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Okay, I know some girls would say that chivalry and honor aren't dead.. yet but they're not thriving either. I happen to know this cute girl during my first year in college who thinks that 2 out of 10 guys are real gentlemen and being one could be a very BIG asset. I myself (to no avail) have been trying to be one hahaha! So, do you consider yourself as a gentleman? Does it matter if girls prefer gentlemen? Comment away :D
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Misaki_Chi
Fakku Nurse
I have to answer your question as no personally since I am not a man, but to me a gentleman is someone who shows respect to others and puts others before themselves. Basically they aren't an inconsiderate asshole.
I don't think that all men are assholes, but there I've seen a difference between a good guy and a good lover. Some guys I thought were awesome as friends sucked at relationships and a few were dicks to their women. I don't understand why they felt the need to act differently around their lover in relation to how they act around their friends, because the best relationships come from being both.
I love my man because he is a gentleman. He opens the door to places we go. He asks me how my day was, he's been there for me in my tough times. He doesn't mind buying me things and even wishes to do so to make me happy. He also does small things for me to make my day better (^^)
I would tell men to just be themselves and to try and find someone who will appreciate them. When you find someone who can appreciate you for who you are, then you can do the same for them.
Also I don't care what people say, women don't prefer assholes. I've dated a few in the past and I never dated them because they were a jerk. I slowly saw them showing their true colors over time and some are good charmer's up front. Some girls stay with an asshole for a long time (self esteem, invested, feel they can change them, can't do better then what they got, etc), but in the end no one deserves it. You leave those loosers when it happens; it's on you if you willingly choose to stay with them.
I don't think that all men are assholes, but there I've seen a difference between a good guy and a good lover. Some guys I thought were awesome as friends sucked at relationships and a few were dicks to their women. I don't understand why they felt the need to act differently around their lover in relation to how they act around their friends, because the best relationships come from being both.
I love my man because he is a gentleman. He opens the door to places we go. He asks me how my day was, he's been there for me in my tough times. He doesn't mind buying me things and even wishes to do so to make me happy. He also does small things for me to make my day better (^^)
I would tell men to just be themselves and to try and find someone who will appreciate them. When you find someone who can appreciate you for who you are, then you can do the same for them.
Also I don't care what people say, women don't prefer assholes. I've dated a few in the past and I never dated them because they were a jerk. I slowly saw them showing their true colors over time and some are good charmer's up front. Some girls stay with an asshole for a long time (self esteem, invested, feel they can change them, can't do better then what they got, etc), but in the end no one deserves it. You leave those loosers when it happens; it's on you if you willingly choose to stay with them.
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Me, a gentleman. Hahahahahahah...
I try, but it's so hard when you see the moral fabric of society showing its true fangs everyday. I treat women really good though, since they usually in my experience treat me better. But I respect everyone.
I try, but it's so hard when you see the moral fabric of society showing its true fangs everyday. I treat women really good though, since they usually in my experience treat me better. But I respect everyone.
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No. I'm more than willing to be friendly if you just show some goddamn respect towards me, but being a gentleman just hasn't ever helped with that.
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Gotta treat everyone with respect and act professionally. Definition of gentleman.
You can't become just to impress girls, you have to be one for everyone.
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I can't say that I am-- though I inspire to be kind to others and be as civil as possible. If you want my opinion, I think chivalry is dead- in our day and age, our society outgrew it I guess.
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Tsamari
C.E.O of Pancakes
[color=#ff69b4]I think that word "Gentleman" can mean a few things.
being nice to the people around you and trying to put friends or family before yourself Is one of the ones that comes to mind for me. I've always try to help friends out when I can and I will most likely put them before myself as I like to see the people I care about to be happy more so then myself, but I don't think of myself as a so called "Gentleman" because I think when most people think of a gentleman they think of someone who is always well dressed, is very well spoken and just a pompous ass. If you think yourself as a "Gentleman" then you're not one. For a true one would never think of himself as one.
Someone who dose a lot, who well never ask for something for helping you, who always nice to be around and talk to, that is what I think a gentleman is.
being nice to the people around you and trying to put friends or family before yourself Is one of the ones that comes to mind for me. I've always try to help friends out when I can and I will most likely put them before myself as I like to see the people I care about to be happy more so then myself, but I don't think of myself as a so called "Gentleman" because I think when most people think of a gentleman they think of someone who is always well dressed, is very well spoken and just a pompous ass. If you think yourself as a "Gentleman" then you're not one. For a true one would never think of himself as one.
Someone who dose a lot, who well never ask for something for helping you, who always nice to be around and talk to, that is what I think a gentleman is.
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I honestly am unable to answer that question. It can only be answered by those who surround me. But my guess is probably not.
IRL i am extremely nice and sweet when you first meet me. If you act civilized i will continue to remain so, but it doesn't take much to piss me off and switch from holding the door open for you to smashing your balls with said door. I also charge a $300 fee for castration.
Also, i make no exceptions for women. I consider all humans equal, irregardless of gender/race/other trivialities. If they act like shit, they will get their teeth knocked out. If they act civilized i will return the favor two-fold.
