artcellrox wrote...
Being subjective is the very reason I kept those two aspects vague, though yes, the first could be rephrased better to mean "something you're doing with another person when you could clearly do it with your SO, be it sexual, physical, emotional, or
mental".
For instance, I know of some people where the guy wasn't even allowed to look at porn, and another girl cann't even do it out personal guilt (she thought even listening to erotic audios would be a kind of cheating).
If you want my opinion, if I'm in a completely closed relationship*, public webcam shows without interacting with the camperson would be the limit for both of us. What matters to me is the actual interaction and wanting of another person. I agree with Skelli on the fact that, if I'm lusting for a specific person and not just some porn fantasy, I'd go bang my partner.
[size=10]*Note that I am pretty flexible when it comes to limits, so I am willing to be in an open relationship, depending on the girl involved, so by closed, I'm thinking of being in a relationship where I want my girl to be mine alone and always.[/h]
I'm not entirely sure what you mean by mental but it seems as though you are suggesting some sort of Orwellian thing, almost following up on what I said about pure thought. One is perfectly free to think that constitutes cheating although we would be living in a terrible world if people were to be held guilty for thoughts, indeed, thoughtcrime. People have their right to be upset but I think your rule changes colors if it counts some sort of mental action as cheating. In fact, the expression «mental action» is quite the paradox. Not sure if you mean something else though...
Regarding the webcam issue, I pointed out the professional cam girls for the following reason: it could be that a person looking for those things is not interested in the person behind the other camera but he's interested in the overall cam thing. In other words, he may not like the people there in any way, he just likes doing cam stuff. If that's the case it makes me think that this may not be so much different than recorded or drawn pornography.