Turn Off's

Is there a single feature in a person, tangible or not, that if they possess would kill all chance of a relationship? I recently meet a really nice lady who for my standards seemed to have it all. I then found out she is a chain smoker and that is a guaranteed no for me. I could never make that work and was curious if my vice that repels people is more or less extreme than others.

I suggest you ask a moderator to move this to the "Love, Romance and Relationships" section.

Anyway.

I don't really like "party girls"
Where all she thinks about is parties, booze and having fun.
Don't get me wrong, all of those things are fine, but when her whole life revolves around partying, that's just a bit too much for me.

Sexually:
fake breasts
when she says "It's much hotter when Freaky does it..."

non-sexually (not what OP was asking, but oh well):
Trying too hard- faking to like things that I like (e.g. pretending to enjoy games)
when somebody judges X by its cover/genre
Drug usage


Also, I asked to have this thread moves to a more fitting section.

You shouldn't date my discarded whores. I discarded them for a reason... i blew them out.

Actually i have none outside no breast and shaved clean and dipshits. I can't be with anyone who is a barbie no matter how hawt they are. Brainless chimps and partypeople are no my peeps. The lolipedo thing is just a visual thing... i can and have work thru that problem in the back of a car.

Just depends on what your standards and deal breakers are. Smoking is one that is fine to be repelled by since this can be a health risk to you (second hand smoke) as well as annoying to deal with (watery eyes, allgeries, coughing, nasty smell and taste if you kiss them). Not saying that the person is bad or anything, just not your type.

The only thing people should be careful of is when they start to get picky or develop too high of standards. Examples: her hair is too long, she has a mole on her neck, her teeth are a little too big, she has a weirdly shaped toe, her laugh is a little weird. Yes people will always judge others and will do these things even if mentioned not to. I've done it before, I once had a guy who had webbed feet, but I didn't break up with him because of it, I did so because he was an asshole. If you do it with everyone you meet then you will start to loose out on potentional matches (sort of like Shallow Hal).

Things that are my deal breakers are chain smokers (allergic), arrogant people, OCD clean freaks, insensitivity, dramamtic men (always bitching about something), picky eaters, and men who use duratory words when upset such as calling their partner a bitch or a cunt.

Anime conventions whores. Definition = women at an anime convention that use their "sex appeal" to get things from guys the aren't into.



Women that smoke (cigarettes or weed).

Women that wear fake contacts. Reminds me of the exorcist in some way.

Extensions for their hair. Just...no.

Women that act too conceited when they aren't even worth having as a partner (or butterface). Have seen and somewhat met some women like this. I hate/dislike it.

Women that are into anime that either recite a line from an anime repetitively.



Women that care about their image/reputation/appearance (same thing). At least not to a high degree. Kind of like, "You can't wear a shirt or pair of pants that are not the same brand!"

Political women. Jesus...just...no

(will explain more on some when I get the chance.)

One turn off is a guy pretty focused on himself. Also I hate smokers as well and really could never see myself dating one. Also sorry if you are dumb more than likely not really going to date you unless you are amazing at sex then you got 2 or 3 dates.

Hmmm...Smoking/illegal drug usage, extreme dog/cat/furry animal lover(I have allergies, I can't live with pets comfortably. Otherwise I would love pets.), the girl being very very fat, or the girl being in general a liar about themselves to me on a constant basis(read bad, white lies are fine). Those are all the things that are for sure dealbreakers. Maybe the second one is illogical but medical problems including allergies and asthma.

Lesser deal breakers/things that will pose problems but possibly can be worked around.
-The girl being very masochistic, I can't stand even the idea of hurting somebody I care about. If she likes it that is fine, I will do it if she insists but I feel like I would die a little bit inside every time I do.
-A girl with loli like looks. (Short, very young looking,) I really don't find girls who are a lot shorter than me that attractive in general. It isn't that they aren't attractive, because they probably are to somebody. Just not me.
-Really bad Teeth that they refuse to fix. Just be presentable, no apparent black spots/decay eating away at the teeth. That is just kinda gross. A small peeve of mine due to my dream career path. (But again, if they go to a dentist and get it fixed up no problem. Orthodontics work too not just cavities).

That is all I got right now. Some of these are probably unreasonable but I guess all I have to say to that is "Since when is humanity reasonable?".

• Furries

• Ignorance about various issues and a painful intolerance to listen to reason.

• When a girl's appearence is high maintenance. Extentions, fake eyelashes and being caked in makeup isn't a good look and I certainly don't want to wait for them to make themselves look like an oompa loompa reject. And constant use of beauty products can be expensive not only to your wallet but to your skin as well.

