Troubles with the ladies...

Hey guys so I need some advice regarding a girl I like. I figured that I would make this a topic because most of you are probably older than me and would have more experience, and if I asked any of my friends they would spill and everyone in school would know (as it has happened before).

Anyway, I did date this girl for a few months about 2 years ago and recently we have been talking a lot more. She is regarded as the prettiest and most popular girl in our grade by the other guys and is hit on almost everyday. I am just the nerdy weird kid. I am obviously not good with the ladies, she was my 2nd girlfriend and I haven't had one since she dumped me. While we were dating she said that she liked me because I wasn't another asshole who treated her like an object so that's good.

There is the back story related to the question I need to ask. What do you guys think I should do? I still really like her but I think that I would just be setting myself up for failure by trying to get back together with her. Sorry if I just wasted your time but I needed to ask someone.

First off, don't think so poorly of yourself. Even if you are nerdy you have to realize that everyone is different and that doesn't make you any better or worse then any other person. You need to find some confidence in who you are, but keep in mind that if you keep working on this it will come in due time. As you grow older, you'll start to see the bigger picture of life.

Now on to this girl of yours. You said you dated her a couple of years back, she dumped you and now you two are talking again. You don't have to answer this, but why did she dump you if she considered you a good guy?

If you two ended on good terms then you could try to make it work again, but in all honesty it's best to just let things be. Majority of the times that you try to get back with an ex, it won't work out. The relationship will not be like it once was and there is no such thing as "starting fresh" becuase you can never totally forget the past.

Honestly I'm not sure why she dumped me. All I can remember is that she went to this dance one night that I couldn't go to with her friends and the next day she dumped me. : /

Eh, kinda weird if you ask me. I wouldn't want to get back with someone when I didn't know why they dumped me in the first place. I'd say just stay on good terms and go no further with it. You're still young and you'll find more women out there if you be true to yourself and don't give up hope.

First rule I have is not to expect anything out of a woman in the first place, chances are if you go after her simply because you love her then you might get things awkward and you'll probably get jealous when she talks about other guys or when guys talk with or about her. You would be surprised how it's easy to get a girl to like you when you just don't give a damn about a relationship, I'm not saying to be a dick I'm saying not to chase her around. Act like good friends and for the love of god don't try making her yours before she ever is - a lot of women don't like you giving her morals about who she sees, where and when; it's very possible she'll get annoyed if you try to hang out with her too much. It's nice to reach out and create opportunities but forcing them on her won't work.

Also, don't try to use the fact that you were her boyfriend before as an argument if things get salty.

Fucking ask her. It's not that difficult. You ask her. She's a human. Like you. Not a pretty bauble or the holy grail of pussy. Just a person.

Ask her.

Why? Bottom line, she isn't into him so right there that must have made a cut on him.I don't see why bother with your time asking someone why they dumped you Unless you feel that it is of thee up most importance and It is time worthy.

A couple of years have passed, I'd ask her if she would give a second chance.

She cheated on you she felt bad but rather admit it she left you.

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You'd give a girl a second chance that dumped you without knowing why they dumped you in the first place? I just think your setting yourself up for the same shit.



I feel like it's either this or she is young and doesn't know what love is and was/is just doing that dating thing.

Was responding to original post. Didn't check the date.

What's done is done, time to burn the bridge and move on.