nateriver10 wrote...
artcellrox wrote...
I may have stated this before, but I believe cheating of any kind can basically be generalised to one question.
Are you doing something with a third party that you'd keep a secret from your SO because you know they'd disapprove?
If you answer yes, you're cheating on your SO.
I haven't given this much thought although I do think cybersex is a bit much when you are in a relationship. Still, I think your question is a bit insuficent for being vague in two instances. The first being the action which you refer to as «something» and the second being the lack of information as to what makes up a third party.
The first objection you might answer easily. That would be rephrasing to: Are you doing something in order to achieve sexual pleasure with... and so on.
The second objection is a bit more subjective, even though I'm starting to think the first can be subjective as well. On this one though, what exactly is a third party? Some people disapprove when it is a person on the webcam, others disapprove when it is a pornstar on a previously recorded video, others might disapprove when it is a pure thought (pure, not in the sense of being clean but in the sense of being the basic meaning of the word «thought»). What is it exactly?
Even in the webcam issue we can move forward. How about those webcam websites where women get paid for it? They aren't pornstars, it isn't recorded and, with some reserve, we can say they do it as a job. Yet, they are really there and really talking back. Does that make it different than random girls on webcam?
I'm just raising questions, I have yet to make an opinion on this...
Being subjective is the very reason I kept those two aspects vague, though yes, the first could be rephrased better to mean "something you're doing with another person when you could clearly do it with your SO, be it sexual, physical, emotional, or mental".
For instance, I know of some people where the guy wasn't even allowed to look at porn, and another girl cann't even do it out personal guilt (she thought even listening to erotic audios would be a kind of cheating).
If you want my opinion, if I'm in a completely closed relationship*, public webcam shows without interacting with the camperson would be the limit for both of us. What matters to me is the actual interaction and wanting of another person. I agree with Skelli on the fact that, if I'm lusting for a specific person and not just some porn fantasy, I'd go bang my partner.
[size=10]*Note that I am pretty flexible when it comes to limits, so I am willing to be in an open relationship, depending on the girl involved, so by closed, I'm thinking of being in a relationship where I want my girl to be mine alone and always.[/h]