• Chainsmoking

• Using sex appeal to get what they want/get laid. Gold diggers, essentially.

• A gossip. I can deal with the odd "so-and-so is a cunt for X" but when it's all they talk about it gets pretty damn petty.

• Girls who get off on being a cunt to their partner and expecting the same in return like it's some sort of fetish for them, or just generally being a cunt. It's fine for some people but not for me. I find it rude and unnecessary.

• Fake tits.

• Lying to you constantly, even about the small things.

• Having had more boyfriends than hot meals

• Is willing to cut off all contact with you after a few years of being great friends, simply because she's no longer with your friend and "it would hurt". Nice to know where I truly stand, love.

• Hypocrites.

I like my women to look and smell good even though the black AMEX card melts every time they 'go out'.

I should add the perfumes made me ill. I like natural smells of flowers and baby powder... or a lighter version of the shit women need to wear. That why i allow them to buy a expensive, but better non chemical senses and make up so i can feel good and not go into toxic brain melt mode went they smell of iron shit and fake chemical goo.

Fuck me i have three females running my life and i work for there bills... except i semi employed at the moment so i can't complain. Fucking markets and less weddings/modeling/business.

Since there are so many major turn off's for me I will just post 1 major turn off since I have so much to complain about and I am sure it won't entertain anybody.

Major turn off for me is when a girl just gives up, not giving a chance for the relationship to grow any larger, has a weak will .... that is when it is lights off for me. I expect a girl to give in as much effort as I do in a relationship, as soon as I notice that she doesn't do anything for our relationship or even shows any signs of hope for a relationship then I go away as fast as I can because that will just slow me down.

- Smoking/alcoholic tendencies.
- Putting stupid things over you. Like someone who will yell at you for asking what they want to eat when they're busy playing video games.
- Whoring around. Yes, men can be manwhores too.
- Denying everything. People who can't take any criticism because they're a little perfect and special snowflake.
- Being narcissist.
- Overly aggressive.
- Overly unpredictable (in a bipolar sense).
- Talking too much. Some men can really rant like there's no tomorrow.
- Super dependent. I don't mind someone who needs help once in a while, but if it's like 24/7, then no. Just no.
- Rude/swears a lot. I also don't mind the casual swearing, but if every time he opens his mouth to cuss, then that's a total turn off.

I have a lot of things that bother me but not necessarily turn me off. I'm quite tolerant in general, so it's difficult for just one thing to completely kill a relationship.

That one thing would have be a little catastrophic.

If she looks down on stuff like anime
If she have no interest in video games

Those are my turn offs

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This can range from people who constantly try and humor me down to those who won't stop blathering about how I "couldn't understand".

I dislike the party girl arcetype, but I'm really not that bothered by the thought of a girl smoking, at least turn off wise. However actually having to put up with secondhand smoke might be a turn off.

I agree, I think I should of mentioned I can be around people who smoke because they are my friends and someone smoking is not the actual problem, the problem is the second hand. If i never had to deal with it I would be ok, but somehow I don't find that likely. Maybe if they smoked electronic only around me? Idk

