A girl Ill never have
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Okay so there's this girl (obviously) that Im really into. She's a really good friend of mine and I have actually wanted her for a good while. Now the problem is that she has a boyfriend, that is not it, she has a boyfriend who is in freaking Europe and has been there and will be there for at least another year. Now, most people think that this would be the deciding factor. The thing is, she is obsessed with that guy, she is actually going to wait for him to come back to the states which will be at least a year. I know I cant compete against this guy and Ive decided that I wont even try.
So what Im asking you guys is how can I get over this? I really just want to put this out of my mind and continue living my life with this girl as a good friend.
So what Im asking you guys is how can I get over this? I really just want to put this out of my mind and continue living my life with this girl as a good friend.
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Drink you're troubles away. One big night out with the boys. Get smashed, lay it all out and once the dust clears and the horse stops kicking your head, move on if you can keep her as a friend but if you can't just move on without her.
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LuPonce wrote...
do whats done in the romance manga's here. hey, that shit might actually workoh shit, I'm agreeing with this dude.
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I wish their were a magical cure to getting over someone but their isnt...unless you drink till you pass out like mirage suggested...but then you wake up with a whole other set of problems...
anywho, time and distance usually helps the process if you're really into the girl. sometimes you need to take a step back so youre not forced to think about her and you together all the time, as sad as it sounds. but if you think you can still be around her but not be tempted, by all means continue...just gotta keep telling yourself that it cant happen. you gotta respect what she wants as a friend and a love interest
anywho, time and distance usually helps the process if you're really into the girl. sometimes you need to take a step back so youre not forced to think about her and you together all the time, as sad as it sounds. but if you think you can still be around her but not be tempted, by all means continue...just gotta keep telling yourself that it cant happen. you gotta respect what she wants as a friend and a love interest
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I don't think he should even try...he'd lose a friend in this.
I am myself in that kind of relationship (I mean, my gf is away, and so on and so forth) and I'd lose even my closest friends for her if they happen to try to getting me away from her in any way. I just don't care, no one and nothing is more important than her. So I suppose it's the same for the girl you're into, don't even try, you took a wise decision :)
And about forgetting her hm, let the time do it's job. And if in a year, you're not done with it yet, just tell her that you need some distance, she'll understand I suppose.
I am myself in that kind of relationship (I mean, my gf is away, and so on and so forth) and I'd lose even my closest friends for her if they happen to try to getting me away from her in any way. I just don't care, no one and nothing is more important than her. So I suppose it's the same for the girl you're into, don't even try, you took a wise decision :)
And about forgetting her hm, let the time do it's job. And if in a year, you're not done with it yet, just tell her that you need some distance, she'll understand I suppose.
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Try confessing to her? Maybe that will help you calm down...I once did that to a girl who already has a boyfriend...We're still friends and I'm glad i decided to confess...
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No, to anyone saying to confess to her, that is a terrible thing to do.
Getting over this is the right thing to do. You don't want to sacrifice your friendship or get in between the two in this situation. If you're both young(teens) then they'll probably break up eventually and if you can wait then to tell her then do so. Other wise you need to know that there are sooooo many girls out there for you to fall for, don't beat yourself up about this, it just takes a little time. Go out and have fun, don't think about it too much, you'll find another girl sooner or later.
Getting over this is the right thing to do. You don't want to sacrifice your friendship or get in between the two in this situation. If you're both young(teens) then they'll probably break up eventually and if you can wait then to tell her then do so. Other wise you need to know that there are sooooo many girls out there for you to fall for, don't beat yourself up about this, it just takes a little time. Go out and have fun, don't think about it too much, you'll find another girl sooner or later.
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As people said, just chill out and it will pass.
In order to make it go faster though I support the first post; get really fucking smashed, do some stupid shit and go bang some other chick.
Not only will you have had your mind on other things, you've probably(Hopefully?) created enough problems for yourself to keep your mind occupied for a while.
In order to make it go faster though I support the first post; get really fucking smashed, do some stupid shit and go bang some other chick.
Not only will you have had your mind on other things, you've probably(Hopefully?) created enough problems for yourself to keep your mind occupied for a while.
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Like people said, relax and move on. The girl is taken not much you can do unless they break up. Pick up a hobby or better yet find a new girl to mack on.
Love the posts telling him to drink himself into oblivion.
Love the posts telling him to drink himself into oblivion.
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Well the situation isn't that bad really compared to the usual problems I reply to. The biggest issue here is that you are focusing on what you are losing. True, you may never be more than just good friends with this girl. But you should be glad that you are good friends and that you'll continue to be good friends. You still get to hang around with her and enjoy her company. She's still going to be a part of your life.
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Well the giving it time part should be easy since neither of us signed up for summer courses and we both used to live on campus and since were both home which is a good 2-3 hours away from each other that will work out in my favor.
