enough" for their significant other and not being able to fully satisfy them.

I think that as long as you're maybe average or slightly above average and know your way around the female body, you should be good to go.

i think its both. you cant run a ship without a captain, but you cant get to england in a row boat.

Gah I love everyone's opinions on this subject :)

Well, i had a bad first time, and also a lot of bad sex too. For four months straight.
At first i thought it was me, maybe it was because of my size, then i thought it might be the lack of technique and that would get better with time.
But it didn't.
It's not just up to one person all the work, plesure should be something mutual. I ended up giving always my best - this guy, the only boyfriend i had - lasted between 10-20 minutes and then he was done, i was pushed away afterwards and if i used my mouth he wouldn't even kiss me for the rest of the day, even if i brushed my teeth, and he used to play LoL almost right after we finished, well, "we" isn't the correct way to put it. He was my only sexual experience, and not even once - on his 4 year relationship - i came. Phisical contanct it's unberable for me now, i can only remember pain and humilliation, because those 4 months we had sex almost every day, it was forced. I didn't even get to say what i thought about this, and since we were living together i had no where else to go, so i was kinda obligated to make him happy - he kept me away from my family during this period of time, i was aware of this but.. i wanted to be loved so bad i didn't care if i was just a sexual toy -.
So, to answer this post i would have to say that is all about making a good conection and have at least a bit of skill. For a girl, the most important thing - at least most of the times - it's showing you care, and this is not just some kind of game.
I'm sorry if my post it's too long to read or if it's annoying for anyone. I kinda like to express myself and sharing my own experiences might help others to understand some aspects of the female behaivour.

Sorry to hear you had such a bad experience :/

My first love was hard for me because after we had our first time he pretty much wanted nothing to do with me. He felt like things were going too fast for him and said we should not have sex again for a while.... well, it was a bit too late for that lol. Anyways, things just got worse from there and in the end I broke up with him (it was hard as hell, but no sense in beating a dead horse). Took a half a year to fully get over it, but luckily it's in the past and a found a lovely guy much later after kissing a bunch of toads.

Hopefully you find a guy who treats you better and makes some fireworks for you. Don't ever let a guy treat you like your less then human. Everyone has the right to be happy and loved, but you just have to work hard to find it and make it happen. Best of luck to you (^^)

I totally know what ya mean. My first time was ridiculous, first penis I had ever saw, touched, felt, anything, and about 5 minutes after he put it in, he threw me on top O.o it was horrible, I had no clue what to do. I remember thinking "If this is sex, I don't want anymore, it's not pleasurable, or fun, and doesn't feel good" He just didn't know what to do with his almost 10 inch dick -_-
But my partner after him was probably about 7.5 inches and my eyes were awakened to a world of immense feeling and pleasures.

Once you have sex with someone you have feelings with, or even a really well trusted connection with, you'll realize sex is more than just sticking it in (Not that you were the lazy one).

Good sex has a lot of factors really when we think about it; connection, size, curve, foreplay, mutual participation, technique.. and knowing what each other likes.

I'll be cruel and frank with this, so bear with me.

Yes, it does matter (a lot). Yes, it isn't the unique thing that matter, other physical things also does. Your weight. Your face. Your body. Your style. Your speech. All of you matters. Yes, ugly people exits and that isn't rare. Yes, ugly people have worst sexual lives. What can I say about it? Deal with it. I know it's rough and hard to digest, but that's the true.

Now going into the details.

Sexual excitement is a brain developed thing. That means that a lot (not all) about it comes about the prior beliefs that a person had. While each person is different, an unlimited amount of fetishes and adaptation exits, there also exits the average. By average I mean at least the 51% of people, but it's usually a way higher (90%>). For example almost everyone founds unattractive a way too obese old woman, except by a few rare fetishes, or 90%> of people is more heterosexual inclined.

Averages are form by society canons, media, porn, born stuff and other affairs. Yeah, Barby is more attractive than Fat Princess because that. You are a way too far from the preferred canon? Your partner will have a less excitement sex (if she/he wants it in the first place) unless a ultra rare fetish pop up (and then, it's ultra rare, so don't rely on that).

Now, while sex is all matters for lightly relationships, prostitution and stuff. Sex is not important for serious relationships. If your partner loves you, she/he'll be ok (and happy) with what you have, even if they can found something more sexual attractive. Of course it can be a problem at the start when the love isn't formed yet, but non-cretins will not have impediments to makes things advance. Yeah, cretins does care and does exist (a lot), kick em' fast.

If sex is important (not means if it does or not matter, I just mean if it's important) on a serious relationship, it isn't serious. That means if your guy/girl becomes uglier for an illness, you'll left them? Or if they cannot have sex anymore because HIV or other reasons? Lightly relationships will do, not serious one.

What does this have to do with the penis size? Well, for example in Asia the social canon is that 12-13cm penises are average and tasty. In Europe, 14-15cm is tasty, and on Africa 16-17 is tasty. The previous sexual experiences of the girl does matter: if a girl first sexual relationship was with a men with a 12cm penis (and it was good), she'll found them more tasteful and so.

If you have a penis a way too small for the canon (or huge, but very rare), girls will like it less aside rare exceptions. But if you're attractive, or romantic, or any, you can compensate it (unless the girl's previous belief about size matters a way too much for her, then you're screwed up). But if you add that to a ugly face or whatever, you're even worst. Deal with it. Stop looking only for sex for the sake of sex if that is the case and appreciate the more important things, and look for someone who does the same, too.

(There isn't anything physical related that makes huge penises more enjoyable. A 10.2cm penis can stimulate everything it had to stimulate, perfectly. Though it does matter with anal sex to an - small - extent).

Note: I could recommend flexibility and adaptability for everyone, anyway. People can discover new things about their own tastes, just like they can adapt a bit, too. It isn't magical, but it can improves things, you'll enjoy more and makes others enjoy more, too. Sex can also work as a wonderful communication tool, so try to don't ignore that side neither.

Note 2: The "does matter" stuff is actually a case by case basis. Some girls doesn't care about it, while for others it's THE point. The average says it does matter (a lot), but that is just a generalization. As long yours is above 10.2cm, be sure it's just physiological.

Well, I'd say size does matter. Girls don't like micro penises, they also don't like them overly big. The average size is 6 inches, but women probably prefer 7-9. However, size doesn't mean jack if you have no technique (or so I've heard).

Holy shit, 7-9 inches? I don't think most women prefer those sizes. The vagina is only so long, after all. To me, that's "overly big". As long as it's over 4 inches, it's fine.

I'd have to say 6.5 to like 7.5 is perfect, anything bigger and it'll take some time to get used to the pain haha.

Honestly though, if you want the best sex, you'll only get the best sex with someone you love, like actually, there's nothing better than intimate sex, which doesn't necessarily have to be slow or anything either, sex with feelings is great.