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Why is so Hard to find a gf who likes anime and manga ???
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I found that there are a lot of people who are closet-anime lovers. In my class pretty much 70% of my classmates love anime to some degree with one guy who even does comissions for dakimakura drawings. The only thing is that they're scared of revealing that they like it, it's all a matter of getting to know the person first and then slowly changing the conversation into hobbies and likes.
Start by making friends with people and then eventually it might turn into something else, also don't just go to anime conventions because you're limiting yourself, you could frequent art or animation forums if youre into that kinda stuff . People in those fields are often closet-weebs
Start by making friends with people and then eventually it might turn into something else, also don't just go to anime conventions because you're limiting yourself, you could frequent art or animation forums if youre into that kinda stuff . People in those fields are often closet-weebs
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You know while we're on the subject of meeting girls at conventions and what not, what is the best way to approach a girl at a con, other than commenting on her costume? I'm sure girls get that all the time.
Not trying to hijack the the thread, just don't wanna open a similar thread.
Not trying to hijack the the thread, just don't wanna open a similar thread.
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Misaki_Chi
Fakku Nurse
Metal Overlord wrote...
You know while we're on the subject of meeting girls at conventions and what not, what is the best way to approach a girl at a con, other than commenting on her costume? I'm sure girls get that all the time.Not trying to hijack the the thread, just don't wanna open a similar thread.
I think it both depends on the person and what they are doing at that moment in time.
When I am just chilling and not doing much of anything, I have no problem talking to a person who casually says hello to me. When I am trying to get somewhere for whatever reason I'm less likely to stay and talk casually since I have a mission. Some people have more free time then others to chill and talk, but don't force a person to try and stay in a conversation when they don't look interested; may be nothing against you, some people just find it hard to think of saying "I have to go do X thing" (I use to be more shy like that and run off lol).
Other thing is the personality. Some people are more open to talking while others are either more shy/standoffish/stuck-up/cold/uninterested/etc. So it may not be you, rather the person and how they are feeling. The days I feel like shit, but I need to cosplay I do it because I already have the outfit made and I'm already there, but if you talk with me I'll kindly try to say I need to go instead of biting your head off.
Now getting to the notion of how to talk to a female at a convention.
Keep in mind the notions I just said so you don't feel like you're cursed to never talk with a woman (like I said it's not always the guy, were human and have shit go down in ours lives that affect how we interact lol).
Basically being casual such as saying "hello" is always a good start. If you notice a key-chain or a shirt or a hat or an accessory of there's ask about it such as "is that from a series? If so which one?" or "hey I really like that (add that you enjoy the series too if you really do, don't lie and say you know shit about it if you don't because that can lead to a huge lie)".
If they are cosplaying saying that it looks good works well enough or if your waiting in line for something/chilling at a place either standing around/sitting or you are at a panel or even out to lunch at the hotel bar, just try striking up conversations. Ask how the person is enjoying the convention, did they go to any panels, what brought them to this con, etc, etc.
The biggest thing you can do when you talk to women is try to get them to talk. If you find that the girl has a hard time talking, push yourself to talk more but don't go overboard and talk about the mechanics of a series she doesn't know shit about or tell her your whole life story. Also, don't clam up when a woman talks to you, I'm personally a talker and some guys I've talked to casually are so shy that they cannot spout out two words in response. I feel bad since I know that it is hard for people to randomly strike up conversations, but if you want something you need to push yourself. Don't feel like a failure if you can't do it right away, believe me I wasn't as outspoken when I was younger (as I mentioned I ran away from people because I couldn't say I had to go; I was too nervous/shy lol).
When it is the right person the conversation will flow so if you find that it's difficult with the first 5 women, mayve the sixth will be better.
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Otaku-ish girls tends to be less socially active. Why? Simple, you need time to watch anime and read manga, time you aren't anywhere else. Also, outside a few cities, anime and manga aren't that massively popular (%) to start with. Anyway, all my girlfriends (and girl friends, except one) liked/likes anime and manga at some degree, though I guess it's because I'm on forums and groups that are about or related to it in the first place.
Anyway, friendship and love isn't just about sharing tastes, passing a good time with the hobbies, playing videogames or things like that. Yeah, those things are fun, really, but things aren't only about it (you don't even need that in the first place, frankly, but helps). Some of the best friendships and partners are those who have things you didn't even were looking in the first place, so being a bit flexible, open minded and receptive helps a lot.
As for convention goes. Frankly I never did go to a convention in my life, so what I know comes only from friend's experiences, but if that helps: Never disturb a busy guy/girl because they are on their own stuff (it's quite easy to identify someone who's busy). If you see someone who's just watching things randomly, you can give it a try, but without pushing things (please, be considerate, if you feel the other person is uncomfortable, stop or change the topic). Unless you're in the circle, and what I mean with the circle I mean you're a cosplayer, event organizer, artist of any kind or you have a stand, don't expect too much results, and if you get one, things should be really slowly, conventions aren't bars where you can hit complete strangers and get action the same night. If you're in the circle you can expect more things and faster, though, specially if that person is affiliated to you at some degree (sharing group, your photographer and so).
