Help Regarding my Situation.
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I need help cause I'm bad in relationships especially girls, that's why I need you :D
A year ago, There is a girl, a daughter of a friend of my cousin at first they are teasing me because I help out when she is helping out. That's why they thought I'm have a crush on her (First I just want to know her) then my whole relatives are teasing me. At first I don't care but for every day I get more in love with her,
Now I am a "good" friends with her, I don't know why but she talks to me if I ask a question, I don't know if she is really like that or I annoyed her that much. Then I get her number from her cousin because she also wants me to be with her,
I text her she is beautiful but she is saying your lying and stuff.
days pass and I need to go to the city (she is in the Rural Area) then I decided to confess to her before leaving, unfortunately we did not see each other that day
I called her phone, and there I confess, I told her
" I Like you, mm that's it, Ok *name* bye"
After that I text her if she heard it and she said yeah.
Also she said when she goes here in the city I must treat her
Lastly before I sleep I text her "Lov u, gudnyt" and she replied back
ok gudnyt.
I practically don't know what the hell is happening, I expected she would not reply when I told her those things cause well she is a girl and I'm in love with her. I don't know if I have a chance or not. Need Help
A year ago, There is a girl, a daughter of a friend of my cousin at first they are teasing me because I help out when she is helping out. That's why they thought I'm have a crush on her (First I just want to know her) then my whole relatives are teasing me. At first I don't care but for every day I get more in love with her,
Now I am a "good" friends with her, I don't know why but she talks to me if I ask a question, I don't know if she is really like that or I annoyed her that much. Then I get her number from her cousin because she also wants me to be with her,
I text her she is beautiful but she is saying your lying and stuff.
days pass and I need to go to the city (she is in the Rural Area) then I decided to confess to her before leaving, unfortunately we did not see each other that day
I called her phone, and there I confess, I told her
" I Like you, mm that's it, Ok *name* bye"
After that I text her if she heard it and she said yeah.
Also she said when she goes here in the city I must treat her
Lastly before I sleep I text her "Lov u, gudnyt" and she replied back
ok gudnyt.
I practically don't know what the hell is happening, I expected she would not reply when I told her those things cause well she is a girl and I'm in love with her. I don't know if I have a chance or not. Need Help
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First of all don't get offended, I see your problem and I will give you a proper solution:
I don't know how old are you, regardless of that you MUST GROW SOME BALLS, please don't focus solely on her, there are plenty of fish in the water. Have more self-confidence (apparently from what I read you lack some), ladies love confidence, in other words they love men who are sure of themselves.
Please I'm not trying to troll you, I was like that and got rejected all the time, until I grew some balls (so to speak). Just tell her things as they are, without fear of rejection, either she will accept or not, just show her you are pretty interested in her, and you know what you want.
Most of the guys out there are happy to act as the "nice guy" and end up being "good friends", I'm not telling you to be a jerk or a rebel, be a nice guy, but show her you have limits, you are courteous because that's who you are, not just to please her, and let her know you are not interested in being only "good friends", and for god's sake that text message: "I like mmm that's all good night" was an epic fail my dear friend, you should just tell her "I want you to know something that's important" and meet with her and tell her just straight "Listen, I really like you, I believe we can have a great thing together, so whaddya say we give it a try?" (I'm not telling you to use exactly the same phrase, you know just tell her in a slow calm voice looking at her eyes, so she knows you like her, but you are not dying for her, and you can be as much of a challenge, as she is for you, that will keep things nice and easy).
I could give you some more pointers, but all in all, grow some confidence, I would suggest watching James Bond movies, you can see a man that's sure of himself (not arrogant or a jerk), look at how he walks how he talks, as some Gunny told me once: "Walk straight, head up high."
Edit: if you like games please look at how Ezio Auditore (Assassin's Creed II, brotherhood) behaves. Don't copy him just realize that not only in relationships, but in all aspects of life having confidence in oneself is one of the keys to success.
I don't know how old are you, regardless of that you MUST GROW SOME BALLS, please don't focus solely on her, there are plenty of fish in the water. Have more self-confidence (apparently from what I read you lack some), ladies love confidence, in other words they love men who are sure of themselves.
Please I'm not trying to troll you, I was like that and got rejected all the time, until I grew some balls (so to speak). Just tell her things as they are, without fear of rejection, either she will accept or not, just show her you are pretty interested in her, and you know what you want.
Most of the guys out there are happy to act as the "nice guy" and end up being "good friends", I'm not telling you to be a jerk or a rebel, be a nice guy, but show her you have limits, you are courteous because that's who you are, not just to please her, and let her know you are not interested in being only "good friends", and for god's sake that text message: "I like mmm that's all good night" was an epic fail my dear friend, you should just tell her "I want you to know something that's important" and meet with her and tell her just straight "Listen, I really like you, I believe we can have a great thing together, so whaddya say we give it a try?" (I'm not telling you to use exactly the same phrase, you know just tell her in a slow calm voice looking at her eyes, so she knows you like her, but you are not dying for her, and you can be as much of a challenge, as she is for you, that will keep things nice and easy).
I could give you some more pointers, but all in all, grow some confidence, I would suggest watching James Bond movies, you can see a man that's sure of himself (not arrogant or a jerk), look at how he walks how he talks, as some Gunny told me once: "Walk straight, head up high."
Edit: if you like games please look at how Ezio Auditore (Assassin's Creed II, brotherhood) behaves. Don't copy him just realize that not only in relationships, but in all aspects of life having confidence in oneself is one of the keys to success.
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I agree, you're being too wishy-washy. She's not someone that's close to you, in that you don't actually interact with her on a daily basis (ie: co-worker, classmates), so your chances of slowly getting to know her and sparking something more is about nil.
Since your degree of connection with her is so low, you might as well have just up and told her about how you feel honestly. If it works, great, and if it doesn't, oh well. If you do act all hesistant, all that will contribute to is her annoyance of you.
It honestly might be a bit late now to repair the damage, but if you really do have deep feelings for her and don't wish to just give up, then just do as Voodoo told you: tell her you need to talk with her briefly, and then just seriously explain to her how you feel. Make it short and to the point, and tell her you'll let her think about it, and then leave. Don't put her on the spot and don't make it all dramatic, give her the necessary info and let her decide. If you act mature and treat her as a mature woman, she'll seriously consider you.
Good luck mate.
Since your degree of connection with her is so low, you might as well have just up and told her about how you feel honestly. If it works, great, and if it doesn't, oh well. If you do act all hesistant, all that will contribute to is her annoyance of you.
It honestly might be a bit late now to repair the damage, but if you really do have deep feelings for her and don't wish to just give up, then just do as Voodoo told you: tell her you need to talk with her briefly, and then just seriously explain to her how you feel. Make it short and to the point, and tell her you'll let her think about it, and then leave. Don't put her on the spot and don't make it all dramatic, give her the necessary info and let her decide. If you act mature and treat her as a mature woman, she'll seriously consider you.
Good luck mate.
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Honestly I dont know what you're getting all worked up about... from what you wrote it seems not only like she has got no special interest in you, but none at all! I mean just by looking at the situation when you told her that you liked her and she did hear it and didnt really respond to it or the message where you say that you love her and she replies with a normal "goodnight", I dont think she sees you the way you see her. Like said before there are plenty of other women, be yourself, dont hold back or do something that isnt you just to get someones attention or affection, sooner or later you will fail, rather wait for a girl that likes you for what you are than go after someone who you have to be perfect for, its not worth it really.
