Bittersweet Endings
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This is to people who see manga and doujins where the lead female has an unsavory past but truly falls in love with the lead male and he reciprocates the feelings to which you respond with things like "She probably has STDs" or "Ew nasty, I wouldn't touch or talk to her ever again." Here is my propositional question. What if someone you TRULY were in love with turned out to be like that in the past? Would you really be able to easily throw away feelings that are genuine? Now I'm not saying what those characters were doing was right. But still if you have genuine feelings then odds are you wouldn't be able to resist despite your claims. Plus, how would you feel if they despite their actions held genuine feelings for you too? Would you be able to push them away as though they never meant anything to you? Just wanted to give food for the thought.
(PS: I have yet to read a hentai where someone has STDs so this may also involve some H-Logic in addition to IRL-Logic)
(PS: I have yet to read a hentai where someone has STDs so this may also involve some H-Logic in addition to IRL-Logic)
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Gravity cat
the adequately amused
The past is in the past and they may not have been right of mind when they were doing it. If they aren't like it now and learned from their past experiences (or depending on how bad said experiences were repressed them) and became a better person from it, then what's the problem?
I don't know how to respond to the STDs thing.
I don't know how to respond to the STDs thing.
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Sgt.broski
Where's the futa Jacob
Like Cat said, it depends on the level of betrayal or damage the relationship undertook.
Now I feel like if you´re the victim to your partners betrayal than you should find some else who you know will truly care for you. People are people and sadly most of them are legit assholes but those people give you a life lessons that will be needed throughout your life.
Now I feel like if you´re the victim to your partners betrayal than you should find some else who you know will truly care for you. People are people and sadly most of them are legit assholes but those people give you a life lessons that will be needed throughout your life.
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In my opinion all that matters is what they choose to do after having known and loved you. You weren't a part of their life when they did w/e so it wasn't any type of direct betrayal. It's highly unlikely you will ever date/marry someone with no baggage. (unless you do marry in high school, in which case, you help to create the baggage. Yay!) Now certain things may be harder to stomach than others (honey one time I had a threesome vs honey I used to be a prostitute/porn star and got gangbanged for 12 hours straight on multiple occasions) Again, all of this was done before they had love in their life(yeah you really are that special if they do love you... deal with it) so it can't really be something to leave them for. That's not to say it is okay, but everyone fucks up. EVERYONE. I guess it's a maturity thing, because it seems positively childish to throw away something as absolutely rare as a real, human connection over someones past. Now if it continued into a time span in which we were together that is a whole other matter. My trust is fairly hard to earn, and damn near impossible to earn back. It would still be situational, but very few scenarios would end in anything better than heartbreak for me.
Forgive the gratuitous use of parenthesis.
Forgive the gratuitous use of parenthesis.
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In my own experience, I have an EX, who wants to work things out. They (singular person) ran out and cheated on me with another person, in a fit of rage, and continued the relationship with them for months. I tried to work things out but they wouldn't listen. Current time, they want to work things out now but I can't find it in myself to trust them. While I do feel I can be happy with them and still retain feelings for, I can't find any desire to try with them again.So I think this is kind of my answer.
I think I can trust someone with a bitter/bad past, but if betrayed, my feelings for them better out weigh my distrust tremendously, otherwise I will fall into my current state. I don't trust easily but once I do, I will trust them with my life. If this hypothetical person has gotten my trust and affection, then I will try.
I like to believe all people are capable of change, being willing to is a different matter though.
-Also I think you should clarify what type of "unsavory past", since I can compare my experience with being cheated on to the manga "Bitter Virgin", in which (if I remember correctly) is about a victim of rape. Is it self inflicted versus forced upon them? I find the 2 quite different in scope.
I think I can trust someone with a bitter/bad past, but if betrayed, my feelings for them better out weigh my distrust tremendously, otherwise I will fall into my current state. I don't trust easily but once I do, I will trust them with my life. If this hypothetical person has gotten my trust and affection, then I will try.
I like to believe all people are capable of change, being willing to is a different matter though.
-Also I think you should clarify what type of "unsavory past", since I can compare my experience with being cheated on to the manga "Bitter Virgin", in which (if I remember correctly) is about a victim of rape. Is it self inflicted versus forced upon them? I find the 2 quite different in scope.