-Doing drugs. My current gf doesn't, but she used to. She's stopped indulging as far as I'm aware, because I'm not an ass like her ex
-Overly fake look. This being caking on so much makeup that they are orange, massive fake eyelashes, extensions, fake boobs, etc etc
-Tries too hard. Ie, pretends to like what I like. Pretends to know what I'm talking about, etc. Whilst it can be cute in certain instances, for the majority, it's a bit insulting
-Places stupid things over you and the relationship. No example, but you know what I mean
-Dressing in overly revealing clothes/ dressing to impress other guys. You know how it is, you want them to only want to impress you, not others. but, this one isn't a huge deal, unless it's like showing bra and tonnes of cleavage/ almost ass when they go out with friends.
-Getting shitty at you for stupid things/ when you're trying to help them. Self explanatory, really. Woman logic as it's nicely called. Also, just getting shitty when I try to help them. I'm fine with them saying 'It's ok, I can do it myself. It'll be painful, but I can do it' But going 'GO AWAY, I CAN DO THIS. STOP BEING AN ASSHOLE. NO, I DON'T NEED TO DO THAT, FUCK OFF AND LEAVE ME ALONE'
-Being hypocritical. Again, self explanatory. Mostly in the sense of 'Oh, you can't do that' then following that up promptly by going and doing that. Such as like not letting you hang with people of the opposite sex, then going and doing that
-Being overly clingy. Now this is a bit hypocritical, but I don't like it when they have to see me all the time, and get shitty if I don't see them ever. Especially if you are doing something important, and they get overly angry at you for not seeing them, when you have to do this. I had an ex that was like that. Was fixing my car (was a highschool relationship) and I needed it to get to school/ work. We saw each other at recess, before school and after school. I tried to take a few lunches off to fix it up. She got super shitty at me one day for not going up and hanging out with her, despite me needing to fix my car. Although, I suppose this falls under selfish as well
-Being selfish Self explanatory
-Being overly obsessive. Being obsessive to the point of weird with certain
-Being childish/ immature. Again, another semi hypocritical one. I like immature. But, there is a time and a place. And being immature when you should be mature, and refusing to be serious when you seriously should if a major turn off
-No contact. Self explanatory. But, if you're in a relationship with somebody, and they don't talk to you at all, or you can't contact them, it's weird. If they don't talk to you for a long time, you get worried/ assuming things aren't alright
-Not putting effort in. Usual. If they aren't willing to put the effort into the relationship, through means of contact, initiating contact/ organising to catch up, etc every now and again, what's the point? One person shouldn't be doing all the work in a relationship. It should be two people willing/ wanting to see each other and be with each other, not one person having to find time for the two of them to hang out/ deciding to hang out for the two of them
-Cheaters. As it says. If you're a past cheater, or cheat on me, I ain't touching you with a 20 foot pole made of shit. There may be some exceptions, but I don't like people like that. And if it happens, I'm not down for it

That is most of it. And yes, it's not all first meets, it's in relationship things as well, which turn me off a relationship. No fun

-Not being sexually adventurous/aggressive. I hate vanilla guys. I connect better with sadists.

• This also includes a lack of sexual experience, and even goes for a lack of openness to open relationships, and other forms of sexual exploration.

-Having an average or below-average Intelligence. I have a sapiosexual side, and am very turned on by deep, meaningful, or cerebral discourse. The inability to conduct such is a surefire way to bore me out of the picture.

-Lack of emotional/mental security. Insecurity is a huge turn-off for me. I've taken care of too many people in my life, the last thing I need in my life is to take care of my significant other.

-Limited/uncultured tastes. This goes from everything to video games, music, languages, etc. I want someone with substance. I bore very easily, and I need someone who is multifaceted to keep my interest. The more eclectic, the better.

-A "Homebody". I like to go on adventures. I want to walk around, go places, do things, see sights. Even if it's just walking around downtown Seattle, or taking a long walk on the beach and watching the sunset. I appreciate the little outings, and being cooped up inside all day, everyday simply isn't my thing.

-Commitment-Phobia. If it's not the right time for you, then let me know so I don't waste my time trying. But that doesn't mean we can't fuck around.

Well, there is this guy I might have gotteninvolved with if he just wasn't so convinced that he and he alone knew how the world should be run. It's really annoying when people take themselves too seriously and talk about things they have no knowledge of

Selfishness. The single most turn-off for me. You know those times when she just asks up like everything is about her and everyone just has to make way to please her? Because she's her? Goddamn self-centered selfish narcissists.

I'm not much demanding of women. I don't seek a lot from them. But this trait, Selfishness, is bad in all angles.

My main dealbreaker would probably be a strong lack of self awareness. In essence, that dealbreaker is, as far as personality goes, not being able to tell whether people are laughing with you or at you. So I don't really like the loud party girl who, even completely sober (which does not always happen), never lets anyone have a conversation and desperately tries to butt in even though she has nothing to add. Literally butt in like when they sit on some guy's lap to make other people jealous which is adding insult to injury when it breaks up an entire afternoon conversation. Call me old fashioned, but I think a man with low self awareness is perfectly capable of being funny, fun and entertaining whereas a woman in that situation becomes cringeworthy and, without realizing it, a joke. A sad, annoying joke.

When it comes to physical stuff, heck, I don't know. I also don't wanna sound like the oh so dreaded «white knight» but I can't think of physical aspects that would be dealbreakers. In fact, I'm an obsessive douchebag because I don't like, for example, when women have very big hands or feet or if I would have to climb onto a stool in order to kiss them but I don't see that being a dealbreaker. Maybe because in that situation, there would be no deal to break. See, I told you I could be a douche... I'm taking the situation as the guy in the OP: a girl who has it all except for one particular thing that would shatter the entire relationship. The problem is that I don't think I would find myself deeply in love with a girl who's nine feet tall with hammers for hands to begin with anymore than I would be falling deeply in love with a girl with a penis. (I just keep rambling like an idiot...)