Being Over Emotional or No?

Soo, in general I'm sorry to even post such a thing here but I kinda felt I need some type of advice from some others as personally I am unstable emotionally right now. So basically, I've been dating somebody for nearly 6 months. So that meant I had to be online constantly. All this time despite me not really having a connection to use and such I managed to get on with some 1 - 2 bar connection to talk to her and such. She sent me a letter one time and I told her I would send her one back when possible. Which is hard around my area of the city since literally there are no mail boxes or post offices really nearby. At least, not any that I've seen or know about. So regarding all this, she says okay and such. And, then despite me not being able to send anything properly I would send her a message or so on facebook. = A= so when I asked her can we take a break until she's in NY which would have been this summer..so I can try to focus on my work so I can actually be done by time she's here so she'll have me to herself. So, I find out in less then two weeks she already replaced me with some other guy and like that actually hurt me quite a bit since that's what all my exs in the past has done after breaking up with or after cheating on me. So I told her how I felt just to get this kind of message back.


"Gods..I..I don't know what to say. If I would have known that this would have hurted you so badly then..I wouldn't have done anything..even though we really weren't in a real relationship. Yes, it broke my heart to know that we were over but..to be honest..I really felt that our relationship was one sided. You may have been hurt..but so was I.

In my eyes..you did nothing to contribute to the relationship. You never even wrote back to me. I sent you a letter in mid February..and never got anything back..and I always had to start the conversations..

This may seem a bit cold but..I have kept this to myself for far too long..and you need to know that it bothers me.

If you cared so much about us being together then you would have at least made an effort to do /something/. Hell, I didn't care if you just wrote a nonsense letter back. It would have been something to validates that you cared. But I honestly am tired of someone else making me feel guilty when I am just trying to get my feelings out and things clear.

If you wanted to be with that girl in ooc, then by all means, go ahead. I'm sure there is a way to make her see the light.

As for my boyfriend I have now. Yes, I may hardly ever see him..but at least he talks to me every day and lets me know what is going on instead of leaving me in the dark. And if I remember correctly, you were the one who called off the relationship..not me.

I'm sorry but..it just had to be said..take it as you will.."

So that like hurt me pretty mad and messed with my emotions stability yesterday. Don't know if I was over reacting or what..but I don't know that's why I'm asking.

Also, my apologizes if this type of post is against any rules. DX And if this kind of thing doesn't belong in this section.

Your not being overly emotional, actually your about the right mark. I guess from this post your relationship was mostly online and not psychical? It's true that if this was a online thing it wasn't going to last, but she could of told you her feelings before going to a other guy. Time heals all wounds.. or just deepen them. Only thing i can say is just give it time and some you time then you realize that she wasn't the one for you. It's cinch for me to say ' their plenty of fish in the sea' ,but just go to places and if you see a nice girl talk to her, hang out with your friends and went you see a catch, go for it.

Thank you. I'm glad I was being over dramatic or anything like that. There is actually a girl I'm becoming interested in because of our extreme common interest but..she's currently 15 going to be 16 while I'm 19 going to be 20..Because of our age..I don't know if one I should and risk her getting in trouble, or two if she would even want to.

Best to let that rest. You're just asking for jail time there.

Yeah, I pretty much figured as much which is why I guess I have my own worries. Now if she hits 18 or 20 later in life and it's still the same way between us or whatever. Then, I'll most likely consider and go for her.

I think it would be best to take it a bit slowly after that what just happened. Take your time and see if she might have feelings for you. As for the age difference, 4 years are actually not that much and once you're in your tweenties it's basically next to nothing.

That's probably the best. I think there's no need to rush, especially after that what just happened to you.

The gap doesn't bother me at all. Four years is right at my limit..It's just I'll be an adult and she'll be a teen. Parents, Law. That kind of crap might come at me..and not even because of her I know that much..But yeah. My emotions are screwed up and so far she's been there for me so I know eventually I may like her a bit too much..I wish the girls in my city and this campus were as mature as her. Would make stuff easier for me in the future when I'm actually dating again..or at least trying to. And, oh wow she just texted me..unlike most people who tell me they would talk to me and such she actually does. I can't help but always be thankful for that. Also another reason why I like it here on Fakku. Always can find somebody to talk to and get help from. = w=

Haaa at times laws are so stupid...>_<. Hmmm but isn't it so that it's legal when the girl is 16 and agrees to the relationship? But then again there are also her parents...haaa so annoying...

Eeeeh so she just texted you? Daaaawn~ that's so moe :3 Lolis are the best :p. Ahem well in any case she seems to be a nice girl, you should keep her warm ;).

