Why is so Hard to find a gf who likes anime and manga ???

Am been a manga/anime lover for more then 15 years and I have only meet 3 or 4 girls, and am not including the ones from any conversations and conventions. So why ???

Try going to conventions OP, there's always girls who like anime and manga at conventions.

One of my female friends once talked to me about how I could like anime so much, she thought the way women are treated in anime is a huge turnoff. That and then there's the creepy otaku stereotype where people who are into anime are creeps.

The right girl will appear at the right time I say.

Don't understand your rationale for not including people you meet at conventions since its a good place to meet people with the same interests of any gender? I've even known friends who started dating people they've met through them including myself. Don't always work out, but such is life and at least you try.

Anyways, nerdy girls are out there but you may not be in a location that has a lot of them or you just haven't met them yet. Another suggestion is to just find a girl that will appreciate you and your hobbies. I know that my bf isn't into anime like I am, but he appreciates how nerdy I am and we've started to have movie nights with classic anime series/movies. Even if your partner can't get into it like you, as long as they respect your hobbies, that can be more then enough. The trick to getting my guy into anime more was for me to show appreciation for his hobbies (this can be applied to any partner; to earn respect is to give it).

In the end don't fret on finding a girl that is similar to you, just find a girl that makes you happy and appreciates you for you. Believe me, even if you found someone you had a lot in common with that doesn't mean that you'll have a better intimate relationship lol.

Might be an idea to find a girl you get on with and introduce her to anime and manga? You're really limiting your chances if you're specifically targeting people who already have a seated interest.

I've found that a lot of people who are really put-off by anything anime haven't actually seen ought beyond memes and tropes online, and when introduced to some genuinely good works they come around big time.


This. Someone who shares your hobby is a wonderful thing, but it shouldn't be a requirement, giving each others interests a chance is all you need.

But don't you think is kind of creepy to approach to a girl, who's having fun at a convention ??? Don't get me wrong I do go to conventions twice a year, but in my case I don't have people and social skills, so for me to start a conversation is kind of hard. I do get the stereotype of been a otaku. Everytime that a girl ask me what I like and I mention anime, they think anime is for kids and that's not true. Yea true, sooner or later I will meet that special girl.

everyone has their own likes and dislikes, their own hobbies and their passions.... and depending on where you're from: location, culture, and the availability of anime and manga in bookstores/publications, will give you the amount chance of finding someone that's into manga and anime.

even if you found someone who has a different interest then you, you can still introduce them to it and and see how they take it. if a girl likes you, she wouldn't mind trying it out. who knows, she might love it? but even not, it's not a bad thing... i'm sure there's gonna be things that your girlfriend would like that you wouldn't be into. some examples: polymer clay food craft, stuffed toy sewing, cooking, playing an instrument ect.

everyone has their own ideals in what they would like in a partner/lover but eh, maybe it shouldn't be such a big deal.

When I last went to a convention my friend dressed up as Gandalf the Grey. Got so much attention and almost, almost got a girl's number but he did get her Facebook, though he later forgot her name.


Just something to think about.

Need more confidence at conventions. Yeah you may get rejected by women, but not all of us are terrifying beasts that will rip you a new one (that's maybe 45%). You just have to try and strike up conversations whenever and wherever at such events and don't just settle on talking to women, talk to other men as well because they may have awesome girls as friends; heck you may even make an awesome new friend in general.

For those who say that anime is childish just shows how little they respect you and your hobby. Even as a woman I've had people tell me how weird it is that I love anime/videogames or that it's childish. Instead of getting upset (though I did a little at the time) I got frustrated because why is my hobby any worse then another hobby. I mean, I find Star Wars fans to be a little odd, but I don't bash it rather I respect them and their passion for something (though if they wanted to dress as a wookiee and fuck in the suit I'd be out lol).

As I said, regardless if you find a nerdy girl or not just find someone who will respect you and is willing to talk to you about such things. Also don't forget to always work on yourself. Keeping yourself healthy, getting out of the otaku den, and not wearing that miku hatsune shirt for the 28th time in a row will do nothing but help you. I know I love to veg out in my nerd mode, but I also make sure to try and eat right, exercise, and keep myself in tip top shape (or as best I can really lol) out of respect to myself. My guy does the same for me as well because making yourself happy will make your future partner happy too.

Yea it's true, is a good place to find someone with the same likes. People goes to conventions to have fun but am not that kind of people that goes to conventions to find a gf. I like to go to conventions to have fun and nothing else. When I go, I mostly go with my friends or by myself sometimes. Yea maybe I haven't found any girls around my area or maybe I haven't look very hard. The point is am to passionate about anime and manga. Girls think am kind of creepy but I don't care. It most be nice to meet a girl who's has a semi idea about anime and manga, so that way I could teach her this amazing world that we have.

Don't exclude the possibility of finding a nice lady friend at conventions. Shouldn't make it your mission or anything, rather just go there as you always do to have fun and who knows, you may strike up a nice conversation with that chick dressed as Yukina from future diary... hopefully though she isn't 100% into character (^^)>

I would also wouldn't make your hobby the first or second dinner conversation. I brought up that I liked anime slowly with my bf and over time he started to see how nerdy I was with it. You never want to overload someone with this type of thing, but as I said if its the right person they won't care and will talk with you about where there comfort zone is. I never pushed my guy to watch this stuff, he actually asked me to do the movie marathons himself so it was a shock but I appreciated it; a girl can do the same for you.

