Turn Off's

Dang dude, I would love a tall woman personally. I would get on my tip toes to kiss her would be amazing :D

Smoking, or any form or drug abuse, along with weird piercings are a huge turn off.

Smoking. I don't care how beautiful she is. If she smokes, it's an automatic no.

I can't say there aren't that many things that turn me off, because there are, but even if there are turn-offs, I think that people should be loyal to their love, and accepting or working to change the bad things is part of a couple's romance.

If more men and women would just stick it out until there is no possible way to repair the relationship, the declining birth rates and amount of lonely people would lessen.

I wish that there were more women that shared my opinion, but my opinion does imply that women should simply stick with their man, even if he's awful, for the good of everyone.

I feel like the reason most people now treat relationships as disposable is because of the lack of tolerance for little things, which if you just look past a person's shortcomings, you'd see that they're really the one you love.

For me, I'm not sure how things will turn out with my man yet, but I will forgive his shortcomings and stick it out until there is nothing left to do. He's not the best man in the world, but I think he loves me, and I definitely love him, so I want to stay with him, even if I get really frustrated at times.

Sorry about the long text, I just needed to vent some things.

Honestly, if monogamy isn't someone's bag, I don't mind. Just because I'm into it doesn't mean every one else should be. I think of polygamy like homosexuality; would I do it? Nope. Is it wrong? Nope. Now, if you're thinking "what about cheating," that's called bigamy, which is totally wrong since it's harmful to those being cheated upon.

You're absolutely fine calling it a turn off, and I know that what you really mean is that you hate quitters, but I felt like throwing this in there. Good luck though, and I'd advise you not to mention that you think he's "not the best man in the world". That comes off harsh even though you mean well.

Whats with the smoker hating around here?

And 2 of my biggest turnoff's are as follows:

for women: infidelity, previous relationships


for men: dont really have any tastes set in stone, its on a case by case basis

If you don't smoke or you are allergic of smoke it can be hard to date a smoker. I can barely breathe when I am in the room or a bar with a lot of smoke. I also get really sick.

Also the taste is kind of gross when you kiss them.

This isn't to put down smoker's, it's just not a preference for some.

That sucks. But i do hate it when people smoke inside, even though i am a smoker myself. Its hard to breathe when 20 people light up simultaneously every 2 minutes x_x

You don't understand the smoke hating and I don't understand the previous relationships hating. It reminds me of when in an episode of Lie to Me, the main guy comments on how weddings are «Christmas for liars» because the groom pretends he's found the one and, more importantly, the bride pretends to be a virgin. Adding to that, it reminds me as well of an episode of The Cleveland Show in which Cleveland says all girls should remain virgins and that all guys should lose their virginity early. Well, the math simply doesn't work there.

I don't really understand, both for sexual and for technical reasons, how it is more or less standard for a man to expect a virgin or «semi-virgin» woman whereas if a woman meets a guy and he says he's a virgin, it is a bit of a surprise.

Personally I agree, I have no idea (except for people of extremist religious beliefs) why people expect a woman to be a virgin. I don't believe in religion and am a bit of a realist and I couldn't care less how many people a woman has slept with before. If it was protected and she has no diseases or kids go for it. I am sure I will enjoy the experience just as much if not more than if it was her first time.

Some people are more closed minded then other's or overthink sex.

Partner's that have less sexual experience in comparison to their partners sometimes think: they have more experience then me so I will be judged, might feel inadequate, worry that their partner might have contracted an STD, religious belief's, have unrealistic thoughts about their fist time (usually not as amazing as it is cracked up to be and takes time to make it feel amazing), are afraid to ask questions or overthinks what to do during sex.

Partner's that have more sexual experience in comparison to their partners sometimes think: they will be judged harshly for their number of intimate relations, may feel annoyed with teaching their less experienced partner, lie about the amount of partners that they have slept with and worry that their patner will be upset at the truth (will be more upset that they lied), cannot commit to one person, have never had true loving and intimate intercouse that results in an orgasm (it's interesting to hear just how many people have never experienced one).

I don't think that the number of partners or lack thereof is that big of a deal and that most people either have had a shitty experience with it or just overthink it. I feel though that if a person has had a significant number of previous partners in a short amount of time (30 in a coupe of months) that there may be a bigger issue then just sleeping around, but that's about it.