Oh, yeah, conventions aren't the only thing. It's kinda the same with: sushi restaurants (not everyone, but it's common), otaku shops, maid cafés, anime DVD/BD clubs (or any forum, website, group and so on Internet about the topic) and so. Though again, you don't need an otaku girlfriend to be happy. For example I'm a hardcore gamer and no one of my girlfriends liked videogames, but I was happy and got a lot of fun with them anyway (I respected their taste and their mine)~
BTW, like R. said, there are a lot of guys/gals who hide their otaku power level. Showing some of you power level may give you a lot of results on job/study places. Those who're hiding their power level will contact you soon or later if the situation arose (privacy). It's lol, but truth. If you're shy/think you can screw up by showing your power level, you can do it in a more discrete way or focus your show off on someone specific (try to see if others are doing that, too, lol).
Also what said luvyduv and xhimitsu.
Not trying to hijack the the thread, just don't wanna open a similar thread.
An idea: stalk a few minutes (someone or just near a stand or anything), wait if the situation arise. What's the situation? Where you can comment a shared interest for a show, character, genre or so. That should do the job most the time if he/she isn't busy. If no situation arise, try random comments about shows and so, sometimes you'll screw up, deal with it, try other topic or ask him/her questions and look for shared interests. Sometimes you'll give the target at first try and things can go smoothly unless you're pushing too hard to a shy person.
Oh, yeah, trying to not only hit on cosplayers would rise you a lot your chances. A lot of event makers, stand owners, varied artists and random otakus are there, too. In fact you may get more chances with everyone else rather than cosplayers, as cosplayers tends to be busy with their group work, events and so. Unless you're in the circle, of course (being a cosplayer yourself, a costume maker, photographer and so).
Anyway, friendship and love isn't just about sharing tastes, passing a good time with the hobbies, playing videogames or things like that. Yeah, those things are fun, really, but things aren't only about it (you don't even need that in the first place, frankly, but helps). Some of the best friendships and partners are those who have things you didn't even were looking in the first place, so being a bit flexible, open minded and receptive helps a lot.
As for convention goes. Frankly I never did go to a convention in my life, so what I know comes only from friend's experiences, but if that helps: Never disturb a busy guy/girl because they are on their own stuff (it's quite easy to identify someone who's busy). If you see someone who's just watching things randomly, you can give it a try, but without pushing things (please, be considerate, if you feel the other person is uncomfortable, stop or change the topic). Unless you're in the circle, and what I mean with the circle I mean you're a cosplayer, event organizer, artist of any kind or you have a stand, don't expect too much results, and if you get one, things should be really slowly, conventions aren't bars where you can hit complete strangers and get action the same night. If you're in the circle you can expect more things and faster, though, specially if that person is affiliated to you at some degree (sharing group, your photographer and so).
Oh, yeah, conventions aren't the only thing. It's kinda the same with: sushi restaurants (not everyone, but it's common), otaku shops, maid cafés, anime DVD/BD clubs (or any forum, website, group and so on Internet about the topic) and so. Though again, you don't need an otaku girlfriend to be happy. For example I'm a hardcore gamer and no one of my girlfriends liked videogames, but I was happy and got a lot of fun with them anyway (I respected their taste and their mine)~
BTW, like R. said, there are a lot of guys/gals who hide their otaku power level. Showing some of you power level may give you a lot of results on job/study places. Those who're hiding their power level will contact you soon or later if the situation arose (privacy). It's lol, but truth. If you're shy/think you can screw up by showing your power level, you can do it in a more discrete way or focus your show off on someone specific (try to see if others are doing that, too, lol).
Also what said luvyduv and xhimitsu.
Metal Overlord wrote...
You know while we're on the subject of meeting girls at conventions and what not, what is the best way to approach a girl at a con, other than commenting on her costume? I'm sure girls get that all the time.Not trying to hijack the the thread, just don't wanna open a similar thread.
An idea: stalk a few minutes (someone or just near a stand or anything), wait if the situation arise. What's the situation? Where you can comment a shared interest for a show, character, genre or so. That should do the job most the time if he/she isn't busy. If no situation arise, try random comments about shows and so, sometimes you'll screw up, deal with it, try other topic or ask him/her questions and look for shared interests. Sometimes you'll give the target at first try and things can go smoothly unless you're pushing too hard to a shy person.
Oh, yeah, trying to not only hit on cosplayers would rise you a lot your chances. A lot of event makers, stand owners, varied artists and random otakus are there, too. In fact you may get more chances with everyone else rather than cosplayers, as cosplayers tends to be busy with their group work, events and so. Unless you're in the circle, of course (being a cosplayer yourself, a costume maker, photographer and so).
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Well of course you can always try to turn a person to the "dark side". You can just find a girl/boyfriend and try to introduce them to the world of anime and manga. I myself know about 4 people who did that. The important thing is that a person is happy with you, and if that criteria is met you can always try to share your interests!
