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Yeah, looking scrawny works too: they seem safer sometimes.
If you're too bulky, imo, you only get the gals looking for arm candy.
But don't fall OUT of shape either, just don't push it. Keep good hygiene, have confidence around women, and be yourself. It should work eventually.
If you're too bulky, imo, you only get the gals looking for arm candy.
But don't fall OUT of shape either, just don't push it. Keep good hygiene, have confidence around women, and be yourself. It should work eventually.
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For some girls, the kind of guy they date follows whatever's "trendy" or "popular" at the moment. They like to tote their men like they do their designer bags.
But don't stress it man. Take a step back and ask yourself, do you really want to be dating that kind of girl? Despite what you may be seeing around yourself, all you need is to be yourself. Figure out who you are, what you enjoy, and have confidence in it. Above all, girls like a man who is secure and who they can see themselves having fun with.
PS: Don't get too jacked. Dudes that are too ripped can be a turn off too.
But don't stress it man. Take a step back and ask yourself, do you really want to be dating that kind of girl? Despite what you may be seeing around yourself, all you need is to be yourself. Figure out who you are, what you enjoy, and have confidence in it. Above all, girls like a man who is secure and who they can see themselves having fun with.
PS: Don't get too jacked. Dudes that are too ripped can be a turn off too.
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not all people's preference is the same and there is no definite formula for what girls like.
seems to me that you just asked the wrong girl at the wrong time of your life, try getting to know them more or something before asking them out. Don't ask them out because "you want a gf and you want it fast reasoning".
keeping your muscles well built and not too bulky is the best imo, as what the above said.
seems to me that you just asked the wrong girl at the wrong time of your life, try getting to know them more or something before asking them out. Don't ask them out because "you want a gf and you want it fast reasoning".
keeping your muscles well built and not too bulky is the best imo, as what the above said.
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It's a matter of what a girl is looking for. It may be the looks, the things you do, or how you behave generally. People make a solid opinion out of your first impression, and that's where they will look for the traits they want.
I don't think girls should be herded together as some kind of stereotype, and statistics should not matter anyways. If you're bending over backwards trying to match the statistic, you're not being yourself and that is ultimately destructive of a relationship. Now I'm not saying that you shouldn't pursue a girl you like, just know that it's never really known whether or not she likes you back at first glance.
I don't think girls should be herded together as some kind of stereotype, and statistics should not matter anyways. If you're bending over backwards trying to match the statistic, you're not being yourself and that is ultimately destructive of a relationship. Now I'm not saying that you shouldn't pursue a girl you like, just know that it's never really known whether or not she likes you back at first glance.
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Awww negative rep, oh well guess thats what a confused guy gets for asking :T
But thanks for the advice just nice to get a girls side view on this, but seems like most of you agree on the not too bulky thing so i'll keep that in mind, and the being my self thing of course.
But thanks for the advice just nice to get a girls side view on this, but seems like most of you agree on the not too bulky thing so i'll keep that in mind, and the being my self thing of course.
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its all about personality with females, looks dont play as big a factor for them as it does for us, for the most part anyway, if you aproach a girl and are already not confident in yourself they can since that, yet you can be 280 pounds and bald but if your confident and have a nice personality the women will come. that and time and place plays a part too dont go activily seeking female attention that can be a bit creepy just be yourself and you will attract the girls that like you for you
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Nashrakh
Little White Butterflies Staff
Fireyrage wrote...
Awww negative rep, oh well guess thats what a confused guy gets for asking :TI think it's more like you hit a bullseye there for some butthurt user, haha.
Actually, I kind of observed a change in trends too. I once talked about this with my brother who is much more socially active as me (he's totally an In kid, so...), and he confirmed my thoughts; the trend goes towards skinny guys for whatever reason.
I can see why women would be attracted to muscular men for reasons that would stem from basic instincts, I have no clue what to think about them skinny dudes though.
But I concur with the others, you wouldn't really want to associate yourself with shallow people like that anyway, I hope.
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Nashrakh wrote...
Fireyrage wrote...
Awww negative rep, oh well guess thats what a confused guy gets for asking :TI can see why women would be attracted to muscular men for reasons that would stem from basic instincts, I have no clue what to think about them skinny dudes though.
Thats so true being that it was my first post and all ;_;
And I would have to say that Television is to blame for the skinny dudes
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Fireyrage wrote...
Thats so true being that it was my first post and all ;_;And I would have to say that Television is to blame for the skinny dudes
So by the time I was 18 I had the tickets to the gun show, the six pack, the BOOM BOOM FIREPOWER!, the whole package, you know all that good stuff. So by then I was feeling pretty good about myself and decided to give asking girls out another shot, but was instantly shot down with big fat NO's. And then i noticed that there were a lot more scrawnier guys getting girlfriends during this time. And when i say scrawny i mean like long greasy hair, skinny jeans, punk, junky scrawny. And they didn't have good personalities either.
WAHH HOW COME GUYS DON'T LIKE DISFIGURED MUTATED FISH-FACED GIRLS ;_;
I WOULD HAVE TO SAY IT MUST BE TELEVISION TO BLAME FOR THE ATTRACTIVE GIRLS.
