Are some people more happy being single?
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tswarthog
The Iconoclast
Here is something I would like to bring up in a topic, are some people more happy being single.
I personally believe that, yes, some people are more happy without making an effort to find a woman(or man) to share their time with. Yet it seems that if you are single, happy, and proud of the fact people look down on you.
Hell I go visit some relatives and when they are all talking about grandkids and such I explain I am 99% sure I am not going into a relationship they all just go "stop joking, you will find someone" like I am unlucky to be single and not care.
Why don't people understand that some people are more happy being alone? Alone being the status of a relationship, not related to friends and such.
I personally believe that, yes, some people are more happy without making an effort to find a woman(or man) to share their time with. Yet it seems that if you are single, happy, and proud of the fact people look down on you.
Hell I go visit some relatives and when they are all talking about grandkids and such I explain I am 99% sure I am not going into a relationship they all just go "stop joking, you will find someone" like I am unlucky to be single and not care.
Why don't people understand that some people are more happy being alone? Alone being the status of a relationship, not related to friends and such.
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I understand how you want people to respect your belief and point of view, but I think you need to respect your family's belief and their point of view too.
They are not the people who will make you do something not beneficial on purpose. They try to do everything they can to help you.
They have experienced both being single and being in a relationship. I think the reason they want you to be in a relationship and later on get married is because it is a rewarding experience.
They are not the people who will make you do something not beneficial on purpose. They try to do everything they can to help you.
They have experienced both being single and being in a relationship. I think the reason they want you to be in a relationship and later on get married is because it is a rewarding experience.
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tswarthog
The Iconoclast
GoodDay wrote...
I understand how you want people to respect your belief and point of view, but I think you need to respect your family's belief and their point of view too.They are not the people who will make you do something not beneficial on purpose. They try to do everything they can to help you.
They have experienced both being single and being in a relationship. I think the reason they want you to be in a relationship and later on get married is because it is a rewarding experience.
Well the main topic here is not about my situation the question is more geared for if you believe that their are people who can be more happy being single over being in a relationship
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I would comment but you should first have this moved to the right section. General discussion on anime and manga is not the place to talk about this.
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tswarthog
The Iconoclast
razama wrote...
I would comment but you should first have this moved to the right section. General discussion on anime and manga is not the place to talk about this.That would be my bad, let me see if a mod can move the thread
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Being single offers a ton more freedom. However, as much as I enjoy my "me" time as much as anyone, I eventually crave that human companionship. It's kind of a weird thing. If I'm seeing my girlfriend a whole lot, I get somewhat bored. But after I drop her off and do my own thing for awhile, I miss her and want her back.
However, you may just be perfectly happy being single. I just know I can't be perfectly happy, even though I'm free to do whatever I want.
However, you may just be perfectly happy being single. I just know I can't be perfectly happy, even though I'm free to do whatever I want.
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You will like being single in the beginning because of the freedom and stuff. But eventually, as time goes by you will be longing for someone to lean on when you are sad and the likes. What I meant is you can really never tell you are already happy at your state cause love attacks in the most unexpected time.
Thought I have a teacher that is still single. She is 70 years old, She won't be able to find a partner even she wants to by that time I think.
And for the people that enjoys being single, Being alone means you get to be lonely. Be free to do what you want.
Thought I have a teacher that is still single. She is 70 years old, She won't be able to find a partner even she wants to by that time I think.
And for the people that enjoys being single, Being alone means you get to be lonely. Be free to do what you want.
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Nashrakh
Little White Butterflies Staff
tswarthog wrote...
Hell I go visit some relatives and when they are all talking about grandkids and such I explain I am 99% sure I am not going into a relationship they all just go "stop joking, you will find someone" like I am unlucky to be single and not care.
Unfortunately, some people avoid being single like the plague, which means hopping from one "relationship" to another and not ending bad relationships when it's long overdue.
I can't understand it myself, it's not like being single is the end of the world.
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I'm pretty happy.
The way I see it, I've got too much baggage in my own life to take care of without having to share my life and responsibilities (and their share) with someone else. Once I'm satisfied with having my own life in order I'm not convinced I'd still actively look to be in a relationship. It isn't as though I really want to be in a long-term relationship. I'm not looking forward to getting married, or heaven forbid having kids (I hate the little brats.)
The way I see it, I've got too much baggage in my own life to take care of without having to share my life and responsibilities (and their share) with someone else. Once I'm satisfied with having my own life in order I'm not convinced I'd still actively look to be in a relationship. It isn't as though I really want to be in a long-term relationship. I'm not looking forward to getting married, or heaven forbid having kids (I hate the little brats.)
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As a 26 yr. old otaku, I speak from experience when I say that I am VERY unhappy about being single. It didn't used to bother me, but eventually it started to feel like I was missing something. Whilst I do have the 2d complex (like most here) that doesn't mean I don't like actual females, they just don't like me or something like that.
