Proper and Improper Relationships

(First I would like to say hi! I just joined and wanted to make a good first impression)

Partly meaning with a Girlfriend/Boyfriend but my question is mainly the diffrence between your family and your friends.

For me its a completely diffrent thing, Friends are poeple I can openly talk to, randomly rave on-and-on with, and if needed, yell at and poke fun of without no feelings ever even being scratched. Although with my family, its talking proper, its always saying "Thank you" and helping out with anything without a question.

Its how my father and mother were raised and its how they raised me. But, years back, i remember going to a friends house and being amazed at how he talked to his mother (although its nothing compared to todays kids) he ask her to wait for him to clean up his room, and openly just talk about (what I *would* of considered) personal-ish kinda stuff.

So what my question is, Do you have any friend-type of relationship with your parents? Do you treat your family diffrent from freinds?


(Not saying anything bad about how i was raised, of course i had a reble-phase, but i learned it didn't get me anything.)

I don't like anyone in my family so i talk to my mom or dad like i would talk to anyone else i knew. If they piss me off i'll say fuck you or fuck off, kiss my ass ect ect like i would tell my friends or some random asshole on the street..

Wow. You're taking this seriously, aren't you? Don't forget to introduce yourself in the Meet and Greet forum.

To answer your question:
Most of my family are like close friends to me, so I feel pretty comfortable with them, and can talk about pretty much anything.

Until I get to know someone that well, though, it's natural to be more proper, more polite.

Lastly, I must say, I'm still looking forward to the day I find a true soul-mate of a friend, one who completely understands me. Hope I'll find that someone.

We all have different personalities around people who have different meanings to us.

It's just the natural way we act.

As for proper or improper, that can be pretty subjective.

When I think of my family, I think of my mom's family. I never really see my dad's side of the family anymore, and my immediate family is just my mom and my sister, so I always think of my family as everyone up to my grandparents on my mom's side. Really the only people in my family that I have a very formal relationship with is my grandparents. I've just never been close to them at all. But I'm comfortable with the rest of my family as long as we don't talk about anything too serious. And even then it's not a problem with my comfort, it's a problem with their's. It's not an issue of trust with my family so much as it is an issue of how little they relate to me, and how little they really know about me. I live several states away from my family, and I don't talk to them very often now, but even when I was younger, I never talked to my family much about myself. Which is probably at least part of the reason we aren't close now, and when I do talk to them or see them, it's all mostly superficial stuff. I also tend to have a different way of thinking and different opinions about mostly everything, so my relationship with any member on my family is based almost entirely on the fact that they are blood relation. Although, as it happens, drunks run in the family, so many of my family members also have that bond with me.

So basically, with most of my family I can relax and be myself, and we just don't talk about certain things, mostly religion and politics. But I'm not terribly close to any of them, except my sister. We went through a lot of the same shit growing up and she understands the way I think a lot better than anyone else in my family.

tl;dr my family is cool and everything, but outside of my sister, they don't really know shit about me.

You could make a good impression by posting your topics in the right forums.

https://www.fakku.net/viewforum.php?f=74

Mod Note: Moved to the Love, Romance and Relationship section. After all, family and friends are considered relations too.

Sorry for the inconvenience caused.

Getting back to the topic of family, parents have different methods of raising their own children. Some may allow their children to have lots of freedom, while others may be very strict. Personally, I would like to believe that communication between parents and children is the most important factor in developing close kinship.

People usually treat their family and friend different from each other. I understand that their are things you only tell you friend or feel more comfortable talking to them about, but when you think about it there are also things that you also feel more comfortable talking to family about than to your friends about.

My parents both have major control issues, so they were more like my boss than family. i've had a few friends that were more like family than my blood relations.

I'm pretty introvert around my family....around friends I can be more open.