How to move on
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So recently i was trying to go out with a girl i know. Now after asking her out she was confusing me because she seems to be either trying to let me down easy or she could not decide if she wanted to or not. So i ask her what she really wants and she tells me she's been trying to get together with my best friend. Now they had some history and my friend felt he could not trust her or even love her the same way again. So as she's crying telling me how she just wants a answer from him. So all i can do is hold the crying girl I am in love with and tell her ill talk to my friend. The moment i do this i knew they would get back together. So they did. Now i am fine with this but i am afraid i cant look them in the eye. I mean as long as she's happy i can be ok in the end. And there both 2 of my best friends and i dont want to act weird around them.
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I'm a really bitter person so I only have bad advice to give but...
in your position I'd avoid them, I'm not sure if it'd be for a while or forever but I'd try to get away from them at least for a little. I hate my life :|
in your position I'd avoid them, I'm not sure if it'd be for a while or forever but I'd try to get away from them at least for a little. I hate my life :|
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I personally had a situation similar. Except it was only one of my best friends going out with someone i didn't know. I loved her but i couldn't stand it. I told her about my feelings and she felt the same way about a year before that but she doesn't feel that way anymore. I couldn't look at her anymore because it was just too awkward, so our friendship faded away. The best thing i can say is either keep it a secret and most likely resent your best friend for the rest of your life, or tell both of them how you feel. I spent 2 years of my life being best friends with someone i loved. Never had the courage to tell her how i felt and just watched her date about 5 guys. This all happened about 2 years ago. I can say i still like her but i really feel better about myself. Your situation is a bit complicated since its both of your best friends. My man rule is never date the ex of one of my good friends. It causes unneeded drama. I would personally keep it a secret and distance my relationship with both of them. You probably won't find an answer that won't hurt your friendships. Unless you find another girl that you can date to put those feelings towards.
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thanks i figured i stay away for a little bit. It does suck alot because i dont think i could not love her. I was in a dark place in my life. Then when i started to realize how i felt it gave me the strength to turn my life around. But all in all when they say love hurts i did not know it could physically hurt.
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hackyrhed wrote...
I personally had a situation similar. Except it was only one of my best friends going out with someone i didn't know. I loved her but i couldn't stand it. I told her about my feelings and she felt the same way about a year before that but she doesn't feel that way anymore. I couldn't look at her anymore because it was just too awkward, so our friendship faded away. The best thing i can say is either keep it a secret and most likely resent your best friend for the rest of your life, or tell both of them how you feel. I spent 2 years of my life being best friends with someone i loved. Never had the courage to tell her how i felt and just watched her date about 5 guys. This all happened about 2 years ago. I can say i still like her but i really feel better about myself. Your situation is a bit complicated since its both of your best friends. My man rule is never date the ex of one of my good friends. It causes unneeded drama. I would personally keep it a secret and distance my relationship with both of them. You probably won't find an answer that won't hurt your friendships. Unless you find another girl that you can date to put those feelings towards.
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I heard that the truth will set you free but first it will piss you off. You my friend are taking it quite well.
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Krimzonblade wrote...
well both of them knew how i felt but i have some self worth issues so i told my friend if he wants to go out with her to do it and not worry about me.well if both of them know how you feel. then try to hang out with them but not as much as you did before. find someone else you can hang out with so you arent overloaded by their relationship. im sure you are quite worthy. and you deserve someone who doesn't disregard your feelings. how long have you been best friends with both of them? and how long have they known each other?
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how long have you been best friends with both of them? and how long have they known each other?[/quote]
well iv been friends with them for 4 years know and they knew each other 4 about 6. They have both become more than friends the said best friend is like a brother to me. And well my feelings for her are already out there.
how long have you been best friends with both of them? and how long have they known each other?[/quote]
well iv been friends with them for 4 years know and they knew each other 4 about 6. They have both become more than friends the said best friend is like a brother to me. And well my feelings for her are already out there.
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Alright, Well not much that you can really do. Just try not to think about her. Get a hobby to take your mind off of it. It's gonna take time to move on. If they are close like you said, then you shouldn't distance them and yourself. Just try your best to put it out of your mind.
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well i can't understand your felling cause before my current GF i am in your bestfriend shoes. so what i can say is try finding a new love. as long as Love hasn't turn to True Love there is still chance to move on. if you fell that you can't see them together then i suggest you avoid them for some time, about one month or so.
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Let it be - Beatles.
Sometimes things are just meant to be like that.
If it's not meant to be, then it's not meant to be.
Sometimes things are just meant to be like that.
If it's not meant to be, then it's not meant to be.
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GoodDay wrote...
Let it be - Beatles.Sometimes things are just meant to be like that.
If it's not meant to be, then it's not meant to be.
^don't listen to this song too much. It'll make you feel worse.
Well, knowing you're such a nice guy, you'll get a better girl eventually. Keep this on your mind "Okay, now she's happy, I want her to be happy and that's it. Now, it's my time to get some happiness too. Time to move on and go get some girl to ease this feeling."
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Honestly, do what you thinks is best. Been in situations that i regret with honest truth. Had a friend the same, but i was an innocent punk back then. She was grown. We would hang out and kick it all the time. But when she started dating, you just feel empty inside. I kept my friendship with her because i told her how i felt. We dated for a short time, because there was no real attachment from her part.