Choice part 2
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So this is the continuation of the topic of I posted hours ago. I will make it clearer. Which one should I choose?
The first girl, who is my old classmate, is a foulmouth, socialize person. I like her because she is a beauty. I was charmed by her. I had a crush on her ever since that I was a kid. And after 4 years, I courted her. We became mutual but we had a fight. After 4 months, we became friends again but I already have a gf. But one day, she said that "if you broke up with your gf, I will become your girlfriend." Then shit happened. I was confused and don't know what to choose. I have decided to cut their feelings towards me to avoid further agony. I was left out. That day, I became an otaku. She lives far away now.
The second girl, who is a fellow admin at an fb page, is a hardcore otaku, kind person. We became friends. Because of her kindness, I started to have feelings for her. I confessed to her but she turn me down because she isn't prepared for relationships. But I never gave up. I still like her even now. And I think she will develop feelings for me, and she did, but I'm not sure. Anyway, she also reads doujinshi like me. She also lives far away.
I will meet either of them after I graduate.
The first girl, who is my old classmate, is a foulmouth, socialize person. I like her because she is a beauty. I was charmed by her. I had a crush on her ever since that I was a kid. And after 4 years, I courted her. We became mutual but we had a fight. After 4 months, we became friends again but I already have a gf. But one day, she said that "if you broke up with your gf, I will become your girlfriend." Then shit happened. I was confused and don't know what to choose. I have decided to cut their feelings towards me to avoid further agony. I was left out. That day, I became an otaku. She lives far away now.
The second girl, who is a fellow admin at an fb page, is a hardcore otaku, kind person. We became friends. Because of her kindness, I started to have feelings for her. I confessed to her but she turn me down because she isn't prepared for relationships. But I never gave up. I still like her even now. And I think she will develop feelings for me, and she did, but I'm not sure. Anyway, she also reads doujinshi like me. She also lives far away.
I will meet either of them after I graduate.
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I had but one extremely brief look at the other post and my first response is: my skepty sense is tingly...
I don't believe in building a long distance relationship. That is not to say I think they can't be endured, I just think they can't be built. Now, having said that, I have to say bluntly that I don't think you have a choice.
Again, the story seems hazy to be but you seem to make two assumptions that I wouldn't make. First, that up until your graduation (which will be when? June?) both of them will be available or interested in you. And second, that by graduating and, I have to assume as well, going to college, you will be close to both of them. Well, things change. They might not care about you anymore, they might not go to the same college as you and even if they do, there is a strong chance they will meet someone else there.
Maybe I'm being, well, the way I think people here expect me to be but I think you are delusional. It's as if you are saying you are going on a trip to Italy and are us if you should have red or white in a restaurant that may not even exist.
I don't believe in building a long distance relationship. That is not to say I think they can't be endured, I just think they can't be built. Now, having said that, I have to say bluntly that I don't think you have a choice.
Again, the story seems hazy to be but you seem to make two assumptions that I wouldn't make. First, that up until your graduation (which will be when? June?) both of them will be available or interested in you. And second, that by graduating and, I have to assume as well, going to college, you will be close to both of them. Well, things change. They might not care about you anymore, they might not go to the same college as you and even if they do, there is a strong chance they will meet someone else there.
Maybe I'm being, well, the way I think people here expect me to be but I think you are delusional. It's as if you are saying you are going on a trip to Italy and are us if you should have red or white in a restaurant that may not even exist.
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Gravity cat
the adequately amused
- The first girl is a foul mouthed, former classmate who you got into a fight with for reasons unknown and as a result you stopped talking to her for 4 months, then made up somehow. Soon after, she told you that she'd go out with you if you broke up with your girlfriend (the key thing here is that she may or may not have meant it), which got you all "confused" and you became a shut-in. Sometime during your shut-inness, she moved away.
- The second girl you met online and is an admin on a Facebook page and said she isn't interested in a relationship when you asked her out.
- Neither girl is local, both would be a Long Distance Relationship.
- It's unclear whether or not you're still with your girlfriend that Girl 1 wanted you to break up with, but I'm assuming you're not because if you are that'd make you a horrible human being to go around behind her back like this.
My advice? Move on.