WAHH I BENT OVER BACKWARDS TO TURN MYSELF INTO THE SILLY JOCK STEREOTYPE I DREAMED UP AND NOW THOSE DAMN GIRLS WON'T SWOON ALL OVER ME. HOW DARE THEY.
tl;dr: iron-pumper's remix of Nice Guy's Elegy
Nashrakh - and you talk about some other user being butthurt?
Tempted to say I've rarely read such a slew of self-righteous, whiny butthurt, but that'd be a lie as that has been the tune of the typical whiny nerd rant around these parts since day one. As deserved a -rep as I ever saw one.
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Women go out with scum like that for many reasons. Here's a few I know of:
1) They want to change them. Because if they can do that, it means they're somehow powerful. Being capable of changing the very core of a person means you can do a whole damn lot and it's a powerful feeling.
2) Their fathers were assholes. So they date assholes. This kinda ties in to the first reason. If they can control these assholes, then it means something to them. It means, even if it's just a little bit, that they can control their father who once treated them bad. And that's also why they go for so many guys. Once they control them, the goal is reached and the guy isn't "exciting" anymore.
3) They think guys like that are more manly. And they think they need a manly man. Mostly because of television and music videos.
That's the things I know.
1) They want to change them. Because if they can do that, it means they're somehow powerful. Being capable of changing the very core of a person means you can do a whole damn lot and it's a powerful feeling.
2) Their fathers were assholes. So they date assholes. This kinda ties in to the first reason. If they can control these assholes, then it means something to them. It means, even if it's just a little bit, that they can control their father who once treated them bad. And that's also why they go for so many guys. Once they control them, the goal is reached and the guy isn't "exciting" anymore.
3) They think guys like that are more manly. And they think they need a manly man. Mostly because of television and music videos.
That's the things I know.
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Again, the trend these days is for skinny guys because they seem less of a threat.
In today's world, women are taught to steer clear of guys who look like they have the ability to beat them up. Or at least in my experience...
In today's world, women are taught to steer clear of guys who look like they have the ability to beat them up. Or at least in my experience...
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I don't want to sound cliché, but the secret for getting women is: be yourself.
But that's a lesson you learn with time.
But that's a lesson you learn with time.
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Brittany
Director of Production
Never had this kind of an issue. I've always been attracted to the same type of guy.
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Nashrakh
Little White Butterflies Staff
THE ECONOMY wrote...
Nashrakh - and you talk about some other user being butthurt?
Tempted to say I've rarely read such a slew of self-righteous, whiny butthurt, but that'd be a lie as that has been the tune of the typical whiny nerd rant around these parts since day one. As deserved a -rep as I ever saw one.
lol, no way am I gonna read all of that. Major wall of text right there and I think I don't need to read it to know what it's all about.
But... yeah, I haven't been around this subsection of the forums for long, so I haven't seen stuff like that yet, haha.
I think there's a certain irony behind the whole going-after-trends though... once you're there, you're out. :|
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Maybe all the girl you are trying to hit are the type who put looks over personality/skill/wealth,etc.
just try to approach different kind of girl,maybe you will produce better result
just try to approach different kind of girl,maybe you will produce better result
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It's all about attraction. if the guy fits what the girl wants or peaks her interest in one or more ways. other than that it's just randomness lol
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Personally, I find tall and muscly guys to be intimidating, though hot, but mostly intimidating. I wouldn't want a guy any smaller than me, but a little taller or the same height would be nice.
As for the punk rocker dude or whatever: if you're not hygienic and walk around with ripped pants and greasy hair, I am not going to like you, period. Maybe some girls like it because of the whole adventurous and dangerous aura, but I'm not into that. It all depends on who you're dealing with.
As for the punk rocker dude or whatever: if you're not hygienic and walk around with ripped pants and greasy hair, I am not going to like you, period. Maybe some girls like it because of the whole adventurous and dangerous aura, but I'm not into that. It all depends on who you're dealing with.
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Fireyrage wrote...
So when i was younger i was that one shy kid in the background that didn't really speak much. I was a sort of observer and i noticed that girls would flock toward the guys that were taller and more built. And when ever i tried to approach a girl they would just ignore me. So as time pasted and i got into high school. I started to get more taller and more built, but yet there were still more built guys and still the ladies would ignore me for them. So i decided to devote most of my time into working out and just getting more muscles. So by the time I was 18 I had the tickets to the gun show, the six pack, the BOOM BOOM FIREPOWER!, the whole package, you know all that good stuff. So by then I was feeling pretty good about myself and decided to give asking girls out another shot, but was instantly shot down with big fat NO's. And then i noticed that there were a lot more scrawnier guys getting girlfriends during this time. And when i say scrawny i mean like long greasy hair, skinny jeans, punk, junky scrawny. And they didn't have good personalities either.
So i started to question why. Why would girls go out with people like that?
I don't know, so if you ladies would be so kind as to answer what does a guy need get a chance? :( of course guys can answer too if they would like.
What you say here makes me lose respect for you as a human being. You devoted all your time to working out so you could "get women". The reason why you got shot down is most likely because you though "I have muscles and now i'm sterotypical jock how can they resist me!". Then you seem to insult these "scrawny" people merely because they have a girlfriend when you do not.
Start living your own life. If you build your hobbies and such around that of getting a girlfriend then you're a very sad person.
