Butthurt over butt play?
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Something I have noticed recently, in the comments section of various fine doujins and manga available on this site, is the great deal of men I find absolutely disgusted by male leads receiving any anal stimulation, be it a singe digit in the back door, or full on pegging (the Play Girl doujin comes to mind).
Now then perhaps I'm a little perplexed because I rather enjoy giving and receiving anal stimulation, in various forms, and pegging a guy is a huge turn on for me. So to see people so totally disgusted by something I love kinda gets me down.
So whats the deal, why is a (likely hetero/bisexual) guy getting his anal adventures on such a terrible thing? Or is anal only ok when a girl is taking it?
Now then perhaps I'm a little perplexed because I rather enjoy giving and receiving anal stimulation, in various forms, and pegging a guy is a huge turn on for me. So to see people so totally disgusted by something I love kinda gets me down.
So whats the deal, why is a (likely hetero/bisexual) guy getting his anal adventures on such a terrible thing? Or is anal only ok when a girl is taking it?
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People are being hypocritical. Homophobia and all that. Anal stimulation is great, and let's face it; it's the closest us guys will get to the female experience without irreversible and expensive surgery. Now true, it needs to be done 'right'. That one Inomaru dojin where she fingers the guy, that felt gritty and dirty, not to mention the practicalities of 'unprepared' anal play taking one out of the story. But otherwise, I think it's great, and shows a liberalization of hentai, sort of like the girls licking the guys' nipples.
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Flaser
OCD Hentai Collector
People still treat sexuality as a binary/three-state status instead of the spectrum it is.
Moreover there's still too much of a stigma attached to sexual deviancy of any kind, much less homosexuality for most people to accept things outside the "iron bound", tight limits of the "norm".
Therefore they vehemently deny and ostracize sexuality that would put a "bad light" on their own sexuality, as being branded queer is something that weighs heavy on their psyche.
Moreover there's still too much of a stigma attached to sexual deviancy of any kind, much less homosexuality for most people to accept things outside the "iron bound", tight limits of the "norm".
Therefore they vehemently deny and ostracize sexuality that would put a "bad light" on their own sexuality, as being branded queer is something that weighs heavy on their psyche.
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Ah, I'm starting to get the feeling I was born ahead of my time.
I guess this makes a good bit of sense, even if it's incredibly sad. Thanks for the input =3
I guess this makes a good bit of sense, even if it's incredibly sad. Thanks for the input =3
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They're just being scared of exactly what Flaser mentioned: the fact that sexuality is not bianary.
Or they just hate to see the traditionally-stronger role of male being penetrated, which is often looked upon as a feminine quality (rather than being the physical penetrator, due to genitals).
Or they just hate to see the traditionally-stronger role of male being penetrated, which is often looked upon as a feminine quality (rather than being the physical penetrator, due to genitals).
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It's just a macho thing. Convincing oneself that one is the farthest thing from homosexual, hence the aversion to anal play.
Mehhh, let them soothe their own psyches, just as long as it doesn't turn into ignorance.
Mehhh, let them soothe their own psyches, just as long as it doesn't turn into ignorance.
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Because, you see, the ass is a one way exit from your body where wastes are excreted. It's not normal, even within intimate relationships, to stick a foreign object up your partners rectum, regardless of how sexually stimulating you find it. Sometimes you just got to take your mind off hentai and porn of a while and realize what's normal and what's not.
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neofranky wrote...
Because, you see, the ass is a one way exit from your body where wastes are excreted. This is why I hate anal stimulation, and this is the only reason
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It's because normally guys are doing the penetration and the women are on the receiving end. When you flip it around, it really does play into something not natural in nature itself. How often do you a female cat penetrate a male cat?
Most guys aren't comfortable with that. Though could it really be considered a double standard whether for nature or society?
Most guys aren't comfortable with that. Though could it really be considered a double standard whether for nature or society?
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CGrascal
Infamous
As far as I'm concerned, most of the folks who complain are your standard "Vanilla or I'll whine!" folks. That's all it is.
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Unsigned wrote...
It's because normally guys are doing the penetration and the women are on the receiving end. When you flip it around, it really does play into something not natural in nature itself. How often do you a female cat penetrate a male cat?Most guys aren't comfortable with that. Though could it really be considered a double standard whether for nature or society?