You've obviously had some history with the first girl and this crush on her has lasted a little while, but from what little you've told us seems to be a bit of an attention seeker and generally not a very nice person - not a girl you'd want to introduce to your parents. And the second girl is a hopeless case unless she explicitly expresses interest in you that isn't "just friends".
Even if either girl said yes to your proposal of "going out", there's the issue of keeping in regular contact and meeting often so it feels as if there's something positive to be had from the relationship. Unless you're intending to bridge that gap anytime soon (like moving in together), it's never going to work. Humans are a very social race and we need physical and emotional affection that you can't get on a computer screen.
I have decided to cut their feelings towards me to avoid further agony. I was left out. That day, I became an otaku.
If that's enough to make you a shut-in then that's a sign of your immaturity and you aren't ready for a relationship yet.
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Seems like your answers are true. I also thought that neither of them should I choose. But, I have decided to wait either of them. Here's the case.
The first girl might result to NTR because she's an attention seeker. This is the thing that I hate most.
The second girl might result to FOREVER FRIEND ZONED. Painful as NTR.
The first girl might result to NTR because she's an attention seeker. This is the thing that I hate most.
The second girl might result to FOREVER FRIEND ZONED. Painful as NTR.
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
No, no, no, no, and a million times, NO! I'm gonna set it you straight now: the friend zone does not exist. It's a fake place "nice guys" made up just to feel like they weren't completely rejected. Get over it, that happens in life and love. There are millions of others who are similar and probably have a greater chance of loving you back.
Second, I do not understand what is wrong with being someone's friend. You know, a friend who can be there for them, support them, console them, have fun with them, and pretty much do a LOT of things a boyfriend could as well, minus the romantic and sexual interaction. Now ask yourself this: is being a friend like that to a person you're willing to be emotionally attached to REALLY that bad a deal?
Second, I do not understand what is wrong with being someone's friend. You know, a friend who can be there for them, support them, console them, have fun with them, and pretty much do a LOT of things a boyfriend could as well, minus the romantic and sexual interaction. Now ask yourself this: is being a friend like that to a person you're willing to be emotionally attached to REALLY that bad a deal?
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animefreak_usa
Child of Samael
artcellrox wrote...
No, no, no, no, and a million times, NO! I'm gonna set it you straight now: the friend zone does not exist. It's a fake place "nice guys" made up just to feel like they weren't completely rejected. Get over it, that happens in life and love. There are millions of others who are similar and probably have a greater chance of loving you back.Second, I do not understand what is wrong with being someone's friend. You know, a friend who can be there for them, support them, console them, have fun with them, and pretty much do a LOT of things a boyfriend could as well, minus the romantic and sexual interaction. Now ask yourself this: is being a friend like that to a person you're willing to be emotionally attached to REALLY that bad a deal?
Sounds like you been rejected into the penalty box many times, son.
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I sure hope the negative vote I got was from SweetCakes because I honestly can't understand what I said wrong. C'mon, the guy is asking which girl he should choose when they are no way near him.
Let me follow along. Guys, which one do I choose? Scarlett Johansson or Olivia Wilde? Please, I'm so undecided :X
Let me follow along. Guys, which one do I choose? Scarlett Johansson or Olivia Wilde? Please, I'm so undecided :X
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nateriver10 wrote...
I sure hope the negative vote I got was from SweetCakes because I honestly can't understand what I said wrong. C'mon, the guy is asking which girl he should choose when they are no way near him.Don't know who put the negative vote,but i fixed it. And i agree, Op is being silly
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
nateriver10 wrote...
Guys, which one do I choose? Scarlett Johansson or Olivia Wilde? Please, I'm so undecided :XEmma Stone.
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Gravity cat
the adequately amused
artcellrox wrote...
nateriver10 wrote...
Guys, which one do I choose? Scarlett Johansson or Olivia Wilde? Please, I'm so undecided :XEmma Stone.
Seconded.
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animefreak_usa
Child of Samael
Gravity cat wrote...
artcellrox wrote...
nateriver10 wrote...
Guys, which one do I choose? Scarlett Johansson or Olivia Wilde? Please, I'm so undecided :XEmma Stone.
Seconded.
Rather have Mila Kun is but fire stone pussy is also neat.