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I think before you can be happy in a relationship, you have to be happy being single. If you try to fill a void in your life with someone, then you are going to be a drain on the relationship. However, if two happy single people come together, their happiness multiplies x2.
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Nah brah, if you stay single you'll end up like Henry Rollins and be a small, angry man touring the world talking about how angry he is and how he hate a lot of things. (Even if he is one awesome, angry man)
But in all seriousness I do think that people can be happy being single, it all about the individual. Some people don't like being confined in a relationship, some people feel the need to be in one.
Personally I'd love to find a nice girl that would like me, but I'm perfectly fine staying single for the time being, no need to rush it.
But in all seriousness I do think that people can be happy being single, it all about the individual. Some people don't like being confined in a relationship, some people feel the need to be in one.
Personally I'd love to find a nice girl that would like me, but I'm perfectly fine staying single for the time being, no need to rush it.
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neko-chan wrote...
I think before you can be happy in a relationship, you have to be happy being single. If you try to fill a void in your life with someone, then you are going to be a drain on the relationship. However, if two happy single people come together, their happiness multiplies x2.That is so true.
I am yet to meet a guy who can handle me and my horrible personality, so any relationships I've had until now have made me feel quite miserable
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Nashrakh
Little White Butterflies Staff
neko-chan wrote...
I think before you can be happy in a relationship, you have to be happy being single. If you try to fill a void in your life with someone, then you are going to be a drain on the relationship. However, if two happy single people come together, their happiness multiplies x2.That creates a nice paradox for all people who are unhappy because they never had the experience of having a significant other in the first place (low self-esteem, fear of getting rejected, blaming yourself for it).
That would invariably create a vicious cycle for those guys, I think.
You see what I'm getting at. Not getting any -> putting a damper on your self-esteem -> not getting any in consequence -> evolving a fear of getting rejected -> etc.
For your average Joe, your statement might be true though.
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If you have low self-esteem, fear of rejection, ect., then you are not going to find a long term relationship with someone anyways. That could lead to even lower self esteem when all your relationships fall apart.
The problem that should be addressed is why do you feel you need to have dated someone in order to respect yourself and believe that you are fully capable of finding someone whenever you so desire to do so? So for whoever feels low self esteem because of their lack of dating experience or sexual encounters, they need to realize it doesn't matter. First, put together a nice package where you are comfortable with your life and who you are as a person. Then you can comfortably date whoever you want without fear of rejection ------ BECAUSE------ you wont care if you are rejected or a relationship doesn't work out since your were completely find BEFORE you ever started the relationship.
The problem that should be addressed is why do you feel you need to have dated someone in order to respect yourself and believe that you are fully capable of finding someone whenever you so desire to do so? So for whoever feels low self esteem because of their lack of dating experience or sexual encounters, they need to realize it doesn't matter. First, put together a nice package where you are comfortable with your life and who you are as a person. Then you can comfortably date whoever you want without fear of rejection ------ BECAUSE------ you wont care if you are rejected or a relationship doesn't work out since your were completely find BEFORE you ever started the relationship.
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Well after being in an 6-8 (dun remember the length sadly) month relationship, I can say that I miss being in that relationship as most of the time, she was treating me to stuff even though I offered to pay. (Only got away with paying a meal like twice during that whole relationship). From a guy's perspective that was quite a bomb experience since she was my sugar momma pretty much and from another girl's perspective I must have looked like a bum. Also, the sex every now and then was always good. Plus someone to hug and kiss whenever I felt like it was awesome as well. The part I miss the most was probably someone I could talk to about anything...
However, being single now I get to talk to other girls more freely than I could before, having a girlfriend and all. I get to share my relationship stories with other people whereas before I was in a relationship I was always the odd guy out that had never had sex or been in a relationship. I can check other girls out without feeling guilty.
But I spend more time on the internet nowadays and I've started working out again. There are upsides and downsides to being single. I'm enjoying the upsides right now, the downsides were gone awhile ago when we broke up.
However, being single now I get to talk to other girls more freely than I could before, having a girlfriend and all. I get to share my relationship stories with other people whereas before I was in a relationship I was always the odd guy out that had never had sex or been in a relationship. I can check other girls out without feeling guilty.
But I spend more time on the internet nowadays and I've started working out again. There are upsides and downsides to being single. I'm enjoying the upsides right now, the downsides were gone awhile ago when we broke up.
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Nashrakh
Little White Butterflies Staff
neko-chan wrote...
The problem that should be addressed is why do you feel you need to have dated someone in order to respect yourself and believe that you are fully capable of finding someone whenever you so desire to do so? So for whoever feels low self esteem because of their lack of dating experience or sexual encounters, they need to realize it doesn't matter.
Sounds nice in theory, but reality doesn't work that way (ºдಠ)
The fact that people that don't get any are seen as losers doesn't really help.
And having the feeling of not getting loved can seriously break someone... I think that's the very problem itself, not so much the sexual relationships most guys are pressured into because virginity is seen like something that you need to get rid of as soon as possible.