my girlfriend and I are on a break

I have not posted anything in awhile because for the longest time I have been very happy with my relationship and have not needed hentai at all, but any advice on this situation would be great.

Little back story:

We started going out almost 2 years ago and we were living together and everything was fantastic. After complications at our colleges we decided to move back to our parents and reapply to different schools. Still we saw and hung out with each other pretty much everyday. anyways she started working for her dad, I got a job drawing a comic for kids about washing hands but when that was done I went back to work. Later I left that job and went back to school while she kept working. for the past year I noticed her slowly getting more and more stressed out and our goals slowly changed from each other. She wanted me to get a job and go to school part time so we could live together. My goal was to graduate as soon as possible (in 3 quarters i would be finished) so I can get a better paying job and in the meantime still live with my mom. This is where I believe all the tension started.

First off my parents are very laidback and give me a ton of freedom to do whatever as long as I am working towards something. Her parents are more strict and wants her to have a very laid out plan. This goes against what I am used to. she and her parents constantly have been asking me what I am going to do for a living. Frankly I really don't know or want to think about it. I'm still 21 I feel like I have more than enough time to figure that out. all I know is I don't want to live in a suburb anytime soon like she does.

It makes me shocked how much she has changed in a short time. I don't even think it really is her but really because her parents influence her to be that way because she has been living at home. She is always stressed out and never wants to play video games with me or watch anime with me. Before she used to attempt to do both but now she has always been now too tired. She no longer wants to go to the movies or anything because she is worried I don't have any money because I have no job right now. She hates how my mom helps me plan out my college schedule and helps me get papers filled in and sent on time because it means i'm not responsible.

She really feels like we no longer have anything in common, she likes country I like techno, She hates exercising while I exercise religiously. But i've always considered those small differences, what really matters is that we love each other and enjoy each others company more than anything.

What it really comes down to is she wants me to change into somebody that is a self sustained adult when I'm frankly not ready for that. And I don't think she should be so worried about all this stuff like getting a great job and a house at such a young age. She feels like am being more or less like a child and I feel like she is constantly trying to change me.

We both met up and decided to take 2 weeks apart from each other to see how we feel and can sort out our lives. no contact or anything. We both started crying as we said goodbye.

Finally I hope we stay together because I know we both love each other a lot. I just want to know what other people think about this situation give me a different perspective.

(sorry just realized how much I ranted)

I don't know much about the american school system, but I think you do not need to know what to do for the rest of your life when you are just 21. Seriously, your girlfriend doesn't need to panic that much. Though it's not uncommon to fear that your life will be wasted on a job you don't like in a place where you don't want to live. BUT the most important thing is to finish school first. You should aim for good grades to enhance your opportunities and while learning for school keep collecting everything that interests you and look for possibilities. Anf I think it's not bad to let your parents help you, because when your mom knows what's going, she will give you good advice.
You guys also should not make haste in your relationship. When you are about to finish school and propably move to a different place, you should not force to stick together when your goals move you into different locations. By the way you described your girlfriend's behaviour you should first make sure that you still love each other. Have you talked about your probleTms? If not, do so! She needs to clearly tell you what she worries about and give you the chance to justify yourself and the other way round.

And, if you love her so much and fear so much to loose her, be sure to tell her that.
The realizatio n of a possible break-up can be an eye-opener.

If TV has taught me anything, it's that being on a break doesn't mean you can sleep with the coffee girl....so don't do that if you want to stay together...

Although...you ARE on a break...

This guy here is a complete newbie to the threads, yet he summed up great advice perfectly. I would say follow this strategy. And, of course, if you really do love her, don't EVER let her go.

Seriously, if she and her parents are worried about you not getting a good job, due to school, they are probably not the smartest... unless of course you are studying something pointless like an arts degree.. which kinda gives you nothing..
Just finish school whenever, if she hastles you about it, about when you're going to get a job, and what forth, ask her whether she actually cares, or if it's just her parents who want to know.
It's your life, you need to finish school, so you can get a better job, seriously, unless you have experience, you can't get any good jobs. like, where i live, ALL the jobs around here are asking for experience, and nobody has any.. and you either go to school to learn it, or actually experience it..
Basically, if they are hounding you, tell them to either lay off or stop all together, you are aiming to get a good job.

Ask her if she still loves you, and tell her you still love her a lot. And that you are working towards getting a better job, and to give you time. If she is really worried, just get a casual job, so you have some money to last you.

I had another idea in my head, but the below statement will tell you why i forgot.. >.> musics and i'm forgetful anyway

if any of that didn't make sense, it's cause my gf is trying to ask me questions for her work, and i'm slowly forgetting what you said >< also, my education summary was based on australian uni education, so if it's completely different to american college... eh..

I know this may be a little harsh but this person is not worth it in my opinion. At 21 you shouldn't have to be thinking of two people and of settling down, such ideas only lead to the ruining of dreams,lives,and most importantly the talent of our country's youth. As I said this may be a little harsh but I truly feel this needs to be said, you don't REALLY love her, if you had you would have already stumbled further and probably closed all doors to a prosperous future.Only a fool commits this early and saying that giving up on school or slowing down to part time will only stagnate you even more towards damnation, as fast as that malignant tumor you call your "love". That filler on what she likes what you likes plays a part but really as I stated before if you really loved her you would care more about and focus on how she's changed(which she shouldn't if she's such a laid out person). Also to point out, how is she not being a child? In this desperate time your walking blindly and obviously not hand in hand towards a fragment of the American dream except it's near impossible with your current situation. Just to keep this from being any bigger of a wall of text I'm going to say this in finality: after these two weeks I hope you see how worthless this is, she's not the same as she use to be and never will be, your not going to change as you actually have potential that she and her dreams never had.

It's quite amazing, how similar my situation is to that game catherine. whatever happens, i still have to wait 2 weeks and now I have nothing to do because I just got out of summer school. Maybe I can work on painting some new crap and stuff (yes I go to school for a useless art degree! probably that's why she wants me to get a job). What I think she is going to realize is that it is her family that frustrates her and that it is not me. either way she still just tossed me to the side instead of working together to talk this out. So I don't know where our relationship will be 2 weeks from now.

Sounds like she's falling out of love with you. Unless she gets burned hard by another guy, or something else happens that makes her very insecure...she's going to want her space. Just let her have her space and see someone else in the meantime. The more you push, the further you're going to drive her away.

Darkhilt summed what i'd forgotten up exactly. :D

But yeah, work towards getting a better job, take your time, get a casual job for the meantime, so you can at least afford some food and rent and whatnot..

But yeah, she doesn't sound worth it imo, people hide their true nature when you first date, so it seems like she has slowly changed back to how she used to be..
i'd say it's not worth it, you should look at finding somebody else...

After two weeks of going out again we decided finally to break up today. The truth is it really is nobodies fault. People are constantly changing and growing, we just grew apart. Her and I both realized we love each other but we are no longer in love with each other. I'm sad right now but at the same time I feel relieved because we both have not been happy for a while. Maybe in a couple months or years we can be friends again but as of right now it would be to painful for me and her to hang out.