Save it, or let it crumble?

This is one of my best friend's story.

My friend and her husband has been married for a year. But then her husband cheated on her. She was really furious at the time, but she decided that she wants to forgive. But i know that she can never forget. The husband was really remorseful, and he cut ties with the other woman once and for all.

Now, after 3 months of the incident, she is starting to cheat as well. Maybe deep down she wants payback. He hasn't know this yet. But i know that once he does, all hell will break lose. Their marriage is in jeopardy.

I have an option of either 1) try to stop my friend, 2) to avoid his husband from knowing, or 3) just let things be. My other friends who knew this said, maybe they just aren't meant to be.

And one more thing. She never listens to anybody. This make things way harder.

What do you think should i do? Do i have any other options?

It's not your choice to make. It's their relationship, and interfering in something like this simply isn't healthy on your part. It's, to put it bluntly, not your problem.

You can advise your friend all you want, but she will do what she's going to do, regardless.

To save yourself from stress, I would probably let the friend know that you simply can't just stand there and watch the events unfold, knowing what she's doing. Ask for some space, maybe not hang out with them for a while. Ask her to call you when she's done the right thing.

Just speak your mind and stay out of it. Trust me, not only is there nothing you can do, there's nothing you SHOULD do either.

As much as it's probably well out of line, if I were in your position, I'd step in and tell her to stop, and either end things with him, or just get over it. And I'd probably threaten to tell him if she went through with it. Cause as much as he did it to her, doing it in revenge is just stupid.
As I said; as out of line as it is, if she didn't stop, i'd tell him, and take him away for a bit to try calm him down. then get him to just end it. If they both have cheated, there's no point them being in a relationship.

Granted, I'm not siding with him, I just think it's stupid. On both sides.

Tell her what you think about it, then back off and let her make the choice. It's all you can do.


It looks like she's trying to get payback for what he did, as you said. If this pointscoring continues it'll only lead to the marriage's destruction. As forgiving him doesn't seem to be an option right now, she either needs to be rid of him or get over it. Either way, the cheating needs to stop.

Just tell her if she cheats it will be the end of her marriage.

After that just let things be. Do absolutely nothing else to help her.

It's their relationship, not yours. Even if she's your friend.

Thanks guys for your replies.

Well, I can't just leave her to it in the first place anyway. So, I talked to her. That's the best i could do, i guess.

She told me that she is herself confused. She wants to forgive, but at the same time, suspects that he is still cheating. I told her that even so, she should not do the same thing, or the marriage would just be meaningless. When i left her to make her own decision, she gave me a hint that she might not love her husband anymore..

Sigh, i guess things will end up bad in the end.

You can only really hope she does the right thing and breaks it off before she does something she regrets

No offence, but this was all doomed from the moment he first cheated.

Agreed. There's really nothing you could have done for them, even when trying to be a great friend.
Try not to dwell on it. You're robbing yourself of time and energy by doing so.

Non taken. I agree. Cheating in real life and in manga is totally different, right.

Eh. Even in manga, repercussions can be portrayed. The real difference between real life and manga is that you're the spectator in one, and the victim in the other.