In need of some MORE advice
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Well guys, Im sure some of you saw my last post if not its really not that important at this point (Asked my best friend out after asking the community what they thought about it)
and it didnt really work out. After a few days being a little bitch, Im moving on.
So I met this kinda cute really nerdy girl via a friends party. Not much really happened, but we're pretty friendly now. We talk a lot via Facebook, and it'll usually just be random stuff and jokes and shit. The thing is, There'll be days where we talk alot via the internet and then there'll be days when she completely disregards any messages I send, so im basically getting mixed signals.
Should I just straight forward Say Im interested, or does it seem like she doesnt give a shit because im really confused.
Thanks in advance---If you replied to my last thread than Another thanks on top of that.
and it didnt really work out. After a few days being a little bitch, Im moving on.
So I met this kinda cute really nerdy girl via a friends party. Not much really happened, but we're pretty friendly now. We talk a lot via Facebook, and it'll usually just be random stuff and jokes and shit. The thing is, There'll be days where we talk alot via the internet and then there'll be days when she completely disregards any messages I send, so im basically getting mixed signals.
Should I just straight forward Say Im interested, or does it seem like she doesnt give a shit because im really confused.
Thanks in advance---If you replied to my last thread than Another thanks on top of that.
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Arinaz wrote...
sounds to me like she's afraid to get serious with you but that's just me and not enough info.If theres anything else specifically that would help I'll give more---Not sure what else to say.
Either way, thanks for the feedback.
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
Talk to her more in person. Unless absolutely avoidable, don't try bring up the "interested in her" so early. You guys just met. See how it works out, and after a little while, you should be able to make a better decision.
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Stop confessing, this 'method' will backfire on you time and time again until you get discouraged or bitter. The entire mindset around 'confessing' is weak and ineffective. The more attractive a girl is, the lower chances that a confession will work.
In fact, confessions are creepy. The process and psychology of it matches that of a premeditated strike. If you want things to actually work out, it's time to learn a new trick.
In fact, confessions are creepy. The process and psychology of it matches that of a premeditated strike. If you want things to actually work out, it's time to learn a new trick.
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Everyone's basically right so far. Confessing is a pretty juvenile way of going about things, meaning high school and lower. When an adult is interested in someone, they'll just ask the person out on a date. Girls are not dumb. (for the most part) They'll KNOW when you ask them out on a date, because it'll be painfully obvious. It should be something like, "Wanna get some coffee?" "Hey do you want to go see a movie together?" or "Let's go see the Muse concert. I heard they're in town next week..." etc.
If she's interested, then she'll say yes. If she's interested and busy, she'll try to find time another day or week. If she's not interested at all, then she'll leave an ambiguous busy, like "Sorry, I'm busy next week." If someone's not interested in you, take a hint, and don't keep bothering her until she rejects you up front. Truthfully, (and this may be harsh) someone who cares about you WILL MAKE TIME FOR YOU. If they repeatedly find reasons not to spend time with you, then that's a red flag. Think of it from your perspective. If you want to hang out with friends or something, you'll move around study sessions, dates with other friends, time with family... etc right? Because you care most about that outing, you MAKE TIME FOR IT. So uhh... yeah, sorry but I digress.
So yeah, Step 1: casually ask her to chill with you in no-pressure date to get to know each other better, e.g. lunch, movie, study session/tutoring, or any other common interests. good luck!
If she's interested, then she'll say yes. If she's interested and busy, she'll try to find time another day or week. If she's not interested at all, then she'll leave an ambiguous busy, like "Sorry, I'm busy next week." If someone's not interested in you, take a hint, and don't keep bothering her until she rejects you up front. Truthfully, (and this may be harsh) someone who cares about you WILL MAKE TIME FOR YOU. If they repeatedly find reasons not to spend time with you, then that's a red flag. Think of it from your perspective. If you want to hang out with friends or something, you'll move around study sessions, dates with other friends, time with family... etc right? Because you care most about that outing, you MAKE TIME FOR IT. So uhh... yeah, sorry but I digress.
So yeah, Step 1: casually ask her to chill with you in no-pressure date to get to know each other better, e.g. lunch, movie, study session/tutoring, or any other common interests. good luck!
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Most likely if you spend so much time talking together, then she might be interested. Remember that it is possible that she only regards you as a friend.
If you only met her recently, then don't be afraid to take your time. This will allow you to know each other better.
It's possible that she's simply busy at some times. You can't expect her to spend all day on Facebook waiting for you. Don't worry to much about it, you might put a stress on your relation. So far, it seems to be going well.
If you only met her recently, then don't be afraid to take your time. This will allow you to know each other better.
It's possible that she's simply busy at some times. You can't expect her to spend all day on Facebook waiting for you. Don't worry to much about it, you might put a stress on your relation. So far, it seems to be going well.