Also if you're scared that you or your partner may have potentionally contracted an STD, then I would just simply suggest for both to get tested. I suggest both regardless of partner count since it can be hard to make just your partner do it alone and they could be insulted or think, "if I have to do this, why don't they have to?". Saves time and frustration this way as well. It's free and easy to do and gives both person's a sense of relief. A free and quick test is easier then a lifetime of mediciation and suffering.

Its a cultural thing in my case (as well as personal preference), nothing religious.

Also, although very undesirable, i could technically make an exception for a partner in regards to virginity/previous relationships if i have very deep feelings for them, but only if there was no dishonesty concerning those things. Meaning, that if i found out that they covered up the truth, there would be hell to pay, because i equate dishonesty to infidelity, even if technically speaking there was no "cheating" committed.

If a partner betrays your trust in one thing, then how can you trust them in anything else? If they consider it okay to lie to you about things and expect you to eat it up, then most certainly they dont hold you in very high regard, and have no respect for you.

All of the above is just my opinion, feel free to disagree. Im not here to convince anybody to adopt my point of view, so if anybody finds my position offensive or disagreeable, then please disregard/ignore my post.

Well, thanks for all this, and on the part where I said he's "not the best in the world," I was actually referring to how everyone has some kind of ideal, but does it matter in the end? If you would sacrifice someone's real love for a fake ideal man (or woman) that I think no one will ever meet, then you are not only hurting yourself, but hurting your lover.

I was just ranting at how society's standards on what a man/woman should be like set the bar far too high, and ideally, maybe, but is that ever really the case? People will break up because their partner's not their 'ideal' man or woman... I feel like that's low standards in and of itself, as far as loyalty goes...

Basically, yeah, I hate it when people don't try to make things work as hard as they can, and I hate society's high standards for love relationships. But those high standards are not just back home in Nippon, I've heard of similar things here in England too.

Anyway, I didn't mean to sound harsh, I really love my boyfriend, and I think (and hope) he loves me back, and that we'll be dating for a long time. He's not with me right now, still back home in Osaka, but he calls me every day, and we still talk dirty over the phone once in a while. If he doesn't call me, I'll call him and he always picks up (so far).

Smokers, fake boobs, whiny voice, whiny women, clingy, needy.

1. Women who smoke.
2. Bitches, especially those who takes advantage of men who gets attracted to them. (And yes, I was once a victim of this.)
3. Golddiggers.
4. Women who look down on seafarers. They disgust me.
5. Miley cyrus.

It being a cultural thing doesn't explain it, now does it? Neither does preference but if you push on that point, the discussion ends. In other words, the point here isn't that you and many other people prefer it for many reasons («just because» being one of them). The point is why is it preferred.

The only way I can see that (i.e. being turned off by a partner who has had manny past relationships) as being somehow reasonable is if you have had few past relationships too.

Other than that, I don't really see the point of preferring women who have dated few men over women who are virgins or as I said «semi-virgins». I don't like the feminist movement for many reasons but one of the good arguments they make is that a man with many partners is a hero whereas a woman with many partners is a slut. The fallacy feminists make is that neither can be called a slut even though, logically speaking, the possibility of both being sluts exists too.

I'm not trying to change your view either. I'm just pointing out the slight inconsistency in holding it which is a rather common one. Again, the only scenario in which it makes some sense, even mathematical sense, is if you defend that everyone, regardless of gender, should have few partners during their lifetime. Other than that, it seems like pure misogyny. Even more so, as I just thought of it, because we are talking about turn offs, not preferences. And you even made sure to call it one of your «2 biggest» ones.

It's one thing to say: If I were to imagine the perfect woman to be my girlfriend, I would want her to be a virgin (or «semi-virgin»). It is another to say that having had many previous relationships would turn you off to that person.

My dealbreaker would be girls who expect way too much from a guy in a relationship. They can be picky about his personality or expect him to meet certain criteria which are often unreasonable, causing the relationship to break down because he couldn't keep up with her demands and she was unwilling to come to a compromise.

I also hate girls who are manipulative and constantly play the victim when confronted.

When you say "he's not the best in the world," that implies someone else is better, which isn't really a great feel. You'd have better luck saying "he's not perfect" or something. Then again I think so hard about what I say it keeps me from looking genuine.

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It's hard to say for me.

While there are many things I dislike, relationships sometimes need compremise and understanding.

If each of you still love each other, I would think that certain turn offs can be overcome.