The way I see it, don't approach a girl with the notion of making her a possible girlfriend candidate. Just enjoy yourself at the cons and be yourself instead of trying too hard to woo girls. The more you try that the more obvious your motive will be and you'll end up looking like a real creeper.

I like to throw random comments at people that I've just met, and if he/she and I are on the right track a little conversation happens and we get to know each other.

Yea, that would be nice, but not many girls are willing to watch anime. One of my best friend, she likes some of the movies that I recommend her, but it wasn't easy. Yea true, most people or society has to change the idea about anime. Anime is not just for kids, there are some good animes out there but not all of them could be a great animes, but at the end of each series will make you think about things you care.

I know I've recommended it as well as others, but keep this in mind; it's great to have someone to share your hobbies with, but don't get discouraged if they don't like them or take no interest in them. It's more about the person respecting that you like what you like regardless if they wish to join or not. It's nice when they can join, but you just take what you get.

I don't like hardly anything about sports, but even so I am happy my boyfriend is passionate about the field and even more so that he is making it into a career for himself. I've gone to games and have tried to watch some stuff with him, but it's so boring and difficult for me since I have zero interest personally. He appreciates I try to when I do, but always tells me to do my own thing if/when sports come up. He'd rather us both be happy then me be miserable for the day to appease him.

Also believe me we get your struggles on how society thinks anime is (insert stereotype), but that's just how the world is. I'm friends with all kinds and as long as no one throws in their two cents about the shit I enjoy I couldn't care less if they liked it or not. So never take it as an insult if someone doesn't find the hobby interesting, only if they have to make remarks about it that show a lack of respect.

I had ball jointed dolls and got to second base, hit or miss with the precious dollies. More often hit.

Yea, thanks for you advise, there are places close to my house, but sometimes am busy or not enough time in one day.

Well am thinking to do cosplay in the next con, but i don't think am ready. Maybe if I go with a group of friends I may do it, but until then is just a MAYBE

Well if you are aware that you lack social skills then maybe it is those you need to work on first before trying to find a girlfriend who likes manga and anime? Because if you have that in order you might even be able to find a GF who does not necessarily like manga&anime but as Misaki says accept your hobbies.

Also I 100% agree that meeting girls as conventions should count just as much as meeting girls outside conventions. Actually you might actually want to find her there because if you do go to a con twice a year you can go together and have fun there togehter, but while as if you find a GF outside a con and she isn't a con person she might not be interested in going at all.

Well I know it can be awkward to just RANDOMLY approach people at conventions especially girls, if they are in cosplay or if they are in a group of friends. Also if they are alone it could be because they are shy and if you feel awkward too both of you will probably feel a bit uncomfortable.

I don't know how cons works in the states or the place you are, but I'm sure there are some events there right? We usually have speed dating, tournaments, quizzes and such which some times require teams and sometimes people make random teams. Try joining some events, talk to people at the event. You might even be lucky that a girl talks to you. It won't be weird because you both are at the event because you want to have fun, discuss things you love and share your thoughts and feelings about different the series. You might meet someone /maybe not a girl/ but an awesome dude and befriending him. If he comes to cons often he might have some female anime friends which you probably will get introduced to if you start meeting up at cons often.

Make use of your network, don't be narrow minded and don't go search for a girlfriend, take one step at a time. Get to know more people who likes manga/anime get to know their friends and you will see not only your social skills but also your animu friend network expand. and who knows maybe one day you will meet this girl who just have the same animu taste as you and you will fall in love~

//sorry for long reply~ Hope it could help even a bit

Cons are by far the easiest way to meet a girl who likes anime and manga, hands down. I went to a convention dressed as a woman and got a girl's number. Last convention I went to a few months ago I got a girl's facebook after dancing with her for a while at some formal ball event, but I learned later that she had a bf. She was still a cool person though. So yeah, I guess work on social skills because those are pretty important, and then cons are definitely the easiest way. Only problem is someone you meet might not live near you.

For some reason women dig that... so here's hoping my lolita is pretty enough.

It really comes down to the sociality of it. It may be nice to have someone who already shares the same interests as you, but also it is perfectly fine to simply introduce her to anime and manga as well. Social skills, however, are imperative. You may think to, say, talk to a girl at a convention is creepy, but that is a fault of the way you are thinking. If done casually, it could go well, but jumping the gun obviously is a big no no. For example, I've gone to plenty of conventions and found girls just as shy as the guys and vice versa (always gonna remember that one tug of the sleeve haha). Everyone there is at least a little awkward at some sort of degree. Simply try to operate smoothly in the case of conventions. Sure, things like cosplay and groups can cause problems and pose barriers, but they can also provide opportunities, just take it slow and think of what in your mind is the best option. (And if anything, they probably won't see you again so no need to feel embarrassed, honestly, people don't call security on you and stuff at conventions). There are plenty of places to look for you know, local anime stores if available, libraries and books stores, conventions, etc. Now it shouldn't be that you target a specific group because, one, that heavily limits your options, and two, creates expectations and standards for the other person that may hinder or harm the relationship.

Really, the one big error lots of guys make is to try to search for solely a girlfriend. Though that may be nice to have and all, it really is a narrow-minded approach. A major thing is that a girlfriend should obviously be a friend first and foremost, the sort of I've got to find a girlfriend mentality really can distort things. After all, it all should be a gradual process.