IRL i am extremely nice and sweet when you first meet me. If you act civilized i will continue to remain so, but it doesn't take much to piss me off and switch from holding the door open for you to smashing your balls with said door. I also charge a $300 fee for castration.
Also, i make no exceptions for women. I consider all humans equal, irregardless of gender/race/other trivialities. If they act like shit, they will get their teeth knocked out. If they act civilized i will return the favor two-fold.
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Not at all, I'm a massive dick at best, somehow people think I'm joking and laugh at it.
Fuck people man.
Fuck people man.
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I think I'm a gentleman, I treat people with respect, I'm always nice, I'm always willing to help people, I live by a code of conduct, and most importantly I'm not an asshole. So I think I qualify as a gentleman.
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I am a gentleman when the situation calls for it ;), but when nobody is looking i turn into a nice guy.
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Drifter995
Neko//Night
I'd like to say I am, but at the same time, fuck knows if I am. I'm pretty inconsistent it seems.
I tend to open doors for people (when I remember), I put others needs and safety, etc ahead of my own, I care about people, I let people out infront of me when they are waiting to come into the traffic when It's busy.
When I'm with somebody, I put their needs above mine, cater to their needs, spoil them, try to give them my attention, love, etc.
Blah blah.
If that makes me a gentleman, then so be it. That is what I'm like, it's not me being different to who I am, so whee... or something. Tired.
I don't do the whole 'AMG, I AM SUCH A GENTLEMAN, I OPEN DOORS FOR WIMMINZ AND DRESS CLASSY LIKE, WHY DUN THEY LIEK ME?' though, which may help. I don't often go seeking a relationship. I mostly aim to make friends with people. I also refuse to sleep with somebody unless I'm in a relationship, through some weird turn of events/ moral values. I have no idea why. I mean, I probably could if I wanted to, but I just don't, and would much rather be in a relationship with them to bang them. More fun. Get to corrupt them :D
But yeah, I don't do one night stands, don't openly hunt prey for sex/ relationships and all that shit.
Time for sleep. I have no idea what I'm doing or saying anymore
I tend to open doors for people (when I remember), I put others needs and safety, etc ahead of my own, I care about people, I let people out infront of me when they are waiting to come into the traffic when It's busy.
When I'm with somebody, I put their needs above mine, cater to their needs, spoil them, try to give them my attention, love, etc.
Blah blah.
If that makes me a gentleman, then so be it. That is what I'm like, it's not me being different to who I am, so whee... or something. Tired.
I don't do the whole 'AMG, I AM SUCH A GENTLEMAN, I OPEN DOORS FOR WIMMINZ AND DRESS CLASSY LIKE, WHY DUN THEY LIEK ME?' though, which may help. I don't often go seeking a relationship. I mostly aim to make friends with people. I also refuse to sleep with somebody unless I'm in a relationship, through some weird turn of events/ moral values. I have no idea why. I mean, I probably could if I wanted to, but I just don't, and would much rather be in a relationship with them to bang them. More fun. Get to corrupt them :D
But yeah, I don't do one night stands, don't openly hunt prey for sex/ relationships and all that shit.
Time for sleep. I have no idea what I'm doing or saying anymore
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Yes i considered myself a gentleman and sadly i hate being mean but no they prefer opposite of a gentleman in general and in most cases they want bastards,players and all out rude guys aka bad men and other pricks/assholes don't say that it's not true you know you have sex with those sick bastards all because you think he's hot,you think you can change him into a sweet loving gentleman and when that don't work you cry,piss,moan,bitch and complaining about it to the sweet gentleman you have rejected then like always you go back for more like a sick puppy all because of you think you can change him.
And you lusting after what you can't have and you want to have his babies then boom/bam then you want a nice guy who is sweet gentleman for money not for love and that nice guys/good men like myself "hmmmmm i want to be with her oh i know i act that sick jerk who is rude to her" then you lusting after him and you want to have his kids,by then you're either a single mom,no longer a virgin,pregnant by a jerk bastard who left you for another woman and yes possibly all of the above
I can go on and on about this about what's going on in dating community so i leave it here for now and what I'm describing is how most women and most girls if not some of girls and some of women act like in general and in most cases when it comes to dating,relationships and marriages I'm sorry if I'm harsh or sounded harsh someone needs to tell the truth if i won't who will a macho hunk hot muscular macho hunk :).
And you lusting after what you can't have and you want to have his babies then boom/bam then you want a nice guy who is sweet gentleman for money not for love and that nice guys/good men like myself "hmmmmm i want to be with her oh i know i act that sick jerk who is rude to her" then you lusting after him and you want to have his kids,by then you're either a single mom,no longer a virgin,pregnant by a jerk bastard who left you for another woman and yes possibly all of the above
I can go on and on about this about what's going on in dating community so i leave it here for now and what I'm describing is how most women and most girls if not some of girls and some of women act like in general and in most cases when it comes to dating,relationships and marriages I'm sorry if I'm harsh or sounded harsh someone needs to tell the truth if i won't who will a macho hunk hot muscular macho hunk :).