Girlfriend ''Advice(?)''

Okay so let me start off by saying I don't need any girl advice or girlfriend advice, I would like some opinions and such though, and if you would like to give me some advice - sure I mean why not.
Anyway, so I'm now going out with me ex again, (Background history - we went out, I really liked her, we broke up, she ''claims'' to have not cared then and that's why we broke up - she does love me now though, don't know how I really feel) and this is after like 4 months of her trying to get me back she even delved into a "Slave/Friend's with benefits" scenario. She would do anything I wanted - as long as I was not with another girl. Anyway last Friday she just kept saying the nicest things and I can really feel something from it (inb4 LOL OP's a fag, inb4 can't inb4). So I said I would go out with her.
Yesterday we went around the park talking and kissing and making out, then we went back to her's and it went a-bit off-trail. I thought it was going to be something else, but really we play around with each other a-lot, so that and made out a-lot. But afterwards we just like ''cuddled(?)" and seh kept saying more sweet things. I even sort of fell-asleep in with her on her bed because yesterday was tiring, and she said she was huge happy (because I finally said I'd be with her again and I cared about her).
But anyway, I'm not a relationship type of guy, nor am I a 'cute' type that does that sort of thing everyday. Also I hate all this extra ''emotional'' shit that comes with a relationship - I'm more of a hook-up and I never have to see you again type of guy. Plus Im, possessive.
So nowadays she's starts openly talking to people I know about blowjobs and lollipops and all this bullshit and I'm already pissed off and now she's doing that (she used to be huge intoverted, really picky with who she speaks too, hated a-lot of people). After I first went out with her and made her a better fucking person to it, she's taking it to an extreme talking about this bullshit. I'm just confused what to do with her.
Extra info: She's blonde, really good looking, huge chest, very smart and academic, also likes a-lot of the same stuff I do... But I don't really give a fuck anymore, because we don't ''talk'' when we're together.
People that give me opinions and advice that applies to my situation would be a 'kool kid' in my 'book'.
Cheers

Edit: Lol I've made way too many spelling/grammar mistakes, hurr.

Either roll with the punches or go away. You can't have cake and fuck it too. If it makes you uncomfortable being in a relationship of more then sex and jizz filled fun then don't. You could ask her not to be so open with people but that about it. Deal or go.

No trust me, she spent 4 months trying to get me back. If anything, that's how I handle girls, string on the ones that like me until I fuck up or something, I'm not proud of it obviously. She's fully aware whenever I couldn't give a fuck about her using jealousy or such. The reason she's doing it is because she went from the extreme 'emo girl, doesn't care about anyone - if you message her with super nice stuff she'll say fuck off. And now after I went through shit to make her social, she's just flirting like a slut.

What I think.

She has grown very dependent on you because you became her support and she got much confidence thanks to the time you spent together before the breakup and she realized it shortly after. I don't know what makes her feel so dependent on you emotionally but you are her support in a deep way.

Of this relationship I see no future. You are not completely sure how you feel but her behavior is something that makes you very uncomfortable and her dependency on you might not be healthy in the long term. Things should not continue like this.

What I Suggest.

Take time to consider your relationship and if you want to continue you should have a talk with her about what you like and you don't like and if she wants to continue she needs to change and you should consider what she likes and what she feels uncomfotable with. If you reach understanding, then great (she might need more help from you though). If not, no matter how much she begs, you should end this relationship ASAP.

Dump her ass and draw thick, defined, and actively-enforced boundary lines.

You don't really want her like that and I can tell, and I can also tell that the girl is full of shit because when you really want to be with somebody, then you be with them. You don't say and do cutesy things and then snap off when it turns to realtime unless you're not really invested.

Hey you.
You guys need to understand it's not her fault she's being (in my book, 'promiscuous') she's genuinely oblivious to the fact that she is.
Am I just like a huge prick, or what. Everyone says 'I'm cold' but fuck everyone, jaja.

Bottom line it, please. You don't need to keep explaining the situation.. what needs to happen to the two of you? I don't think there's a lot there, or at least.. enough of something to keep going... do you disagree? Strongly?

If you don't feel anything for her and get annoyed by her little habits then I suggest breaking it off and keeping it FWB. How you break it off is up to you; just as long as you let her down gently and not be a prick about it. If she doesn't talk to you afterwards or acts like an immature cow then you're better off.

Either way if you keep stringing her on like this you aren't going to be anyone's favourite and if you break it off now you could potentially save more drama later on down the line (like a pregnancy scare).


Question; if you aren't a long-term relationship kind of guy, then why the fuck did you agree to getting back with her in the first place? What exactly did you expect from getting back with her?

Uhmm sex, blowjobs, handjobs, making out, sex, sex. Oh and she's determined to do anal, I don't even know what to say to that. And really, a friend of mine in college gave me some advice and literaly it was like ''If you have time to mess around and have fun, do it.. You'll have more important things to worry about later on''. Personally it's pretty sound right?



Well yes. She's been a-lot more, well it's just been better today and Monday and such. And she's ticking all of your quotients now. Your opinion in light of this?

So you're just using her for sex. Couldn't you have done that No Strings Attached (or emotions for that matter) just being Friends with Benefits? Sounds to me like she really likes you and you're just leading her on. That is pretty dickish.

Fair point. We tried that FWB thing actually. But anyway it's different now - I'm not leading her on. My thread was posted at a bad point, now it's different, but I know I'll probably need some opinions later on, if said scenario happens again.

You can't change your opinion of someone who annoys you in just one day... just saiyan.

So how exactly is it different now than it was yesterday? Are you telling me that things have changed or are you just trying to convince yourself of that for the sake of keeping the sexual relationship you've got going?

It really doesn't sound like a relationship to me. O_o It sounds like all she wants is sex, you're happy to oblige and now you're beginning to confuse the 'happy to oblige' part with 'happy to be with her'. I really did not get even the slightest hint of deep feelings from all that you've said so far... But a FWB thing sounds like something both of you would prefer right now, so go for it.. just DTR before someone gets confused.



What the dashing british feline said.

Just bein' honest.

my friend you are what i myself would in a way call a good thing to an extent since she defined it as a sexfriend kind of thing i thought i would the not emotionally attached thing would be implied either keep it going as it is or if you have/want some ground rules just tell her what you think cause i would say im not the best at figuring out subtle clues so just be open though be in mind you may screw it up big time and that funny cause you are screwing her hehe and or maybe you have heat things up whether it be different positions or kinds of play but keep it at a level you and her are cool with if i were you i would go to urbandictionary for some ideas though ill be real idk her but id think she would be big on a cincinatti steamroller ok nuff said

P.s- sorry if i stepped out of my bounds/if what i said offended you/or anybody