It's annoying that you have to wait a bit, but in that time you two can get to know each other more, and who knows maybe there might be some possibility that it already works out sooner. In any case take it easy for now I think after the bs which you had with your ex it's probably better to stay single for a while and fap off to some cartoon smex :p.

Well, I'm told I'm such a nice guy that parents will like me like instantly..so maybe if I can get on their good side maybe we can have some minor relationship I dunno. Cause yeah, sixteen is when my mother started to not care about what I do and such so long as it wasn't anything stupid like staying on the streets and doing drugs which I find disgusting so mission accomplished there. = w=..but so far we seem to get along more well then I thought since she calls me awesome...and now I see you have an interest in Lolis as well. << Although, mines is towards the H if anything. First time I ever had to deal with such an age thing..like this. Fml for being quite old now. xD.

Hmmm but I think it's a bit different for girls, I think parents are more protective towards them than to boys.

In any case when dealing with her parents it's important to show that you have sincere feelings for her and not any ulterior motives...you know what I mean :p.

In the end it highly depends on how well your pseudo loli girl (:p) gets along with her parents, if she gets along with them in a good way and her parents trust in her judgment and you leave a good impact to them then it could work out.

And yeah I have a thing for lolis :3, they're my favorites in animes and the like<3 , in the 3d world I'm not into lolis but I have a thing for short asian dfc girls :p.

Ps: Fufufufufu now you only have to bring her to call you onii-chan and I start to droll here XDD.

This sort of thing happens fairly often from what I've seen. A lot of internet relationships can end up being rather flimsy.

This is true. She was going to be back in my state and around my city around summer at earliest that was for sure. Just pisses me off and hurts that she would say all of that when I did actually put effort when I should have been focused only on my work. Even when busy I would take the time to talk to her. And, then it's like wow to shove in the face what my replacement does..It's like "Wow, so you really are just trying to say I am just a piece of shit person huh?"



I'm the same way with lolis anime and gaming wise and such. But, once it comes to outside of anime and such..I can not say I've seen one girl that isn't a teen that EVER got even a tiny bit of interest or compliment out of me. I'm more disgusted or anything when I see them do the dances half the older females in my city do..even my niece started doing that crap and nearly made me throw up. e___e and the sad part is..the throwing up part is a true story. ._.;...and watch me somehow do that for you..even if it's just once! I'll have her or somebody say that just to see your reaction and that promised drooling!.

Hahahah yeah in animes and games (especially hgames :p) lolis are the best :3...but in real life they are just meh <_<.

Oh do that do that :3...I think my initial reaction to that would be something like that



Honestly one of my biggest dreams is to get together with a short cute dfc asian girl who calls me onii-chan... haaaa~ :3333

In any case I wish you the best of luck with that girl ;), keep us updated how it goes :).

Thank you and I'll be sure to keep you updated if anything happens in general. Hopefully, it'll all be good updates at the very least~ And, that dream of yours..I can't blame you for having it. It's quite a good one. :3

Desho desho :3

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GAziBVp0l-Q

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yEYyrhNftzU

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=24SLeMYs6Rs

Your dream can make nearly any man happy after seeing such examples..

I found it funny she thought "taking a break to finish work" translated into "I want to break up with you".

Oh, i found this as someones status on a social networking site, this should put a smile on your dial! =)

"Don't leave someone good to see if you can find better. Because once you realize you had the best.. the best found better."

Long story short, you'll find better.

And, that it did. I couldn't help but smile and laugh a bit because some Karma happened as well for her I guess. Don't know the details but her and the one she used to replace me broke up already. She talked so highly about him just to do that. I shouldn't be too surprised..Karma stalks me constantly. Which is why I make sure I do nice things naturally most of the time. Cause, every time I do something bad..ehh..it bites me in the ass. xD

Fufufufu yeah a girl could win my heart almost instantly with calling me onii-chan...thats sooo daaaawwwwn~ :3





Serves her right in my opinion. It's always good to see when people who bullshit others fall on the ground.

I know right. = A= Oh well, update with me and my current interest. We're quite close at least to the point we talk whenever possible. Mostly Voice Chat on msn and on the cell phone when she's laying in bed to sleep. And now while I have to leave back to campus she's all sad and such even though I'll most likely be back on It's so nice to see she's grown such a bond with me. But, after she gets some time to think with some drama some other guy brought to her and such. We may end up in a somewhat relationship. I only say somewhat because it's going to be one that grows over time but a relationship none the less.

Edit/Another Update: Now we're actually in a relationship. Not Intimate as it's going to be a slow one that builds up over time and etc. But, it's still one. I'm sure if anything this one will go right and I will have pretty much the one I'll make a future with and such since I can actually see one without any worries. Good things come to those who wait as they always say.