To be fair when was the last time you saw a cat with a strap on, indoor plumbing, or an iPhone (ant smasher doesn't count)? Humans use all kinds of tools for various reasons, why should sexual satisfaction be any different? I don't think saying something is natural really matters, considering we use all kinds of tools for various tasks constantly.
Though there is at least one type of animal that comes to mind when you mention sexual role reversal, and that would be the pipe fish and seahorses =3
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I'm personally just not comfortable with it, but I understand others like it so ehh whatever
but generally I just ignore it and move on unless it becomes a major part of the doujin, then I just stop reading
for me I doubt it is a macho thing... as I actually am more of a hmm, bottom person (well i prefer being dominated okay!)
but generally I just ignore it and move on unless it becomes a major part of the doujin, then I just stop reading
for me I doubt it is a macho thing... as I actually am more of a hmm, bottom person (well i prefer being dominated okay!)
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Parie wrote...
Unsigned wrote...
It's because normally guys are doing the penetration and the women are on the receiving end. When you flip it around, it really does play into something not natural in nature itself. How often do you a female cat penetrate a male cat?Most guys aren't comfortable with that. Though could it really be considered a double standard whether for nature or society?
Humans use all kinds of tools for various reasons, why should sexual satisfaction be any different? I don't think saying something is natural really matters, considering we use all kinds of tools for various tasks constantly.
Sexual satisfaction is different because of religion and it's restrictions. Pleasure being lumped with lust and all. It causes less experimentation and forces more 'natural' functions.
And once again, most guys aren't comfortable with that. Could it really be considered a double standard whether for nature or society? Would like to hear your thoughts since you didn't actually address the question with a formal answer.
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Drifter995
Neko//Night
Let's put it this way, I don't care at all about it... It doesn't excite me, but I don't go around going 'OH MY GOD, IT'S DISGUSTING, KILL IT WITH FIRE. FAGGOTTY SHIT. WHO THE FUCK DOES THIS KINDA DIRTY SHIT?' I'll also say, I'm pretty well open to most things... Anal (for her) I'm fine with. Her licking my ass... Eh, I'd rather not. It's hairy, smells like poop, and well... I get the feeling I wouldn't like it/ it'd tickle more than I'd be able to bear :|
So in summary, It doesn't phase me, and I'm 100% (or 90%... give or take) straight.
So in summary, It doesn't phase me, and I'm 100% (or 90%... give or take) straight.
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Unsigned wrote...
Parie wrote...
Unsigned wrote...
It's because normally guys are doing the penetration and the women are on the receiving end. When you flip it around, it really does play into something not natural in nature itself. How often do you a female cat penetrate a male cat?Most guys aren't comfortable with that. Though could it really be considered a double standard whether for nature or society?
Humans use all kinds of tools for various reasons, why should sexual satisfaction be any different? I don't think saying something is natural really matters, considering we use all kinds of tools for various tasks constantly.
Sexual satisfaction is different because of religion and it's restrictions. Pleasure being lumped with lust and all. It causes less experimentation and forces more 'natural' functions.
And once again, most guys aren't comfortable with that. Could it really be considered a double standard whether for nature or society? Would like to hear your thoughts since you didn't actually address the question with a formal answer.
Ah, sorry about that, But I do agree its a bizzare double standard. I really think it might be more religion based then nature based though, I'd like to think if people found something that made them feel good they wouldnt really care, and just go with it, but I figure, if the church can demonize "regular" sex, then why not anal, especially for men, who of course are supposed the be the top of the social structure. I also believe I read that in the 14th century (or somewhere in that time period I forget exact dates) the church took it upon themselves to determine what was, and what wasnt appropriate sexual behavior. Even going so far to say a woman caught riding her husband (cowgirl) would be excommunicated. Rediculus right? Pretty much the only correct sexual expression involved the man in the dominant position and only for procreation. Obviously a woman taking the dominant role, and not being in a position promoting impregnation throws pegging right out the window.
So In that respect, sexual repression feuled by religion and general insecurity of male dominace might have more to do with why so many guys are bothered by it. Of course I'm not accounting for those who find anal to be unappealing because of hyginic reasons.
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For those who hate anal sex only because it's unclean; there are tools for exactly that.
Just look them up in some sex store or something, or if you're too shy to go into a store yourself, just search some online sexshop.
There is an entire category on it.
Just look them up in some sex store or something, or if you're too shy to go into a store yourself, just search some online sexshop.
There is an entire category on it.