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For those who do not know my story, please refer to link below.
https://www.fakku.net/viewtopic.php?t=41395
Another Intro
Today Was the day of Enrollment for students in our school. All of the students including me had to come and apply for the next school year. I liked the school a lot cause It wasn't that far away from our house compared to other schools and the fact that it was also cheaper. Students ( including me, obviously )stayed for hours in line, waiting for their turn to take an ID picture and pay their enrollment bill. Afterwards, I went home Tired and Sleepy but happy to know that I will be a Senior this school year.
Problem
I kept crossing paths with her. Some by accidental means, some I had no other choice. I know that I will constantly keep crossing paths with her this school year, hence I will be reminded of her every single day. The most probable reason is that most of my friends were classmates with most of her friends.I try pulling my friends away from her friends but they just keep coming back together again cause,well...they're classmates. Even with a new school year coming up, they're bond ( My friends and her friends ) are still too strong to pull apart, which I find sweet yet bitter.
Question
What should I do?
https://www.fakku.net/viewtopic.php?t=41395
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Another Intro
Today Was the day of Enrollment for students in our school. All of the students including me had to come and apply for the next school year. I liked the school a lot cause It wasn't that far away from our house compared to other schools and the fact that it was also cheaper. Students ( including me, obviously )stayed for hours in line, waiting for their turn to take an ID picture and pay their enrollment bill. Afterwards, I went home Tired and Sleepy but happy to know that I will be a Senior this school year.
Problem
I kept crossing paths with her. Some by accidental means, some I had no other choice. I know that I will constantly keep crossing paths with her this school year, hence I will be reminded of her every single day. The most probable reason is that most of my friends were classmates with most of her friends.I try pulling my friends away from her friends but they just keep coming back together again cause,well...they're classmates. Even with a new school year coming up, they're bond ( My friends and her friends ) are still too strong to pull apart, which I find sweet yet bitter.
Question
What should I do?
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Well what do you want to do?
You cannot help the fact the your friends have other friends too aside from you. Just learn to live with it.
When I was in high school it got awkward between me and this girl who had the same group of friends. There is nothing you can do about but man up and try to get past the awkwardness.
My best advice to you is to get some balls! Your a senior already so just enjoy your last year of high school. Just be friendly with the girl if you see her and enjoy the company of your friends. No point trying to pull your friends away from hers
You cannot help the fact the your friends have other friends too aside from you. Just learn to live with it.
When I was in high school it got awkward between me and this girl who had the same group of friends. There is nothing you can do about but man up and try to get past the awkwardness.
My best advice to you is to get some balls! Your a senior already so just enjoy your last year of high school. Just be friendly with the girl if you see her and enjoy the company of your friends. No point trying to pull your friends away from hers
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Don't be a fucking puss. Avoiding her should be easy, as you never really got together. I, on the other hand, got it fucked up. I ended a 2 year relationship some time ago and it was hard having to constantly cross paths with her everywhere, and even in the classroom (yeah, we were in the same class and everything).
I also shared most of my friends with her, and the situation got really awkward when all of us happened to be together.
Oh yes, did I also mention that she got a new boyfriend just a few months after the breakup? Imagine how much more awkward it was to face her in the halls. Still, I swallowed it and ignored. Ignoring made things so much easier.
So like I had said in the other thread, just ignore her. It should be fairly easy considering your case. So yeah, don't be a fool and man up.
I also shared most of my friends with her, and the situation got really awkward when all of us happened to be together.
Oh yes, did I also mention that she got a new boyfriend just a few months after the breakup? Imagine how much more awkward it was to face her in the halls. Still, I swallowed it and ignored. Ignoring made things so much easier.
So like I had said in the other thread, just ignore her. It should be fairly easy considering your case. So yeah, don't be a fool and man up.
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Wait, so just because you didn't want to really see her... You tried to pull your friends away from their friends? ARE YOU THAT SELFISH? My apologies if my words are too harsh, but seriously... dude... just... no...
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Hang out with your friends.
If she gets pissed because your friends hang out with her friends and therefore she thinks that your hanging out with her friends instead of your friends so you can be close to her, the ignore it, and if she starts giving you lip for it; tell her that you have a right to hang out with who you want.
safety and peace brother.
If she gets pissed because your friends hang out with her friends and therefore she thinks that your hanging out with her friends instead of your friends so you can be close to her, the ignore it, and if she starts giving you lip for it; tell her that you have a right to hang out with who you want.
safety and peace brother.
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Firstly, I'd advise against trying to pull your friends away from her friends again. In addition to reasons that GoodDay hinted on in his post, there's also the possibility that you'll turn this into a "Either you're their friends or mine" affair, which could backfire on you.
The best thing to do is take Kuroneko's advice and ignore her. Keep hanging out with your friends. Even if that means hanging out with her too, just ignore her as much as humanly possible. If you have to talk to her, try to say the bare minimum necessary to keep the conversation going. If being around her starts to be too much, politely excuse yourself and just wander off. Being alone for a bit isn't going to kill you.
You shouldn't have to worry about her getting annoyed so long as you completely ignore her but if she makes a big deal of it, it's pretty much what Luke said. Asking you not to bother her is reasonable enough but she can't honestly expect you to give up hanging out with your friends.
The best thing to do is take Kuroneko's advice and ignore her. Keep hanging out with your friends. Even if that means hanging out with her too, just ignore her as much as humanly possible. If you have to talk to her, try to say the bare minimum necessary to keep the conversation going. If being around her starts to be too much, politely excuse yourself and just wander off. Being alone for a bit isn't going to kill you.
You shouldn't have to worry about her getting annoyed so long as you completely ignore her but if she makes a big deal of it, it's pretty much what Luke said. Asking you not to bother her is reasonable enough but she can't honestly expect you to give up hanging out with your friends.
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Not to sound like a broken record by repeating, but seriously do not try to pull your friends away; you don't want to risk losing your friends on top of a romantic interest.
Other than ignoring, the best thing to do would be to invest your time and feelings into something productive to take your mind off everything. Go for a run, read a book, study, draw or play some games. Give yourself some "you" time to get yourself back together.
Other than ignoring, the best thing to do would be to invest your time and feelings into something productive to take your mind off everything. Go for a run, read a book, study, draw or play some games. Give yourself some "you" time to get yourself back together.
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You don't need your friends to avoid her friends so that you can avoid her because really you don't need to avoid her. Just treat her presence as if she were just another random person there. As for dealing directly with her if she talks to you (or if someone forces both of you to interact in some way) just treat her as if she's simply someone you know but have no positive or negative feelings for. Eventually you won't just be pretending to feel that way but really will. If you try to avoid her it just means in some way you'll stay focused on her and your problems involving her and most likely you won't really be able to avoid her anyway and the fact that you'd try to would probably cause problems.
Of course if she feels your presence is annoying she will try to pull her friends away from your friends and it's much better for you if she's the one doing that than you. In almost every game of social tug of war I've seen the person holding their ground fared better while the person actively pulling suffered either loss of friends or massive loss of respect.
Keep in mind, that while being around her shouldn't be a problem, don't go out of your way to be in her presence either. If she objects to your presence (or one of her friends does) just shrug and take some of your friends with you somewhere else to do something else.
Of course if she feels your presence is annoying she will try to pull her friends away from your friends and it's much better for you if she's the one doing that than you. In almost every game of social tug of war I've seen the person holding their ground fared better while the person actively pulling suffered either loss of friends or massive loss of respect.
Keep in mind, that while being around her shouldn't be a problem, don't go out of your way to be in her presence either. If she objects to your presence (or one of her friends does) just shrug and take some of your friends with you somewhere else to do something else.
