Sooooo no one here knows me but yea....

So never introduced myself but my name is Chris n im 21. I am married with my wife who i been with for about 9 years(yea i kno when you do the math). Married for 3 years. I just got hit with the im not doing anything wrong but its just not working = \...my world is chaos idk what to do hopin maybe some wiser folks on here with some words of wisdom. Something, idk its not official im just hurting a lot and this is the only place i cud think of writing atm...every1 is working etc. etc. If you read thx if you dont read then w/e thx anyway...see ya

Well, first off, I can't help but say...despite you two being together so long, getting married at such a young age is a big risk.
Couples who get married at young ages are more likely to get divorced.

I don't know what advice to give you. Maybe ask her if there is any way to work it out? :/
It must be rough for you to go through.
Goodluck.

yea the age thing def comes up. We talk all the time which is why i am completely blindsided. Sucks so much

Hard to help someone if they essentially go "I HAZ PROBLEM! HELP!"

Need more detail than just that about the situation.

Well, marriage is the leading cause of divorce...

Well, if you were childhood friends with your wife, its kinda hard to take it any further beyond that. That is probably the reason why its not working.

Maybe something happened recently to scare her or make her uncomfortable. The best advice I could give to you is to talk one on one with no distractions. That or maybe you're not having enough sex :/

Speak to a lawyer because she's probably cheating on you. That is a tell tale sign.

I thought the tell tale sign of cheating is when she, out of nowhere, starts getting suspicious and accusing you of cheating?

Both are tell tale signs of cheating.

The tell tale sign of cheating is if you see them having sex with someone else.

Or when she starts mentioning the names of men you don't know out of nowhere.

Well, besides stating the obvious of marrying early. I have to ask "Why?" did you get married at such an early age? I can understand that you are in love and whatnot, but it isn't easy since it is one of the most important if not, the most important decision of your life.

I would suggest trying to talk to your wife and see what is up, you guys should go out somewhere, relax and have fun or something.

Any noticeable differences you noticed after you two got married? Did you guys communicate a lot back then and still do?

Yea without all the information it would seem as she is cheating. Fact is she just truly feels like she was ending up in the same situation as her mother and she hated it. Sex aint the issue btw = P, we still have sex haha. She just claims she needs her space which i hate because we are married and i think we should go through this together. BUt imma use this time to get my money right get back in school and finish. Only 21 and young has a lot to do with it. Reason i can understand so much is i was raised in a very structured environment growin up (some bullshit) but definately a lot of this is just wanting to be young. I keep tellin her we gave that up when we decided to have a kid at 18.

My.fucking.face.when.

Go see a marriage counselor. Don't do anything before that.

Why marry a childhood friend?

It's not really the age, more of the maturity and responsibility.

Now ask your self, are you responsible?

What makes you think you two did was right in the first place?

Communication is the most important thing in a relationship, and definitely in a marriage. It's better to be completely honest with your feelings and talk it out. It's ok to not want to be together constantly, obviously people need their individual space even if they're together, but you need to be open, even if it's about a negative subject.

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I'd say that this is the best advice so far, I believe that there are few things that are better than sitting down and talking it out with an unbiased third party who can offer a more objective point of view.

Your 21. Just be happy she didn't leave you when you turned, like 30 or 40.