tsukasa102 wrote...
Rejection is that feeling when you're staring face to face with someone in which either you, or the intended plans to enter a relationship with and you get turned down. Popping the question of dating can be one of the most frightening experiences one has in life. There's not a more gut-wrenching feeling that leaves your throat feeling dry and extremely sore all of a sudden than being rejected by someone you have feelings for.
The worst part isn't so much the fact that you were rejected honestly. It's the feeling of utter
awkwardness that exists between you afterwards. It's like you're virtually handing them a sign that says: "Hey. Just to let you know, anything you do has a giant impact on me." And that's a problem when friendships are supposed to be casual, and have a level of their own that is separate from relationships.
I'm not an upfront person, honestly. I've never asked a single person: "Would you like to go out with me?" I've always believed that if two people really wanted to go out, then there is hardly the need for the question in the first place. And that is precisely how I've entered most of the relationships in my life. Honestly, I just find it more romantic in general when the person I like returns small gestures of affection in kind, rather than blaring out "We're dating!, We're dating!" Though, that might stem from the fact that I get rather embarrassed when people figured out i'm dating someone and proceed to barrage me with questions about it.
Anyhow, I've been on both sides of the river. Both the one being rejected and the one rejecting. Never have I told somebody no without at least giving them reasons why that aren't generic, such as: "I don't think it'd work out". I can understand the mental stress that comes with a random person coming up, or a friend whom you've never even seen in the rose-colored spotlight come up and admit feelings for you. It's a mind-boggling experience that will wreak havoc on your mind and your heart.
The only real solution is to not enter relationships. Or if you want to continue, I recommend having a self-built list of qualities that you look for in a person, and consider whether or not the person whom you're considering dating and/or whom is asking you to go out with them meets those qualities.
Be realistic though. Nobody will match your preference 100%. And if he/she does well...aren't you just lucky. =/
If anything Tsukasa I think your words mean a lot more then mine. I just spoke on past experiences you seem to know more about what your talking about then I do.